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On 3/11/2014 tansy said: I'm conflicted on the issue, Marp, but I do not think this would be the particular battle I'd choose to fight for my son.

I can't think of a better one. What is better to fight for than individual rights? If the mother doesn't allow her son to take his choice of bags to school she telling him that there is something wrong with his choice and by extension, him. Is that the message a mother should give her son?

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On 3/11/2014 occasional rain said:
On 3/11/2014 tansy said: I'm conflicted on the issue, Marp, but I do not think this would be the particular battle I'd choose to fight for my son.

I can't think of a better one. What is better to fight for than individual rights? If the mother doesn't allow her son to take his choice of bags to school she telling him that there is something wrong with his choice and by extension, him. Is that the message a mother should give her son?

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My youngest has never heard of the male version of My Little Pony.

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On 3/11/2014 SydneyH said:

My youngest has never heard of the male version of My Little Pony.

My understanding is that ""bronies"" are young men in their 20s...
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Bronies are adult fans! Somebody forgot to Google.
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On 3/11/2014 RainCityGirl said:

Here's the deal. Kids can be mean and brutal. While the pony bag may be the boy's choice du jour, he many have to rethink rainbows and ponies. To me, it's like wearing a neon sign that says "Kick me." I know it's not right and it's the other kids, not him, but sometimes, you just have to take the path of least resistance in order to be free of harassment. I don't know all the details regarding the school's handling of this. I would assume that the parents of the bullies were brought into it, but maybe not. Kids get picked on for a variety of reasons, some of it not their fault, and some of it fomented by them. Chances are he also gets bullied about his name and possibly by how he behaves in social situations. Just a guess. At any rate, even if the school took drastic action, that doesn't guarantee he wouldn't still be bullied...off campus, of course. As I said....kids are vicious and cruel at times, and anything this boy can do to diminish the attacks would contribute to a more pleasant environment for him.

do you feel boys and girls in high school should also hide their sxuality for fear of being beaten by bully homophobic kids?
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If people took the path of least resistance women wouldn't have the right to vote and we'd still have slavery in this country.

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On 3/11/2014 occasional rain said:

If people took the path of least resistance women wouldn't have the right to vote and we'd still have slavery in this country.

And we'd be speaking German.
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On 3/11/2014 betteb said:

Noreen, "saying a lunchbox is a trigger for bullying, is like saying a short skirt is a trigger for rape. It's flawed logic, it doesn't make any sense."

This pretty much says it all.

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On 3/11/2014 ~moxie~ said:

My grandson is 9 years old. He is always reading and some of the boys bully him for that. They bully him for his scholastic abilities and his interest in science and math. He is a strong young boy and feels sorry for the kids that bully him. He is very comfortable with his nerdiness and tells me that he would have more friends if he dumbed it down but he is what he is and feels no need to change.

Good.

I hope he knows that--while life is difficult for him now--he is preparing himself to be ahead of those bullies in the adult world.



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