Re: Question for Realtors

50Mickey · ‎05-21-2010

I don't agree with this but I know many parents feel like once a child graduates from college or turns 21 they should be able to move out on their own with no help from the parents. This is his first time finding an apartment on his own and signing a lease. If his mom wants to help him a little so what? Next time he will have the knowledge to do this for himself.

Desert Lily · ‎06-24-2011

@beach-mom Some realtors are also in the business of property management. They receive 10-20% of the monthly rent from the owner of the property as their fee. They may also receive a finder's fee. Your son may have a credit check, security deposit, and an extra fee if he has any pets. The current cost of rentals is exceptionally high. I hope he has very good luck in finding something he likes; he's already lucky to have caring parents like you.

Janey2 · ‎06-07-2010

Wow! He is your child and you can always help. If it were a friend doing something for the first time and asked for help I am sure all of you would be happy to help with a situation. Everything you do for the first time can be hard. Help whenever possible.

TurnerGal · ‎11-21-2017

@Janey2 wrote:
Wow! He is your child and you can always help. If it were a friend doing something for the first time and asked for help I am sure all of you would be happy to help with a situation. Everything you do for the first time can be hard. Help whenever possible.

@Janey2 Yes I agree, it is "OK " to help your son with his first apartment or the first time he is buying a house. My son graduated from college and needed an apartment with two new graduates and I went with him and pointed out things he would not have realized. He ended up with a really nice apartment that he is happy with. The landlord was a little leary renting to three young college boys but I think because she saw the parents she was more ready to rent to them. Apartments where he lives goes very fast. They sometimes have 10 people on a list to help.

If your son is still asking for help in 5 or ten years that is a problem, but helping now is good parenting.

Tessa Mendoza · ‎01-27-2020

@ beach-mom - Your son is not experienced in apartment hunting and all that goes along with it. No reason you can't lend a hand and give advice. I would (and have) do the same. He's still your baby and will not need help forever.

Citrine1 · ‎03-09-2010

@Cats3000 wrote:
Landlord never told him the apartment was rented? He's learned at least one lesson in life. Some businessmen care; others don't.

Your son is old enough to look for an apartment? Will the realtor charge a commission? Why doesn't he ask the realtor that question?

Let him function on his own.

Completely rude and unnecessary response.

Citrine1 · ‎03-09-2010

@beach-mom Sheesh, you ask a simple question and end up with a lecture on parenting skills. I know, I should be used to such responses by now.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@50Mickey wrote:
@Sooner,
I don't agree with this but I know many parents feel like once a child graduates from college or turns 21 they should be able to move out on their own with no help from the parents. This is his first time finding an apartment on his own and signing a lease. If his mom wants to help him a little so what? Next time he will have the knowledge to do this for himself.

@50Mickey That's what I said. He should research the issue and sit down with mom to see if he has missed anything. And yes I do believe when you are 21 it's time to grow up. You aren't a kid or a child any more.

Mommy shouldn't have to hold your hand or sign for you.

Greeneyedlady21 · ‎01-06-2015

@Citrine1 wrote:
@beach-mom Sheesh, you ask a simple question and end up with a lecture on parenting skills. I know, I should be used to such responses by now.

Yes, that's how it goes on these forums. Lots of perfect experts on other people's lives.

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