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[stevieb]

Simply because it's put out there does not mean anyone who finds it offensive or distasteful has to read it. With things of this nature, it becomes pretty clear pretty quickly how they're going to unfold, so reading to the end is really not necessary unless someone chooses to... Just sayin'...

[Free2be]

Maybe some lives will be saved by avoiding playing with the same fire in the same way this man did and it was published.  I'm not into shaming, the shame is a young child is fatherless for a senseless reason.

[Bri369]

I feel sorry for his kid.  Someone at school or she can be anywhere and some yahoo will say something about her father.

No kid needs to know these things, IMO

[Drythe]

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@stevieb wrote:

Simply because it's put out there does not mean anyone who finds it offensive or distasteful has to read it. With things of this nature, it becomes pretty clear pretty quickly how they're going to unfold, so reading to the end is really not necessary unless someone chooses to... Just sayin'...

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@stevieb 

And just in case we managed to avoid it elsewhere, someone is sure to post it here!

Plain ole’ purulent interest.

[aprilskies]

I wish reporters would just realize there are other people affected by their stories and show compassion and awareness with what they put out to the world. I feel bad for his family that now has to live with public scrutiny and shame.

I think reporters/journalists have lost their integrity and the world just sops it up.  

[DottieBlue]

It was only mentioned briefly on our local news.  But I wondered what a married man was doing in a motel room in the middle of the day without his wife.....

[GraceLady]

At this point, it really makes no difference if his wife knew about his lifestyle or not. I am sure his parents and daughter didn't. All, including his wife, are victims of his behavior and resulting death. Their lives will never be the same, not just because they lost a husband, father, and son too soon, but because of the way he died. It has to be an even greater burden learning about a secret/deviant lifestyle. His parents must feel like they never knew their son. If his wife didn't know, and my guess is that she was shocked to learn some or all of it, she is feeling like she married a stranger. That makes grieving very complicated. 

If you are a private nobody, it is horrible. I can imagine wanting to keep everything as private as possible for my child's sake and to protect what little reputation he may have. Now imagine that information being disseminated nationwide. Every single detail. Probably things you weren't even aware of yet. How do you recover from that as a parent?  As a wife?  As a child?  What happens when you can't leave your home without having people staring and whispering?  Where is that safe place for your daughter to grow up without being taunted?  And just what do you tell her?  Just how do you explain all of this to her?  All of their lives would have been a little easier if this family's business had been left to the family.  The intimate details of his personal/secret life were nobody's business.  Nothing more than the information on the death certificate should have been made known, in my opinion. 

[PinkSunset]

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@stevieb wrote:

Simply because it's put out there does not mean anyone who finds it offensive or distasteful has to read it. With things of this nature, it becomes pretty clear pretty quickly how they're going to unfold, so reading to the end is really not necessary unless someone chooses to... Just sayin'...

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Just to be clear on this:

I go to yahoo front page to sign in on my email, The top article was about him and COD.  I clicked to see why a young man had died so young,  I did not have to "read to the end" as this article stated the cause and circumstances in the first few lines. As I read something I certainly don't have the ability to foresee ahead of time what is being written, At that point, I didn't go searching for other stories, want to know more about him, his life, or anything else. 

Until some posters here brought up things like masks, poppers, and all that other distasteful stuff, I didn't know that either. The topic was "does the media have to divulge all this personal information". Other posters added details that were not solicited and I have no idea where they found all of it.

And talking about it here after the news was laready out is a far cry from knowing something about someone and broadcasting it to the public. 

But you know, no thread can ever just stay on track cause that would be too much like right.

[Johnnyeager]

The public is absolutely entitled to all the facts and details on cases such as this.

Taxpayer money is spent on investigation and cause of death analysis.

Some people just fear the truth.

Oh, and this thread has stayed directly and precisely on track, given the OP's initial comments.

[Cakers3]

Ok I'm going to say something that will not be received with open arms.

This thread actually put the idea out there about disclosing "disgusting" information.

It opened up the way for others to research the facts about this man's death.

I reading between the lines here-that the disgust about what he did is more important than the fact that it was published.  It seems that is the real issue and intent.

I just don't see the point of referencing the "disgusting" facts; it just drove more people to go and read about them.