Community Chat

[Grouchomarx]

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@sidsmom wrote:

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@Grouchomarx wrote:

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@sidsmom wrote:

SPOILER ALERT:

YOU, the user, have 100% control over what you see.

It's not the 'portal'....FaceBook/Twitter/etc.

It's who you choose to associate with. 

Funny to see people make this sweeping declaration saying

Facebook & Twitter is 'toxic'...and I even heard 'cesspool'.

in another thread.  That says more about the user than it does

about the social media platform. 

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I think you are wrong. I have seen when you post something harmless, funny or just plain cute and someone comes for you.  It is not justified and you were not asking for it. So that is an example of how it can be toxic. You put out good energy and get poison in return.  It can come from friends and relatives too.

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Are you talking about the list of friends you have with FB/Twitter/etc?

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Yes, when I had Facebook I had both a family member and a friend initiate some very unkind comments about some harmless (even pleasant) posts and with one of them escalated into a war and I quit Facebook because I was so disappointed with this person's behavior and realized this type of interaction is superficial and not for me.  People can go down a dark hole sometimes.  

[Puppy Lips]

I joined maybe 10 years ago or so.  I thought I was missing out on something.  The first post I saw was from a friend who was bragging that she had just cleaned her garage, complete with photos.  I remember thinking, "This is what I was missing?"

I went to my HS reunion in 2018 and "friended" an old HS acquaintance.  She posted political things that I was totally against and we would bicker back and forth about that.  I "unfriended" her when she started calling me names.  That really disturbed me.

I try to stay off it, but it is hard.  I have purchased things off Facebook ads that I have been pleased abouit and some not so pleased about at all.

What frustrates me too is that you can see something, then when you go back to look for it, it is gone.

I may just get the courage to abandone it all together.  But on the other hand, there are certain friends that I stay in touch with that way.  Ugh.

[QueenDanceALot]

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@Grouchomarx wrote:

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@Nbo wrote:

I gave up Facebook,Twitter in 2017. It was too toxic. 

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I did the same thing!  It was toxic for me. Not healthy in any way.  I do ocassionally feel disconnected from society without any social media.  But really I don't need it.

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@Grouchomarx 

I think that those who spend so much time on social media are the ones who are disconnected from society.

[QVCkitty1]

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@sidsmom wrote:

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@QVCkitty1 wrote:

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@sidsmom wrote:

SPOILER ALERT:

YOU, the user, have 100% control over what you see.

It's not the 'portal'....FaceBook/Twitter/etc.

It's who you choose to associate with. 

Funny to see people make this sweeping declaration saying

Facebook & Twitter is 'toxic'...and I even heard 'cesspool'.

in another thread.  That says more about the user than it does

about the social media platform. 

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@sidsmom , Did you read my post ?  I took responsibility for engaging, and I simply won't  do that anymore. I have seen some of the worst of society represented in SM comments. 

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@QVCkitty1 

Yes, I did.

Curious tho....what is a 'nasty portal?'

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I opened the door by engaging, the whole thing was ugly, but I just had to weigh in, which was stupid. 🤷‍♀️

[phoenixbrd]

@Grouchomarx   I think that can happen on any social media.  We choose who we want to communicate with in most cases.  I don't think anyone is immune to the dark side of the few at times.  I just don't engage myself and move on realizing that it was just a bump in the road and who knows what kind of a day the poster was having.  

[Bird mama]

I had a few facebook friends that were passionate about/against animal cruelty.  I don't abide animal cruelty either however if the person is going to post something graphic, really, give a sister a warning.  I've unfollowed a few of them and unfriended a few others.

[sidsmom]

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@Grouchomarx wrote:

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@sidsmom wrote:

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@Grouchomarx wrote:

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@sidsmom wrote:

SPOILER ALERT:

YOU, the user, have 100% control over what you see.

It's not the 'portal'....FaceBook/Twitter/etc.

It's who you choose to associate with. 

Funny to see people make this sweeping declaration saying

Facebook & Twitter is 'toxic'...and I even heard 'cesspool'.

in another thread.  That says more about the user than it does

about the social media platform. 

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I think you are wrong. I have seen when you post something harmless, funny or just plain cute and someone comes for you.  It is not justified and you were not asking for it. So that is an example of how it can be toxic. You put out good energy and get poison in return.  It can come from friends and relatives too.

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Are you talking about the list of friends you have with FB/Twitter/etc?

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Yes, when I had Facebook I had both a family member and a friend initiate some very unkind comments about some harmless (even pleasant) posts and with one of them escalated into a war and I quit Facebook because I was so disappointed with this person's behavior and realized this type of interaction is superficial and not for me.  People can go down a dark hole sometimes.  

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So.....you quit FaceBook entirely because of one conversation?

With someone you chose to follow?

Odd.

[Krimpette]

I do not have a large list of friends/family.  In my couple of years of doing Facebook, I have never unfriended anyone.  I have, in a couple of cases, elected to not "follow" them any longer, mainly because of their constant political posts.  So I just select "unfollow". I haven't felt the need to totally unfriend them.

[NYCLatinaMe]

I opened a facebook account several years ago at my sister's urging, so I could see pictures of her kids.  I set my account up with all the privacy features I could find, because I didn't want to use it, I just wanted to see the pictures of the kids.  Then one day my sister stopped posting pictures of her kids to protect their privacy, so I had no use for the account.  My sister complained that her friends couldn't find my account to connect with me, she got angry at me and unfriended me.  Then she asked me to log back on and friend her, because she couldn't find my account to friend me again, which I didn't do, I don't even know my password.  So I have a zombie account with no posts and no friends.  All of a sudden, a few months ago, facebook started emailing me asking me to join all kind of odd groups.  I wonder how they come up with them.  So I tried to log in so I could kill my account, but they wouldn't let me change my password.  They wanted me to upload a government issued picture id, which was annoying, I don't want to share that with them.  I have never posted a picture of any kind.  Does anyone know an alternative method to close my account?  I did ask them to stop sending me emails, and they did that.

I appreciate your help!

[AngelPuppy1]

I don't do Facebook.  I have had so many people telling me all this stuff they have heard about mutual people we know -- negative stuff --- and I am just like --- uh, no.  I don't want to be a part of it.  I know there are positive things, such as people keeping in touch with old friends, posting pictures to share, etc.  But as with most things, people have to ruin it by using it for negativity and hurtful things.