Community Chat

[brii]

Have you ever gone to a public memorial and lit a candle or left flowers?

I always get so touched when I see how many people leave flowers or candles or a photo.

I remember the sea of flowers after Diana passed away.

[deepwaterdotter]

Only on Veterans Day. But just a solemn gathering of people at a memorial statue, no items are left.

[151949]

My parents lived in a small town - they were well known and loved. When they were in an accident that killed my Mom some one set up a memorial at the site - flowers candles and teddy bears etc. When it got all gross and moldy and disgusting the person whose yard it was complained to the police who called me - as their next of kin - and said if we did not clean it up we would be fined heavily. We went and cleaned it and it was an awful job. A week or so later it was back. the police called again and I refused. We had not put up one thing there and I was not going to keep going there to clean it up after it was all filthy and moldy and full of worms and bugs. The police kept and eye out and caught the person doing it so that was all we heard of it.

Do any of the people who are putting this Krap out there in the rain and snow etc ever think about the fact that 1, - that is someones property and they probably don't want it there and 2. the poor bereved family is going to have to clean the filthy thing up? Please - if you do this - at least go back in a reasonable amount of time and clean it up yourself.

[loveschocolate]

Years ago, a small family owned supermarket in my area....the owner was robbed and killed. I stopped by, left flowers and a card.....

[Say Nay]

When Steve Jobs died I was walking by the Apple store and wrote a note on a post it and put it on the window. There must have been over a thousand notes on their window.

[Irshgrl31201]

On 1/8/2015 happy housewife said:

My parents lived in a small town - they were well known and loved. When they were in an accident that killed my Mom some one set up a memorial at the site - flowers candles and teddy bears etc. When it got all gross and moldy and disgusting the person whose yard it was complained to the police who called me - as their next of kin - and said if we did not clean it up we would be fined heavily. We went and cleaned it and it was an awful job. A week or so later it was back. the police called again and I refused. We had not put up one thing there and I was not going to keep going there to clean it up after it was all filthy and moldy and full of worms and bugs. The police kept and eye out and caught the person doing it so that was all we heard of it.

Do any of the people who are putting this Krap out there in the rain and snow etc ever think about the fact that 1, - that is someones property and they probably don't want it there and 2. the poor bereved family is going to have to clean the filthy thing up? Please - if you do this - at least go back in a reasonable amount of time and clean it up yourself.

I can honestly say I have never thought of it from this perspective.

[Lipstickdiva]

On 1/8/2015 Irshgrl31201 said:

On 1/8/2015 happy housewife said:

My parents lived in a small town - they were well known and loved. When they were in an accident that killed my Mom some one set up a memorial at the site - flowers candles and teddy bears etc. When it got all gross and moldy and disgusting the person whose yard it was complained to the police who called me - as their next of kin - and said if we did not clean it up we would be fined heavily. We went and cleaned it and it was an awful job. A week or so later it was back. the police called again and I refused. We had not put up one thing there and I was not going to keep going there to clean it up after it was all filthy and moldy and full of worms and bugs. The police kept and eye out and caught the person doing it so that was all we heard of it.

Do any of the people who are putting this Krap out there in the rain and snow etc ever think about the fact that 1, - that is someones property and they probably don't want it there and 2. the poor bereved family is going to have to clean the filthy thing up? Please - if you do this - at least go back in a reasonable amount of time and clean it up yourself.

I can honestly say I have never thought of it from this perspective.

I've always wondered what happened with all the stuff that was left out like that but it never dawned on me the next of kin would have to go clean it all up.

[brii]

On 1/8/2015 happy housewife said:

My parents lived in a small town - they were well known and loved. When they were in an accident that killed my Mom some one set up a memorial at the site - flowers candles and teddy bears etc. When it got all gross and moldy and disgusting the person whose yard it was complained to the police who called me - as their next of kin - and said if we did not clean it up we would be fined heavily. We went and cleaned it and it was an awful job. A week or so later it was back. the police called again and I refused. We had not put up one thing there and I was not going to keep going there to clean it up after it was all filthy and moldy and full of worms and bugs. The police kept and eye out and caught the person doing it so that was all we heard of it.

Do any of the people who are putting this Krap out there in the rain and snow etc ever think about the fact that 1, - that is someones property and they probably don't want it there and 2. the poor bereved family is going to have to clean the filthy thing up? Please - if you do this - at least go back in a reasonable amount of time and clean it up yourself.

That's terrible.

I've seen small ones on the side of the road that have been there for years, it seems.

I'm sure celebrities have someone to make sure that it gets cleaned up in a reasonable amount of time.

[Lipstickdiva]

I know on city property, city employees clean up the sites after awhile. My husband used to work for the department that would have to do that.

[lulu2]

My stepbrother was killed on a well traveled expressway. There was a large memorial for awhile following the accident. Months later his widow received a bill from the highway department for clean-up.