Re: O/T Question about what should I do

NC Bandwagon · ‎05-03-2014

On 9/9/2014 NoelSeven said:
Viva,

I've read all of the posts from you and most of the responses. I want to add my opinion to the same one others have had: you and your DH have done nothing wrong, in fact, you have been most kind to your daughter and her husband, ESPECIALLY in light of the fact that the husband has made it clear he doesn't like you.

I can see either side of going to the event. Either stay home because they have sent such negative messages by way of not speaking to you, or going and seeing how they react to you. I have the feeling you will know which choice is best for you as the event date nears.

They were both thoughtless by asking an older gentleman to babysit that late at night, then have to drive home and go to work. That's too much to ask of him, he could have had an accident from being too tired to drive, or from a blood sugar fluctuation.

I'm so sorry you're under this stress. I have no doubt you are a kind person. I'm just sorry you've been hurt.

This. So much this.

Unfortunately OP, I honestly don't know if you should show up or not. I think that's something that you and your husband would have to decide. Hope things work out for you and hope that your grandkids won't be used as pawns in the future.

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ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

I'm going to ask around, but 'around here', I doubt if employers would ask, last minute, for a mom of three to stay after hours, until 2AM, to supervise floor refinishers. Maybe a male assistant manager, etc. But it would have to be scheduled ahead of time, I'm guessing. Employees have certain rights in my area. And well-deserved, BTW.

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

ivanatrump · ‎06-26-2014

On 9/10/2014 ROMARY said:
I'm going to ask around, but 'around here', I doubt if employers would ask, last minute, for a mom of three to stay after hours, until 2AM, to supervise floor refinishers. Maybe a male assistant manager, etc. But it would have to be scheduled ahead of time, I'm guessing. Employees have certain rights in my area. And well-deserved, BTW.

What difference does it make what happens 'around here'?

The OP stated the circumstances. You are the only poster who doesn't believe the OP's daughter needed to stay while floors were done.

The horse is dead already.

brii · ‎06-20-2010

On 9/10/2014 ROMARY said:
I'm going to ask around, but 'around here', I doubt if employers would ask, last minute, for a mom of three to stay after hours, until 2AM, to supervise floor refinishers. Maybe a male assistant manager, etc. But it would have to be scheduled ahead of time, I'm guessing. Employees have certain rights in my area. And well-deserved, BTW.

Maybe I missed where the OP said that the daughter was asked last minute to stay for the floors being waxed.

Where do you think the daughter was? You seem to be the only one who doesn't believe the daughter wasn't at work while the floors were being waxed.

NC Bandwagon · ‎05-03-2014

To be honest, whether the daughter's story is true or not, and I'm not saying that it's untrue, it seems a bit much to withhold the grandchildren over something small like this. Just my opinion.

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ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Well, I'm only going by my experiences/observations in my area. Certainly, other areas have different employee rights, etc. So, I stand corrected. And somewhere in the O/P, I believe it stated that DD was supposed to return a bit after 11pm, but when DH hadn't called to tell his DW that he was on his way home, and DW called DH, DH said that she (DD) changed the time to returning at 3AM or so. Or something similar. Could be that she knew all along, and that it wasn't last minute. Well, 'Whatever, whatever'. Hopefully all will be well.

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ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Yes, all in all, parents shouldn't withhold grandchildren. Leave the children out of squabbles. Be civilized around children.

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bikerbabe · ‎03-09-2010

I think the issue of the floor waxing has been beaten to death. That's not even the issue.

ivanatrump · ‎06-26-2014

On 9/10/2014 bikerbabe said: I think the issue of the floor waxing has been beaten to death. That's not even the issue.

So true.

There is much more going on between mother and daughter. She stated she raised the children alone while the father was in the service. He is trying to make up for lost time with his grandchildren. He and his daughter have a close relationship.