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[Puzzle Piece]

The saying "Once Upon A Time" really saddens me.  I let my husband know that one day we will part from this earth and our love, our efforts, and our memories will all be just "once upon a time". Our relationship with one another has been passionate and caring.  We've both known love.  But time and the ages won't remember us or even care "once upon a time".   

[Sweetbay magnolia]

True.  And sad.

[Karnerblue]

It's more important and special what you have right now ... in this moment.  It's the now that matters.  Sounds like what you have is something a lot of people long for (myself included).  All I've ever wanted in life was to be loved and cared for.  One special love.  Now that I'm just into my 60s and in a dead-end marriage, I fear I will never know this feeling you share.  Treasure what you have.  Sad is never knowing what YOU have.

[Sweetbay magnolia]

Wow.  Remind me to do something nice for my DH. 

[GingerPeach]

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@Karnerblue wrote:

It's more important and special what you have right now ... in this moment.  It's the now that matters.  Sounds like what you have is something a lot of people long for (myself included).  All I've ever wanted in life was to be loved and cared for.  One special love.  Now that I'm just into my 60s and in a dead-end marriage, I fear I will never know this feeling you share.  Treasure what you have.  Sad is never knowing what you have.

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@Karnerblue  is so, so correct.

The important time is now, not yesterday and not tomorrow.  

[DoneTryin]

Why are you feeling sorry for yourself?  Based on what you wrote, you have more than many people could ever even dream of.  Enjoy it.

[beach-mom]

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@Puzzle Piece wrote:

 But time and the ages won't remember us or even care "once upon a time".   

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Not true! It sounds like you and your husband have more than enough love to spread to others. The people who love you and whose lives you've touched will remember your love. 

My parents didn't have the best marriage and ended up divorced. But my mom's twin sister and her husband had an incredible marriage. Seeing the way they acted around each other, even though geographically they were far from us, really influenced me when I was a young teenager. I would stay with them during the summers, and they really taught me what romantic love and caring should be. I remember that love and the devotion they shared. My children will because I have told them about it. Their children won't remember them at all, but I hope they will still hear the stories. That's all we can ask for! 

[Bellabutterfly]

As my "Slovak" Grandmother use to say to me...

Enjoy each and everyday...Try to make the negative into a positive...Forgive and forget...It is so freeing to one's soul.  Treat everyone with kindness and respect.  Don't forget to smile...Laugh until it hurts...It is your heart singing...We are all here on borrowed time...Make your time count for it is a gift and a lession.  And when the time is right, we shall all meet up again.  

She was a Jewel...A bright and shining Gemstone...I miss her...Each and every day.

[cotton4me]

I was thinking about this the other day. Where I used to work there were plaques on trees and benches honoring people who had retired. I would wonder about them, knowing they’d been gone for so long that no one remembered them. There’s a plaque for me now and I know in time no one will remember me or know who I am. It’s an odd feeling.

I think of all the wonderful people who’ve lived on this earth, fought all kinds of battles, ones we don’t know or hear about. I believe we’re all connected, each doing our part. It all matters. Your life matters.

[Lila Belle]

"Once upon a time" is why doing a family history and researching relatives is so popular.

To keep your memories alive plan time on a holiday or other event to record the sharing of family history, stories, documents and photos with your relatives.