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[OKPrincess]

Well spoken. 

@CalminHeart 

@smoochy  Best wishes. I've been there and feel your pain.

[wagirl]

Family drama is a waste of time and engery for all concerned. I have never ever understood the need to post anything regarding family online to any social media---I don't care how--supposedly, safe you can make it--it will always come back to bite you in the -----tookus!!! Keep family stuff--in the family!!!! I would let your daughter cool off for awhile and in the meantime--go over what she is miffed about to see if there is any valid reason, no matter how minute it is--and then pull up your big girl panties and make it right with her. My mom did the same thing, way before social media was around--she died without an resolving anything--total waste of precious time!!!

[Greeneyedlady21]

@smoochy No judgment from me, I just hope that you and your daughter can work things out.

I was so close with my mother, and now that she's gone I'm even more grateful for the time we spent together and the trips we took together-all of it. The honest discussions, the painful discussion, the hugs, the laughs. 

The conflicts we had were forgotten when we learned that she had cancer. It's a cliche thing that people say, but tomorrow is truly never promised. Neither is today.

[Tadaki]

You could tell your daughter that you have posted the whole situation to a public forum, including how wrong she it, and most people think you should try to work things out.

. . . And I'm being facetious.

[CelticCrafter]

JMO, leave her alone for time being, your scathing rebuttal can't be unseen or unread. 

Don't ask your grandson or cousin to step in as a go between. 

[katie1859]

Listen, I share your life experience

A prodigal and I'm NOT MAKING EXCUSES nor passes 

However, I will tell you that you and I do not stand alone 

There is an epidemic of adult children cutting off parents

This was not my assumption but came from a therapist

Understand that social media is a catalyst

I have not participated since 2017 because

in general emotions and posts are thrown around and you

cant prevent that

When it involves family and close friends there is a serious

separation because it is a toxic platform built on show and not

sincerity

We also live in a culture of misconceptions AND offense

Its so easy for many to get offended

Twists and turns of he said she said and many are "victims"

and constant accusations

That narcissistic word called out here there and everywhere

My children are ALL adults from 40 down to 31

As parents we have to live in our own lane

We have to live our own lives and not share family information 

to the vast internet

Its often not our to share and seldom appreciated

Love is effective when we stop crossing lines 

We may see it this way but our adult family information 2025 does 

This is uncharted waters because we didn't go through this as we grew

But guardrails are needed esp today

Respect and humility 

Not wearing my mothers heart on my sleeve anymore

Tough lessons but if not put into practice it's a painful way

to have family distanced and unavailable.

[JillyMarie]

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@Tadaki wrote:

You could tell your daughter that you have posted the whole situation to a public forum, including how wrong she it, and most people think you should try to work things out.

. . . And I'm being facetious.

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[honeybeagle]

Do you know what a right fighter is? A person who will fight to the end just to be right! Do you want to be right or have peace with your daughter? You can't respond with a scathing reply and then try to act like you care. It's your daughter, be a peacemaker. Apoligize to her for all the ways you have failed her. Don't expect anything in returm. Start over and don't bring it up again. By the way , time does not heal all wounds, God heals all wounds. Pray for peace in your relationship. 

[Zhills]

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@JillyMarie wrote:

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@Tadaki wrote:

You could tell your daughter that you have posted the whole situation to a public forum, including how wrong she it, and most people think you should try to work things out.

. . . And I'm being facetious.

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That would be like "social" suicide to her!

Unfortunately, "let 'em be!" seems to apply here.

Hardest thing you'll ever do...especially if she should get sick!  Been there- - -

[ROMARY]

I always remember TV Judge Millian (sp?) often saying:

"Say it, forget it.........Write it, regret it."