Re: POST-NUPTIAL AGREEMENTS

Caaareful Shopper · ‎10-09-2012

@RetRN I totally agree with you. I think one of the reasons the OP posed the question was to just see what others thought given our own personal experiences or general thoughts on the matter, given the little we could read from her situation in her post. Their final decision remains theirs to decide.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@jaxs mom wrote:
@Spinach wrote:
My husband and I, married now for six months, are working on our trusts. We are in our late fifties. We both came into the marriage with previous assets. I don't believe in pre-nups or post-nups and to me it means you are already planning for a divorce. While preparing his trust his attorney suggested that a post-nuptial agreement be done. While I was preparing my trust with my attorney she suggested the same. I'm against it! Didn't do a pre-nuptial and won't do a post-nuptial. He and I do not have any children.

Would you sign either a pre-nup or post-nup agreement if you were presented with it?

Whatever happened to marriage until death do us part?
Don't take advice from random people on the internet who don't actually know you or your husband.

@jaxs mom

Not being a smart aleck here, but your comment sure sounds like advice to me. lol

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

I would have to disagree with the notion that a pre-nup (or post-nup in this case) means you are planning on getting divorced at some point.

It means that one is realistic and logical-thinking about the impact from future possibilities. Nobody knows that something is going to last forever. If they say they KNOW this, they are lying to themselves to feel more secure. That's fine, if that is what works for them. But it's not reality-based thinking.

I'm not for or against - never been presented with a request for a pre-nup. I think that what is best for one person is not best for another. There are probably as many scenarios as there are people.

If it is something that works for you, then do it. If it doesn't sound like something you want to do, then don't. But if you already have a set opinion on it and even an attorney (or anybody) with your best interests at heart is not going to sway you, you might be engaging in non-reality-based thinking and might want to broaden your spectrum so that you can see the whole picture from an objective POV.

THEN, and only then, one can make the right decision.

ChynnaBlue · ‎05-22-2012

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@MacDUFF wrote:
@Spinach
@Tinkrbl44

I think Tinkr might have been referring to the fact that, generally speaking, men have more wealth than women...? I'm ducking out of here in case I'm way off base and things escalate!

@MacDUFF

That is exactly what I meant.

Nevertheless, there are a LOT of people who thought "divorce isn't an option" that ended up divorced. While it requires TWO people to keep a marriage together, it only takes ONE person to want out and they will refuse to stay, regardless of what the other person wants.

Such a good point!

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MarieIG · ‎03-10-2010

@Spinach If you are not comfortable, don't do it. Certainly don't rush. Feel free to tell the attorneys just put together the trust(s), you need a few months to consider whether you want a post-nup.

Did I do a pre or post nup. No, I didn't (for my marriage).

Do the math.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

Instead of coming here ,isn't this something that the OP & her new husband should sit down and discuss? It seems to me that no one else's opinion should matter in this.

If one or both come to a marriage with assets and one or both have children I think it would be reasonable to want to protect your children's inheritance.

Mj12 · ‎03-09-2010

@151949 wrote:
Instead of coming here ,isn't this something that the OP & her new husband should sit down and discuss? It seems to me that no one else's opinion should matter in this.

She said in her OP that she won't do a post-nup. I'm guessing she was asking what others would do.

12andcounting · ‎03-10-2010

Whatever happened to "till death do us part"? Apparently the same thing that has happened to marriage in general. People don't seem to think it's important or necessary anymore. It's a sad, mixed-up world we live in, in my opinion.

Would I sign a post-nup? Not a chance.

Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

@12andcounting wrote:
Whatever happened to "till death do us part"? Apparently the same thing that has happened to marriage in general. People don't seem to think it's important or necessary anymore. It's a sad, mixed-up world we live in, in my opinion.

Would I sign a post-nup? Not a chance.

Some people should never get married, but they do.

Should someone stay in an unhappy marriage, just because of "till deat do us part"?

Fact is, no matter how hard one or both parties may work at keeping a marriage together, sometimes it is just better for everyone's sake to call it quits.

Winkk · ‎03-15-2010

Congratulations on your marriage. I see that you haven't been posting long but when you ask a question you have to be prepared for answers that might not be agreeable to you.

I would do some research on this matter and get a better idea as to why both attorneys are suggesting this. Good luck.