Re: My main concern for my child is not that he is... - Page 3

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Is it true that kids are now allowed to use their calculators for math tests? It's a rumor around here, but I'm not sure if it's true, or maybe only certain/some schools, etc.

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

abbeythe 8th · ‎04-17-2010

On 11/13/2014 ROMARY said:
Is it true that kids are now allowed to use their calculators for math tests? It's a rumor around here, but I'm not sure if it's true, or maybe only certain/some schools, etc.

I am a retired math teacher. Our students always used their graphing calculators. High school courses are not about simple calculations. Before calculators we used slide rules and logarithm books.

raven-blackbird · ‎06-03-2010

On 11/13/2014 abbeythe8th said:
On 11/13/2014 ROMARY said:
Is it true that kids are now allowed to use their calculators for math tests? It's a rumor around here, but I'm not sure if it's true, or maybe only certain/some schools, etc.

I am a retired math teacher. Our students always used their graphing calculators. High school courses are not about simple calculations. Before calculators we used slide rules and logarithm books.

using a graphing calculator doesn't mean you don't know it........you still have to know the correct mathematical formula to get the answer...........same with a slide rule..............................raven

We're not in Kansas anymore ToTo

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

I have to say I agree with OP. I never woke up in the morning and thought "how can I make my girls happy today?" The first time I held my precious baby girl in my arms, I did not think "I pray she grows up to be happy". I think it was given that if I took care of all the important things in my girls', happiness would take care of itself. I know the trend in parenting today is to be friends with your kids, to make them happy, to give them everything their little hearts desire, to spare them any and all type of pain, to let them know how special and precious they are. That's not how I raised my girls. I wanted them to grow up to be good people. I wanted my girls to be well educated and self sufficient. I wanted them to think beyond their own lives, to think and care about the world. I wanted them to marry and have familes but I wanted to ensure that they always remained financially self sufficent and never dependant on a man. So, "happiness" often to a back seat to the important things in life. Like studying hard, like helping out around the house, like going to church, like avoiding bad influences. My mom was the one who told me that sometimes, especially with teenagers, you have to say NO. Not because you have a reason, but because kids have to know how to deal with disappointment. They have to know that it's okay if you don't get everything you want. Disappointment is a part of life, you deal with it and move on. Hubby and I worked hard and we gave our girls a good life. But we also made sure they understood the things that were really important in life.

raven-blackbird · ‎06-03-2010

I think it's been the pursuit of making kids happy that has bought about all we've seen in the news lately................we'd all be better off, if we brought our kids up to be WELL ADJUSTED......and armed with the life skills needed to make it in the world...........................................raven

We're not in Kansas anymore ToTo

Plaid Pants · ‎11-03-2014

My parents had a "laid back" approach to raising me. By that, I mean, they were not strict. They respected me, and I, in turn, respected them. They didn't care if my bed was left unmade, or my room was messy. They knew that it was "my" space. I was expected to help out around the house, but on weekends, or vacation days, I could sleep in as late as I wanted. Yes, I had a curfew, which I respected. They didn't order me around like a drill sergeant. We would have open, honest discussions about things, and they valued my opinion. My opinion was just as valuable as theirs.

Now, did I get everything that my little heart desired? No, of course not. Were there arguments? You betcha.

But because of the way that my parents raised me (no formal church going. The decided to let me decide for myself on what to believe spiritually), has led me to be the kind, caring person that I am today.

And while I was growing up, I knew that my parents were my parents, not my friends. I knew that they were there to protect me. But because of that mutual respect that we had for each other then, has led us to become friends now.

VioletEyes · ‎03-12-2010

On 11/13/2014 Plaid Pants said:
My parents had a "laid back" approach to raising me. By that, I mean, they were not strict. They respected me, and I, in turn, respected them. They didn't care if my bed was left unmade, or my room was messy. They knew that it was "my" space. I was expected to help out around the house, but on weekends, or vacation days, I could sleep in as late as I wanted. Yes, I had a curfew, which I respected. They didn't order me around like a drill sergeant. We would have open, honest discussions about things, and they valued my opinion. My opinion was just as valuable as theirs.

Now, did I get everything that my little heart desired? No, of course not. Were there arguments? You betcha.

But because of the way that my parents raised me (no formal church going. The decided to let me decide for myself on what to believe spiritually), has led me to be the kind, caring person that I am today.

And while I was growing up, I knew that my parents were my parents, not my friends. I knew that they were there to protect me. But because of that mutual respect that we had for each other then, has led us to become friends now.

That's a really nice post to read. Smile

I know we all make mistakes raising our children but I think children always feel and know when they are loved unconditionally. And that love is what makes for happy children in most cases.

FUTURE · ‎04-11-2010

My parents raised me much like you are raising your son, and I'll just tell you, I'm a very happy person today!

And educated, and healthy, with good values.

Surfnturf · ‎03-09-2010

On 11/13/2014 Plaid Pants said:
My parents had a "laid back" approach to raising me. By that, I mean, they were not strict. They respected me, and I, in turn, respected them. They didn't care if my bed was left unmade, or my room was messy. They knew that it was "my" space. I was expected to help out around the house, but on weekends, or vacation days, I could sleep in as late as I wanted. Yes, I had a curfew, which I respected. They didn't order me around like a drill sergeant. We would have open, honest discussions about things, and they valued my opinion. My opinion was just as valuable as theirs.

Now, did I get everything that my little heart desired? No, of course not. Were there arguments? You betcha.

But because of the way that my parents raised me (no formal church going. The decided to let me decide for myself on what to believe spiritually), has led me to be the kind, caring person that I am today.

And while I was growing up, I knew that my parents were my parents, not my friends. I knew that they were there to protect me. But because of that mutual respect that we had for each other then, has led us to become friends now.

This is my favorite post on the entire thread.

nun ya · ‎03-09-2010

On 11/13/2014 wookie said:
On 11/13/2014 Plaid Pants said:
My parents had a "laid back" approach to raising me. By that, I mean, they were not strict. They respected me, and I, in turn, respected them. They didn't care if my bed was left unmade, or my room was messy. They knew that it was "my" space. I was expected to help out around the house, but on weekends, or vacation days, I could sleep in as late as I wanted. Yes, I had a curfew, which I respected. They didn't order me around like a drill sergeant. We would have open, honest discussions about things, and they valued my opinion. My opinion was just as valuable as theirs.

Now, did I get everything that my little heart desired? No, of course not. Were there arguments? You betcha.

But because of the way that my parents raised me (no formal church going. The decided to let me decide for myself on what to believe spiritually), has led me to be the kind, caring person that I am today.

And while I was growing up, I knew that my parents were my parents, not my friends. I knew that they were there to protect me. But because of that mutual respect that we had for each other then, has led us to become friends now.

This is my favorite post on the entire thread.

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