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[LTT1]

We have a nearby mall that USED to be the center of the economy in our area.

Lately, things have happened that must have people on edge because the mall seems to have been "overtaken" by gang activity, etc.

When walking with DH one day last week, a vendor who typically advances into the walking pathway, approached me aggressively.

I put out my hand, firmly said "no" before this person started handing me a card sprayed with perfume and I shook my head "no" as well as frowning (this was not the first time).

My actions were followed by him saying loudly lots of assumingly rude remarks.

The following day he shouted across the mall at me!  I turned and said "I told you NO!"

What is up with this aggressive behavior? It is as if our society's rules of politeness have flown out the window.  

Maybe this is indicative of the American way not applying here?

I don't know... my DH filled out a form and reported the incident.  What else can a person do?

[Trinity11]

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@LTT1 wrote:

We have a nearby mall that USED to be the center of the economy in our area.

Lately, things have happened that must have people on edge because the mall seems to have been "overtaken" by gang activity, etc.

When walking with DH one day last week, a vendor who typically advances into the walking pathway, approached me aggressively.

I put out my hand, firmly said "no" before this person started handing me a card sprayed with perfume and I shook my head "no" as well as frowning (this was not the first time).

My actions were followed by him saying loudly lots of assumingly rude remarks.

The following day he shouted across the mall at me!  I turned and said "I told you NO!"

What is up with this aggressive behavior? It is as if our society's rules of politeness have flown out the window.  

Maybe this is indicative of the American way not applying here?

I don't know... my DH filled out a form and reported the incident.  What else can a person do?

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Are you speaking of those aggressive vendors from Dead Sea Products. They seem to be everywhere. I have had them follow me down the mall to show me what they are selling even though I politely said I am not interested. They usually ask "Miss, may I ask you a question?" I have been answering them "You just did." Aggressive and I read that there have been altercations that others have reported regarding their sales techniques.

[bri20]

I avoid making contact with those kiosk sellers.   

[catwhisperer]

@LTT1....I try to ignore them and not say anything, but I agree, some of them get very aggressive. I think your DH did the right thing by reporting it. There is a small shopping center near where I live and there are very aggressive panhandlers and solicitors there. They also make rude comments if you say NO. I have reported them to management and there is a security guard there, but nothing is done to stop it. Seems like these business owners would realize that they are going to lose customers with this aggressive behavior.

[colliegirls]

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@Trinity11 wrote:

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@LTT1 wrote:

We have a nearby mall that USED to be the center of the economy in our area.

Lately, things have happened that must have people on edge because the mall seems to have been "overtaken" by gang activity, etc.

When walking with DH one day last week, a vendor who typically advances into the walking pathway, approached me aggressively.

I put out my hand, firmly said "no" before this person started handing me a card sprayed with perfume and I shook my head "no" as well as frowning (this was not the first time).

My actions were followed by him saying loudly lots of assumingly rude remarks.

The following day he shouted across the mall at me!  I turned and said "I told you NO!"

What is up with this aggressive behavior? It is as if our society's rules of politeness have flown out the window.  

Maybe this is indicative of the American way not applying here?

I don't know... my DH filled out a form and reported the incident.  What else can a person do?

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Are you speaking of those aggressive vendors from Dead Sea Products. They seem to be everywhere. I have had them follow me down the mall to show me what they are selling even though I politely said I am not interested. They usually ask "Miss, may I ask you a question?" I have been answering them "You just did." Aggressive and I read that there have been altercations that others have reported regarding their sales techniques.

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Those people are the worst!!  They put their lotion on your eye area and then roughly massage the area to show the difference. I can get the same result from the massage myself at home, it doesn't last. Shysters!

[Spurt]

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@LTT1 wrote:

We have a nearby mall that USED to be the center of the economy in our area.

Lately, things have happened that must have people on edge because the mall seems to have been "overtaken" by gang activity, etc.

When walking with DH one day last week, a vendor who typically advances into the walking pathway, approached me aggressively.

I put out my hand, firmly said "no" before this person started handing me a card sprayed with perfume and I shook my head "no" as well as frowning (this was not the first time).

My actions were followed by him saying loudly lots of assumingly rude remarks.

The following day he shouted across the mall at me!  I turned and said "I told you NO!"

What is up with this aggressive behavior? It is as if our society's rules of politeness have flown out the window.  

Maybe this is indicative of the American way not applying here?

I don't know... my DH filled out a form and reported the incident.  What else can a person do?

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@LTT1 

It's a shame isn't it.....where I live a gang took over one of the malls on a part of town that always seems to make news because of crime....and when they tried it again at an older mall they solved the problem by moving a Police Sub Station right in the mall......stopped any gang activity before it got really started!!!!  Everything has calmed down to the point where the sub station is no longer there....although they do maintain a securtiy office on the lower level in a corner.....

However you seem to be talking about not real gangs, but overly aggressive cart vendors located in the middle of the malls--- AND I HATE THOSE ..... I hate any type of aggressive sales methods.  I used to politely say NO THANK YOU! But since they don't seem to understand that---- now i say not only NO, BUT--- HELL NO!! NOT INTERESTED AND DONT WANT TO BE BOTHERED! I guess they must be under commission to sell but I find them very irritating and annoying....and I don't understand why malls allow this....the malls take the money for the cart rental and could care less if it bothers mall customers!!  I 'd keep writing and urge others to write to the mall to complain...

[GCR18]

Go to the mall managers office and register a complaint in person.  

[Kachina624]

If one of these vendors ever touched me, I'd file assault charges with my local police department.  When you go to the mall, why don't you stop outside the mall entrance and call the mall office.  Ask for a security escort.  If they have to do this a few times, they may be more inclined to clamp down.

[Ms X]

I agree with the advice not to speak to or even look at these aggressive sellers.  Any interaction gets them going.  It's the same thing if someone you don't know is at the door.  Just don't answer it or say anything.

[Spurt]

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@colliegirls wrote:

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@Trinity11 wrote:

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@LTT1 wrote:

We have a nearby mall that USED to be the center of the economy in our area.

Lately, things have happened that must have people on edge because the mall seems to have been "overtaken" by gang activity, etc.

When walking with DH one day last week, a vendor who typically advances into the walking pathway, approached me aggressively.

I put out my hand, firmly said "no" before this person started handing me a card sprayed with perfume and I shook my head "no" as well as frowning (this was not the first time).

My actions were followed by him saying loudly lots of assumingly rude remarks.

The following day he shouted across the mall at me!  I turned and said "I told you NO!"

What is up with this aggressive behavior? It is as if our society's rules of politeness have flown out the window.  

Maybe this is indicative of the American way not applying here?

I don't know... my DH filled out a form and reported the incident.  What else can a person do?

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Are you speaking of those aggressive vendors from Dead Sea Products. They seem to be everywhere. I have had them follow me down the mall to show me what they are selling even though I politely said I am not interested. They usually ask "Miss, may I ask you a question?" I have been answering them "You just did." Aggressive and I read that there have been altercations that others have reported regarding their sales techniques.

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Those people are the worst!!  They put their lotion on your eye area and then roughly massage the area to show the difference. I can get the same result from the massage myself at home, it doesn't last. Shysters!

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@colliegirls  It's not just the Dead Sea Products---  it's people from the spa pushing their products, cart vendors selling everything from sports items, jewelry vendors, sunglass vendors to paraphenilia for smart phones...... I prefer to shop at this huge shopping center near my home instead---no harrassment there...