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[sunshine45]

i see nothing wrong with it if that is what the mother chooses to do.

when i gave birth to my first child my mom, my best friend, and my husband were in the room with me. my husband did not want to see anything, but my best friend and mom were "all in."

[teganslaw]

There's nothing wrong with having kids present,  if that's what the family decides,  but I wouldn't want to be present at any birth. I've seen films, that was enough for me. Never wanted to experience childbirth or watch one in person. 

[Lipstickdiva]

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@sunshine45 wrote:

i see nothing wrong with it if that is what the mother chooses to do.

when i gave birth to my first child my mom, my best friend, and my husband were in the room with me. my husband did not want to see anything, but my best friend and mom were "all in."

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@sunshine45  but they were grown adults.

My issue isn't about people in general being present.  It's the fact that these are such young children. The fact of the matter is, women die giving birth and not all babies survive either.  And things can go wrong.  I would hate for a 3 and 5 year old to see their mom in distress of some sort.  Even though I'm sure they'd be quickly whisked out of the area, you can't unsee or unhear the start of it all.  

[ninjawife]

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@Lucky Charm wrote:

Aww that's kind of a shame she won't let the father be present.  It's his kid too, and to be quite honest, not all choices should be left to the woman (whole nuther thread).

Yet she'll let her kids be there.

My husband was always present and I don't even remember much and still ask him to this day about this and that ---what went on.

I think I kind of blacked out from the pain and really don't remember childbirth.  (I went natural all 3 times)  I do remember a mirror placed so I could see and once I realized what the heck I was seeing---I never looked at the mirror again.  That made the pain worse!

I was present for my last grandchild's birth and stayed at my DILs shoulders the entire time.  She was a champ.  Any time I had to pass around the foot of the bed I kept chanting, 'I'm not looking. I'm not looking, I'm not looking'.  Just out of respect, and it made her laugh.

I don't think any of my grandkids would want to watch their mother give birth and they are older than Sarandon's children.  But, she knows them best.

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I sort of get your point of view. Unless mommy conceived via a sperm bank, it really isn't all about her... That said, the one doing the heavy lifting probably gets to call the shots...  I've also always figured most men, understandably, really aren't as invested in being there as much as their starry eyed wives like to think they are...

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My husband must not be most men because he was all into it.  The nurses asked if I wanted a mirror to watch and I said heck no but my husband watched every moment, cut the cord etc. 

[Moonlady]

Oh, please. Allow me to "judge." She's nuts.

Obviously, the "it takes a village and every shirt-tail relative" way of birthing was a big, fat No! for me. No husband (I breathed just fine, Hon), mother, kids...and no MIL, 😏thankyouverymuch.

Gimmeabreak.