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[phoenixbrd]

@lolakimono  I think this is a great idea.  It might be best to consider discussing and completing your wishes long before it becomes a necessity.  Death being a part of life is just a part of the process.  Never an easy part of the process, we are a bit comforted knowing that the wishes of our loved one's are being considered.

[Furgirl]

I think it's a great idea, and I love the title! I tend to cope with painful things with humor. Usually when it's inappropriate. Death is a part of life and don't want people to be so sad when I go. So if that title makes them smile when they see it, I'd be happy. 

[BirkiLady]

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@cbrite wrote:

Well..........there is no one to read that book for me....not 1 single person. I wish my family had that tho........what a mess it's made for my heart. It's scary to be honest. I don't want to croak alone. And I worry who will take my animal's urns....I love them so much. The few people I know are buzzards...sitting on the side line waiting... and would never read that book anyway, let alone follow my desires. (Sorry for the reference to buzzards as I love all animals)

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Perfect place to make your wishes known that you might like your animal urns buried with you.

Mom wanted the ashes of her cat placed with her ashes in her urn. I followed her wishes; the mortuary wasn't fazed at all. They have had stranger requests. I didn't ask what! 

[Snoopp]

It's so important to have all important information about your estate plans and financial paperwork, passwords, etc. in one place for those left behind.  People get very uncomfortable talking about this type of stuff.  I like the idea.   I just use a folder but I'd consider buying this.

[catchersmom]

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@Furgirl wrote:

I think it's a great idea, and I love the title! I tend to cope with painful things with humor. Usually when it's inappropriate. Death is a part of life and don't want people to be so sad when I go. So if that title makes them smile when they see it, I'd be happy. 

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@Furgirl My "person" (the one you are the absolute closest to in life) is my daughter and she knows my sense of humor about inevitable things. The title would make her kind of roll her eyes and chuckle, and that's exactly what I would want her to do at a time like that.

It's in my Amazon cart now. Merry Christmas to me lol!

(and thanks @lolakimono for posting this....something I had been putting off thinking about but it was on my list of things to accomplish in 2018)

[qualitygal]

I made my own book.  It's filled with the information that will probably be needed.  I've been on the end of having to do things and learned how much help it is to have those things taken care of.  If you only have one person that will attend to such things, they'll really appreciate it. Very practical and needed.

[gidgetgh]

It doesn't bother me at all.

When my parents were alive and then just my dad, he had a three ring binder labeled "Heirs Affairs".  He told me that if anything ever happened to him, to get the book and in it would be everything I needed to manage their estate.

When my father had his stroke in August, 2015, after he'd been admitted to the hospital and my husband and I were heading home for the night, we stopped back at my parent's house (at 2:00 in the morning) so I could get anything important out of there since he wasn't there- checkbooks, stuff like that.

The very first thing I did was go in the den and on the shelf of the bookcase was the Heirs Affairs book.  It and some others came home with us that night.

I was already very well versed on what my parents had. My dad had prepared me and sister well for when the time came for us to manage the estate.   We were on signature cards at the various banks and for the safe deposit box.

When my dad passed away in July 2016, I opened the Heirs Affairs book and everything was there.  Everything.  Every phone number, account number, doctor names and numbers, list of stock.  He'd even partially written his own obituary and had a few written instructions and words of encouragement for me.  

I AM my father's daughter.  Our book might not have a cutesy name like the one on the original post here.  Ours is called the "pink book" because I got the brightest pink 3 ring binder I could find so that it would stand out if someone would need to look for it.

I've told my sister, stepson and two close friends about it.  If something would happen to my husand and me, all they would have to do is get the pink book and it would all be right there for them.

[jubilant]

I think it's definitely practical.  I would change the title to something more " business like". 

[just bee]

Practical.  Saw this in a Signals catalog this week (page 69, $14.95).  It's actually something that would be helpful.

Better-half's mother died a few months ago and that prompted him to produce a will.  Something I haven't done but should.  At this point I have nothing in order.

[grandma petes]

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@lolakimono wrote:

Don't leave a mess for your loved ones. Instead, leave all the information they need to take care of your belongings, business affairs, and wishes. This practical and not at all morbid book walks you through the important stuff: personal information, medical information, key contacts, dependents, documents, financial information, insurance, who will care for your pets, how to handle your email and social media accounts, personal wishes, last words, and other vital details. Hardcover, 96 pages. 

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I don’t think it’s morbid at all. When a loved one passes away, the grief is overwhelming and then trying to sort out their affairs, last wishes, etc., only adds to the heartache. DH and I are trying to get all of our affairs in order. We just may look for this book. It will save each other or our son the frustration of trying to figure it all out.