MIL DIL issue - Page 18

scotttie · ‎03-09-2010

Hopefully Nancy has a daughter who will look after her if necessary in her old age like Nancy is doing for her parents. Somehow I doubt this whiney daughter in law will want to do it anyway .

baddest_dog · ‎04-29-2010

a woman of character? Well, I'll just wait now for your groupies to show up and turn this thread into one of your daily antagonistic diatribes and then like so many others before this, it will get poofed. If she was called a name, perhaps she deserved it. And while her issue may be with the DIL, the grandchildren are an extension of their parents and therefore any hostility or bad feelings will filter down to them. She wants a social life now because she already raised her kids? Sounds like someone who felt it was a chore to do that and now her duty is done. You can applaud her all you want, I think she sounds cold and selfish.

JJsMom · ‎03-10-2010

She said she hangs out with her elderly parents. Did she say she is caring for them? Maybe she did, and I missed it.

If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. ~ Desmond Tutu

LizAnne_1 · ‎04-29-2013

On 4/7/2014 beammeupscottie said:
On 4/7/2014 BuckleBunny said:
On 4/6/2014 Nancy Drew said:
My daughter in law told me today I was an ice queen. I asked why? She said because I never want to do anything with her. She said I am either golfing, volunteering at church or hanging with my own elder parents. If she knew how much time I wasted here it on QVC it would blow her mind. She said that I don't make myself available for babysitting. 2 weeks ago I spent 2 days overnight so mommy and daddy could both go to hospital for youngest granddaughters surgery. Guess she forgot about that. I thought I was giving her a huge gift, not to be around and pester her. Isn't that what all dil want? What am I missing?

A heart.

So caring for her own elderly parents means she doesn't have a heart?

The flippancy of her above bolded statement would make it appear so.

evelomaddict · ‎04-06-2013

one day your daughter in law and son might be caring for you.

just something to think about.

"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?" Hillel

baddest_dog · ‎04-29-2010

On 4/7/2014 beammeupscottie said:
On 4/7/2014 bathina said:
On 4/7/2014 JJsMom said:
Son and DIL 20 years from now: We tried to reach out to her for years, and she just ignored us. It's fine to expect a phone call once in a while, but don't expect us to be her built in caregiver.

Yup. And who could blame them? Call one of your golf or church buddies to empty your commode and wipe your butt. ${#emotions_dlg.sneaky}$

Well, evidently she is taking care of her OWN parents. Guess that doesn't count?

BTW, she didn't say she is taking care of her parents, she said she is hanging with them, For all we know they are lively people who golf with her. I don't get the impression she is wiping anyone's behind.

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

NANCY DREW: ""I have raised my kids and now I want a social life"".

What? You didn't have friends when they were growing up?

My grown sons and daughter and their spouses are a big part of our social life. They aren't segregated from our friends. We aren't segregated from their friends. What the big deal?

Your so gung ho to golf. Go golf. Please. My DH golfed yesterday with our son as he does every Sat. or Sunday morning. Is that odd to you?

Mj12 · ‎03-09-2010

On 4/6/2014 Nancy Drew said:
My daughter in law told me today I was an ice queen. I asked why? She said because I never want to do anything with her. She said I am either golfing, volunteering at church or hanging with my own elder parents. If she knew how much time I wasted here it on QVC it would blow her mind. She said that I don't make myself available for babysitting. 2 weeks ago I spent 2 days overnight so mommy and daddy could both go to hospital for youngest granddaughters surgery. Guess she forgot about that. I thought I was giving her a huge gift, not to be around and pester her. Isn't that what all dil want? What am I missing?

I think you just never cared that much for her, that's fine, just don't expect much in the future.

scotttie · ‎03-09-2010

On 4/7/2014 pridequeen said:
On 4/7/2014 beammeupscottie said:
On 4/7/2014 bathina said:
On 4/7/2014 JJsMom said:
Son and DIL 20 years from now: We tried to reach out to her for years, and she just ignored us. It's fine to expect a phone call once in a while, but don't expect us to be her built in caregiver.

Yup. And who could blame them? Call one of your golf or church buddies to empty your commode and wipe your butt. ${#emotions_dlg.sneaky}$

Well, evidently she is taking care of her OWN parents. Guess that doesn't count?

BTW, she didn't say she is taking care of her parents, she said she is hanging with them, For all we know they are lively people who golf with her. I don't get the impression she is wiping anyone's behind.