Kids Present At Siblings Birth. - Page 7

stevieb · ‎03-10-2010

@Lucky Charm wrote:
Aww that's kind of a shame she won't let the father be present. It's his kid too, and to be quite honest, not all choices should be left to the woman (whole nuther thread).

Yet she'll let her kids be there.

My husband was always present and I don't even remember much and still ask him to this day about this and that ---what went on.

I think I kind of blacked out from the pain and really don't remember childbirth. (I went natural all 3 times) I do remember a mirror placed so I could see and once I realized what the heck I was seeing---I never looked at the mirror again. That made the pain worse!

I was present for my last grandchild's birth and stayed at my DILs shoulders the entire time. She was a champ. Any time I had to pass around the foot of the bed I kept chanting, 'I'm not looking. I'm not looking, I'm not looking'. Just out of respect, and it made her laugh.

I don't think any of my grandkids would want to watch their mother give birth and they are older than Sarandon's children. But, she knows them best.

I sort of get your point of view. Unless mommy conceived via a sperm bank, it really isn't all about her... That said, the one doing the heavy lifting probably gets to call the shots... I've also always figured most men, understandably, really aren't as invested in being there as much as their starry eyed wives like to think they are...

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suzyQ3 · ‎03-09-2010

@stevieb wrote:
@Lucky Charm wrote:
Aww that's kind of a shame she won't let the father be present. It's his kid too, and to be quite honest, not all choices should be left to the woman (whole nuther thread).

Yet she'll let her kids be there.

My husband was always present and I don't even remember much and still ask him to this day about this and that ---what went on.

I think I kind of blacked out from the pain and really don't remember childbirth. (I went natural all 3 times) I do remember a mirror placed so I could see and once I realized what the heck I was seeing---I never looked at the mirror again. That made the pain worse!

I was present for my last grandchild's birth and stayed at my DILs shoulders the entire time. She was a champ. Any time I had to pass around the foot of the bed I kept chanting, 'I'm not looking. I'm not looking, I'm not looking'. Just out of respect, and it made her laugh.

I don't think any of my grandkids would want to watch their mother give birth and they are older than Sarandon's children. But, she knows them best.

I sort of get your point of view. Unless mommy conceived via a sperm bank, it really isn't all about her... That said, the one doing the heavy lifting probably gets to call the shots... I've also always figured most men, understandably, really aren't as invested in being there as much as their starry eyed wives like to think they are...

@stevieb, my husband was the first at our hospital to be allowed to be with me when I had our daughter. I It was a natural birth.

He was standing behind me. When the doctor exclaimed over the head of hair on our daughter, he peremptorily dropped my head to go look.

Every once in a while, I knock him on the head just for the heck of it.

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Catty2 · ‎09-06-2014

I would only want my husband there. It's a special, intimate moment for them. The kids can see their new sibling after Mom and baby have recovered a little.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

It's difficult to see someone you love in pain even as an adult. Why even consider putting kids in this position?

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

Since the father isn't being allowed in, could this be some ploy she is using to put a wedge between the father and his children? It just has a mean spirited feeling to me.

lovesrecess · ‎03-14-2010

That would terrify most kids who are young. Seeing their mom in such pain and seeing blood would not be something I would ever expose young kids to. I have always thought Sarandon was a wacko so this doesn’t surprise me that her daughter would do something like this. I feel bad for the children. What if there is a problem with the birth? Is she going to make the kids stand there and watch that also? You don’t have to have your children witness the birth in order to dispel the stork story.

Lindsays Grandma · ‎03-10-2010

I can't for the life me understand why she would choose two such young children to witness child birth. I believe they are too young to comprehend the entire process. I read the same article about the mother's decision and don't recall if it is a water birth. In any case, a three and five year old, as I mentioned, are too young to comprehend the procedure and I sure hope one or the other or both don't have nightmares after witnessing it.

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pitdakota · ‎03-16-2010

@Cakers3 wrote:
We have no idea if the children will be viewing the whole birth-meaning standing where they will have the full view. Even so, it's not our choice so I'm just going to wish mom a healthy baby and all the best to the family.

Children in the delivery room (hospital or home) is not a new concept.

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@Cakers3 , I am with you and have to say I am quite surprised that so many don't seem to be aware that this had long been a practice for some.

There are multiple certified family birthing centers and hospitals that allow siblings in the delivery room and have for a number of years. There are all kinds of at least teenage kids walking around that witnessed the birth of their sibling.

These decisions aren't taken lightly and there is quite a bit of preparation for all parties involved when they choose this route. I am not the one having the child, so not up to me to decide what is right for another family.
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jonbon · ‎03-09-2010

@pitdakota wrote:
@Cakers3 wrote:
We have no idea if the children will be viewing the whole birth-meaning standing where they will have the full view. Even so, it's not our choice so I'm just going to wish mom a healthy baby and all the best to the family.

Children in the delivery room (hospital or home) is not a new concept.

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@Cakers3 , I am with you and have to say I am quite surprised that so many don't seem to be aware that this had long been a practice for some.

There are multiple certified family birthing centers and hospitals that allow siblings in the delivery room and have for a number of years. There are all kinds of at least teenage kids walking around that witnessed the birth of their sibling.

These decisions aren't taken lightly and there is quite a bit of preparation for all parties involved when they choose this route. I am not the one having the child, so not up to me to decide what is right for another family.
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Exactly

SurferWife · ‎12-12-2010

That's just ridiculous. Of course this is coming from someone who, after seeing a birth film in 9th grade biology, I made up my mind that I was not having children...and stuck to it.

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