Re: Question About Gender Reveal Party

Yardlie · ‎03-10-2010

I would not bring a gift to a gender reveal party. Every generation changes, but it just seems the millennials really want a lot of attention when they have a baby. My nephew and his wife just had a baby. They had a gender reveal party. They live far away, so we did not attend.

Now, they are on Lifecake...a social media site. It is probably safer than Facebook, as the only people who can see photos of their child are people who are invited by them to join Lifecake. I get the security concerns, but we had to change our email address twice since the baby was born as they are just inundating our box with pictures of the new baby. She is adorable, and I know that young mothers and fathers take loads of photos. However, if you get invited to join Lifecake, make sure you start a new email box just for it, as we get hundreds of photos, and it is difficult to change your email address. You can't just change it yourself. You have to contact the company and go through a process to change it.

Then, DH and I sent one very nice gift. My mother (who lives with us) wanted to send her own gift as the Great Grandma. Yes...we did get a thank you, which we should probably be grateful for because many times younger people don't thank people anymore. What we received was a photo of the baby with commercial printing on the back that just said, "Thank you for your generous gift." Also...it was addressed to both DH, me and Great Grandma. My mother was offended that she did not receive her own thank you. I just threw up my hands and declared that "At least they sent some sort of thank you" ... which is more than we have received from other relatives. Generations change, I guess. These are two very highly educated professionals. They had a wedding that cost $2 million (her Dad paid), so they must know what is considered appropriate for their generation. IDK. I give up trying to figure out and follow the new etiquette.

A kind gesture can reach a wound that only compassion can heal. ~~ Steve Maraboli

Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@bri20 wrote:
@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@bri20 wrote:
Nobody is required to bring a gift for any occasion. I can't believe how bent out of shape people get at having a get together to announce something so happy and joyous.
@bri20

Having a baby is "happy and joyous" ..... the gender, not so much.

We all already know there's a 50/50 chance it will either be a boy ... or a girl. No need to have a party over it.
You're entitled to express your thoughts on the situation

You are entitled to not go to a gender reveal if you ever get invited to one.

You are not entitled to make a judgment about whether people should have a party or not for any occasion. You don't have to go. You don't have to buy a gift. You don't have to celebrate in any way whatsoever.
@bri20

Of course I can have an opinion on something so ridiculous. If you have a different opinion, fine. Clearly these were thought up by people who just have WAY too much time on their hands. JMO

Clearly, it isn't "ridiculous" to the parents who want to share the joy with close family and friends.

colliegirls · ‎05-13-2012

@Plaid Pants2 wrote:
@colliegirls wrote:
Aside from very close family members, does anyone else care if the baby is a boy or a girl?????

And that's who the "party" is for, very close family and friends to share in the happiness.

Geeze, what is so terrible about that?

It's like people should be ashamed that they are bringing a new life in to the world, the way some people carp about it.

The ones I have been to or known about were not just close family members. All I ever want for everyone is a healthy baby. It is fun to know if you are the grandparent or family member who will buy lots of items for the baby, otherwise, it doesn't matter what they have.

Cats3000 · ‎10-07-2013

I wouldn't go. I wouldn't even respond. And, I'd probably drop the sender from my list of friends, if the person was on my list of friends.

Cats3000 · ‎10-07-2013

I'm not sure that's what the party is about. I suspec it's a "coming-out-of-the-closet" party.

Imadickens · ‎06-15-2016

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@Imadickens wrote:
Why not? If the mama wants to make a big deal out of it, you might as well help! It would be fun to find a gift that has both pink and blue interchangeable parts! ( I got a picture frame once that the "mat" came with a pink and blue one). I wouldn't go overboard, you'll need a baby present, Christening or bris (if it's a boy, that is!) gift, then first birthday....
@Imadickens

Or maybe someone needs to help mama keep things in perspective? What is wrong with people?

Assuming the parents-to-be bothered to get married, there has already been bridal showers, wedding gifts, baby showers ... and now a "gender reveal party". It's NOT all about her, all of the time. Women have had babies every day since the beginning of time, and this is just another lousey gift grab. JMO

Well, my original intent was to say it "toungetongue in cheek" but I got carried away with the gift. I hoped the message would come through at the end! Some people do need it to be about them all the time! But, hey, if they can pull it off, good for them! But no one should feel obligated to go along...unless she wants to!

Never underestimate the power of kindness.

Vivian · ‎03-11-2010

At first, in my dirty mind, I thought the title of the thread referred to something like I'll-show-you-mine-if-you-show-me-yours, or some sort of post surgical transgender reveal. Then I realized it was about babies. This was all before I opened the link (LOL). I have nothing against parties of this nature but there should be either this type of party OR a baby shower, certainly not both. When my daughters were pregnant they told me the gender as soon as they found out but they didn't tell me the names they had chosen until after the baby was born.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@Cats3000 wrote:
I wouldn't go. I wouldn't even respond. And, I'd probably drop the sender from my list of friends, if the person was on my list of friends.

@Cats3000

Yes, it comes across as someone just desperate for attention .... you already know the young mom to be has already documented not only the pregnancy test stick on Facebook, but reports of every single fart or burb since then!!! Too much information!!! Also can't help but be concerned why someone so immature is starting a family. yikes!

To go so far as to need a PARTY to announce the baby's gender is obviously a gift grab and a need for more attention. Why isn't Facebook the way to go? And where is an older mother figure's voice of reason telling this person that she's not the only person to ever have a baby? Oi vey.

shoekitty · ‎03-10-2010

@tends2dogs wrote:
@Venezia wrote:
Well, this is a new one on me! When I first read the thread title, I honestly thought "What the heck is that? Now they're having parties where everyone reveals his or her gender?" (I guess I've been hearing too much news about the transgender issue.)

Never heard of anyone in my part of the world having a party to reveal the gender of a baby. What next???
Maybe who the father is??? Just kidding, but you never know.