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[glb613]

On 4/8/2014 croemer said:

I too see many in my mothers assisted living who never see a relative and these people still have their sense's about them and can get around pretty well. Sad...

Unless you are there 24/7, you don't really know if they have visitors or not.

[stilltamn8r]

On 4/8/2014 JJsMom said:

You can choose to live a self-centered life. If that makes you happy, go for it. Just don't expect others to be generous to you with their time if you ever need them. Like I said, you reap what you sow.

So are you saying that an adult, who has already reared their children, and is retired, pursues their own interests rather than being at the beck and call of others, is "leading a self centered life?"

[tansy]

On 4/8/2014 glb613 said:

On 4/8/2014 croemer said:

I too see many in my mothers assisted living who never see a relative and these people still have their sense's about them and can get around pretty well. Sad...

Unless you are there 24/7, you don't really know if they have visitors or not.

The staff will tell you who does not get visits from anyone. I have been a volunteer visitor before and might start again.

[Melania]

On 4/8/2014 VanSleepy said: There is another thread going about watching grandchildren. Maybe the tone has changed since I read it yesterday, but there seems to be a whole bunch of grandmas who don't want to be babysitters.

I was amazed at those who are expected to watch their grand kids every weekend, who still work full time. They are afraid if they don't their kids will punish them by withholding the GK's.

Selfish kids much?

[croemer]

On 4/8/2014 tansy said:

On 4/8/2014 glb613 said:

On 4/8/2014 croemer said:

I too see many in my mothers assisted living who never see a relative and these people still have their sense's about them and can get around pretty well. Sad...

Unless you are there 24/7, you don't really know if they have visitors or not.

The staff will tell you who does not get visits from anyone. I have been a volunteer visitor before and might start again.

Um..yes I do...I speak with them about it because they have complemented me on coming to see my Mother and bringing her gifts ,food etc. I love talking to them. Also as tansy said the staff now and then mention they have no one come visit. I will sit and talk to them...even have brought books and magazines. Surprisingly the love People and the Enquirer.

Go to lunch with Mom and I sit and listen to many stories.

[maryebrown_1]

Regardless, the OP hasn't been here since yesterday. She's already determined to live her life the way she wants.

[scotttie]

On 4/8/2014 croemer said:

On 4/8/2014 tansy said:

On 4/8/2014 glb613 said:

On 4/8/2014 croemer said:

I too see many in my mothers assisted living who never see a relative and these people still have their sense's about them and can get around pretty well. Sad...

Unless you are there 24/7, you don't really know if they have visitors or not.

The staff will tell you who does not get visits from anyone. I have been a volunteer visitor before and might start again.

Um..yes I do...I speak with them about it because they have complemented me on coming to see my Mother and bringing her gifts ,food etc. I love talking to them. Also as tansy said the staff now and then mention they have no one come visit. I will sit and talk to them...even have brought books and magazines. Surprisingly the love People and the Enquirer.

Go to lunch with Mom and I sit and listen to many stories.

You are an amazingly kind woman Croemer

[esmerelda]

This thread is a real education! LOL!

[JJsMom]

On 4/8/2014 stilltamn8r said:

On 4/8/2014 JJsMom said:

You can choose to live a self-centered life. If that makes you happy, go for it. Just don't expect others to be generous to you with their time if you ever need them. Like I said, you reap what you sow.

So are you saying that an adult, who has already reared their children, and is retired, pursues their own interests rather than being at the beck and call of others, is "leading a self centered life?"

Having kids is a lifetime commitment. I guess it is just the way I was raised, and I plan to do the same when I get older. I would much rather spend time with my family than golf with a bunch of buddies. If you don't make someone a priority in your life, don't be surprised when you are no longer a priority in theirs. If you can live with that, then that is your choice.

[esmerelda]

On 4/8/2014 maryebrown said:

Regardless, the OP hasn't been here since yesterday. She's already determined to live her life the way she wants.

Maybe she's golfing. I hope she is.