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[Catty2]

Short and sweet - RUN and don't look back!  Very bizarre.  

[EastCoastGal]

I just read something from another post about mental illness...Thumpergal said she has a niece who has schizophrenia. Wonder if this is the same niece???? It's really too bad @Duckncover didn't come back and give us more details but this was surely something to read...like a mystery unsolved!!

[retrolady]

I also think he is married!

[50Mickey]

If I had to make a guess I would say that someone got a big kick out of spinning this tall tale. Looking at  20 pages of responses and no follow up from the OP I think we were punked. 

[Duckncover]

• Wow just saw this! I have had to spend a ridiculous amount of time signing in over and over and W still wouldn't let me in. I thought they had finally fixed things but finally just stopped trying for a few days. I am amazed at some of the comments regarding my niece's ordeal with her boyfriend's parents. My post was not intended to be a "fun thread".  She knew his parents had several bedrooms because her boyfriend had told her that when he invited her. She also told me the house was two stories and huge. I assume the power to the camper was run from the house. I am not much of a camper, except when we go to a campground, so I never asked her about how the utilities were provided. I think the weather was okay, just chilly like it usually is this time of year. She didn't mention if it was raining or snowing. Her boyfriend has been traveling for work a lot; he is working for the next month in another city but comes home on weekends. I don't think they have been seeing each other much when he is in town. I try not to pry very much and my sister doesn't seem to know much about where things stand, but she told her she felt totally rejected by his parents. So I am thinking this relationship is fizzling out if it hasn't already. I feel so sorry for her; she is such a sweet girl and I would love for her to find a great relationship. 

[Duckncover]

The niece I referred to who has schizophrenia is actually DH's niece, so she is my niece my marriage, and not the same one I have mentioned in this thread. Thanks for your interest. Q has not been very welcoming lately..more signing in over and over, etc.I thought it was fixed. Apparently not. Finally got on tonight after just giving up for a few days. 

[moonandthestars]

@Group 5 minus 1 

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@Group 5 minus 1 wrote:

I do not think she is the "star" of this incident,rather she allowed herself along w/her so-called boyfriend to be abused. And don't fool yourself she was abused.

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Just wanted to comment on your comment since I'm the one who called her the 'star' of this situation. I probably could have expressed myself better then, but I was tired -  my calling her that (the star - i.e. the good one) was to defend her honor against a lot of the negatives being posted about how she reacted to this terrible situation that she experienced. I was surprised at the lack of empathy.  Obviously there are many here who would have handled it differently, you know tho everyone is not built the same way.  Not everyone would huff away instantly - it's fine for anyone who would, but that's not for everyone and apparently not for her.   To not handle it that way (i.e. leaving) does not indicate she is weak or a wimp or a doormat.  Everyone is different and has their own way of being, of operating.    Time will tell how she handles the big part of this.  

[Duckncover]

I know they went out to lunch together a couple of times. My niece never mentioned it was due to them not sleeping in the same room or anything, it that could be their mindset. I am just so sorry for my dear niece...she was expecting a proposal and was so excited about getting married. What a gut -punch, but am so glad she got a taste of what his parents are like. 

[Lucky Charm]

@Duckncover Thanks for coming back to the thread.

[EastCoastGal]

@Duckncover... Thank you for coming back to your thread. I don't remember posting anything until l read about a niece of yours having schizophrenia on another thread. Since we didn't hear back from you and l read the 200 posts, l thought perhaps if this was the niece, that she made this whole thing up because l never heard of anything so bizarre in my life! When l read your initial thread l felt so badly for her and what she went through for the four days! She must have been so shocked...and to have her boyfriend go along with her parents really angered me! Here she is in a strange city at her boyfriend's parents and they won't allow her in the home! Personally, l probably would not have done anything so quickly like leaving. I would have given it a couple days after she talked to him during lunch...but l would have left at some point. She's staying in that small thing in the driveway without a shower and had to make her own meals?!?! My gosh!! No TV. I don't know how she got through this! I would have been in shock!! I know you don't live in the same house as your niece so getting more information was probably difficult for you... plus what must she have been feeling when she came back home?? ...and I can't imagine the plane ride back!!! I am truly sorry for your niece. This was a nightmare for her...especially since she thought he was going to propose to her! I hope she doesn't see this man ever again. She may need counseling...l know l would! My very best to your niece. ----- I'm not able to make paragraphs so please forgive my small print and one large paragraph!