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[viva923]

DH and I are invited over to our DD-husband house for a gathering on the 20th. Neither child is speaking to us, because we refused to let DH babysit till 2-3a.m. on work night (DH still works full time) 5 days a week.

DH and I are now in our late 60's. The kids called us up late last week begging us to babysit. An emergency came up for DD husband, he had to go out of town for his business and had to leave a.s.a.p. DH and I talked it over, DH told both the kids he could sit , both agreed to DH sitting till 11pm when DD would get home from her work(I was going to stay at home), was in the middle of a project. When 11pm rolled around, DH hadn't called me to let me know he was on his way home. I contacted DH only to be told, our daughter called and let him know he would have to stay till 2-3a.m, the store where she worked was having its floors sanded, waxed and polished. DH had to get up for work (the next day )at 5a.m, to drive to work and work for a full 8-10 hours . DH is NOT retired, he is going to continue to work full time till he feels he can't do it any longer. I called up DD and told her dad had to come home he had to work a full day, she would have to find someone to take over for DH.

Question is:: Do DH and I attend a gathering at DD/and her husband house. Neither kid (DD and her husband) are talking to us. We can no longer see our grandchildren. We have tried numerous times to talk with the kids but they refuse to pick up the phone.

Should we just skip this gathering

[scotttie]

Go to the event.

ETA: They are in the wrong but if you don't go it will just prolong the problem.

[Marp2]

Who issued the invitation? Would not going when you have been invited be worth giving up an opportunity to see your grandchildren?

Only you can decide what is best for you but IMO since you were invited to attend not going, even if being there would be uncomfortable, would only exacerbate an already bad situation.

[qvcfreak]

If the invitation was offered before the baby sitting took place, I would pass but if it was extended after, then I would go.

[lulu2]

I would hope you will bury the hatchet before the 20th.

If I were in your situation, I'd call my daughter and leave a message. (in our case son) You stated an emergency came up. Your husband volunteered to go. It was not a long term commitment.

Personally, I would have put my project aside and helped my daughter. I would have stayed overnight.

[brii]

Why couldn't your husband just stay the night?

I would bury the hatchet and go to the event before it gets worse. I'm sure it put your daughter in an awful predicament trying to find somebody at that time of the night.

[deepwaterdotter]

A simple phone conversation before the event could assuage hurt feelings.

[game-on]

viva.... what an awkward position to be in.... can you text to let her know that you love them but are not up to the tension and need to get this resolved before this? Reaching out to family members to tell them you love them, but have your limitations can help in these kinds of situations. I wish you all the best.

[tansy]

I'd go for the grandkids if nothing else

Why didn't your husband just sleep there for that one night and then go into work?

[LilacTree]

Who invited you?