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[Irshgrl31201]

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[ValuSkr]

Will you be moving with them to Austin?

[Noel7]

@Irshgrl31201

How bittersweet for you  I know you will be going back and forth often.

When my girl is busy or traveling we keep in touch by way of messaging, I love that feature on the iPad.  I often ask her for a selfie just so I can see how she looks that day . It helps.

Hope you are well.

[Irshgrl31201]

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@JavaQueen wrote:

HI

I think it's great that you chose to share this here.

I think that is great news! Austin is a great place to visit. It is sad to see them go, but it offers opportunities. As a family, they need to grow and thsi will help them. I am excited for them. For your part, you will have a great place to visit and we live in the age of skype and email. There are planes. Most of all, you are bound together with cords of love. Nothing will ever change that. 

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@JavaQueen I am really glad I decided to share this here too. It has me feeling better already! You're right though, nothing will ever change that. 

[VanSleepy]

I know you just found this out and are feeling sad, but don't forget how hard this would be for her, too.  I was the "daughter".  In my 20s I moved across the country from my family and life-long friends (husband's job also).  It was awful.  Lean on each other and know you will all be fine 

[Irshgrl31201]

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@skuggles wrote:

I totally understand. I lost my two best friends in the last year and a half(both died), and my two childrn who lived nearby moved away. My oldest moved very far from home a long time ago. I'll be honest, I cry a lot because I miss all of them, and it seems sometimes that I lost everyone except dh all in one fell swoop. It's pretty lonely without them.

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@skuggles. OMG, I am SO sorry to hear that! What a tough year you had. I feel silly for even thinking about this knowing that you have faced such a tough year. (((Skuggles))), I know we are no substitute for your best friends and family but we will be here for you!! 

[Irshgrl31201]

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@ValuSkr wrote:

Will you be moving with them to Austin?

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No @ValuSkr, I won't be.

[Big Sister]

@Irshgrl31201  Hello.  As you probably know a lot can happen in a year.

If they move, you can and will adjust in time.  The best thing you can do for that young family is send them off with hugs and smiles.

The greatest gift my mother gave me when I decided to move 2,000 miles away was to not feel guilty for leaving, even though I think her heart was very sad, but she never showed it.  I wish I could hug my mom now and say "thank you."

Though you are sad for now, you will be okay.

[Irshgrl31201]

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@susan in California wrote:

It sounds like you are a very understanding person, and yet there is no doubt it will be different with your daughter and her family moving away. So many of the comments have been so true.

I have heard Austin is a wonderful city.  It will probably be a lot of fun visiting.

It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship with daughter and family.  I would guess they would love having you come for visits.

Our younger son and family live in Seattle.  We have to travel for visits, but we do it often, and I even know the checkers at a couple of supermarkets-- when I go, I do a lot of the cooking.

I'm trying to share an upbeat attitude.  Our nine year old granddaughter is very

close with us, sleeps with me and grandpa when we visit.

Would I love it if we lived in the same town?  Yes. 

But we work around it, and visit often.

I wish you well, and I know it will be hard and definitely different.  But as so many posters have mentioned, it's hard to know totally what the future brings. 

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@Susan in California thanks so much for sharing this. I definitely will keep an upbeat attitude and posts like yours help so much wtih that!

[fortune]

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@Serenity-Now wrote:

@Irshgrl31201, my heart goes out to you.  We have an only son, and we were the closest-knit family unit for many years, until he started dating girls who only wanted their own families, and not his.  We never, ever, in a million years thought our son would go along with basically dumping us, but he did.  So I'm saying that although I know your heart is breaking, it could be worse.  Your family sounds as if they actually value you, too.  It isn't one-sided.  Your family will remain whole, you will have holidays together, you will have many wonderful new memories to make together.  My dh & I spend each & every holiday alone, and have done for years now.  We have a new granddaughter we haven't seen, and unfortunately I am now too ill to travel any longer.  They live in another state, 5 minutes from her family.  They see them every day.  We all get along, but it is as if he emotionally divorced us.  There isn't even any bad blood between any of us.  We have had to somehow cope.  

I know it will still be hard for you & your local family, and you'll miss them terribly.  But you'll still remain close, and remember they will probably want to do lots of video chats, and you can read books to your grandchild in video chat, too.  It won't be the same as being there, but it is a lot better than the alternative.  Don't despair, you all sound as if you know to keep on loving & cherishing each other.  You will be missed. That means the world, to be missed & cherished.  Take heart. 

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@Serenity-Now This is just so sad!  Is there anyone who can act as an intermediary and talk to your son?  I can't believe he has basically cut you and dh out of his life just to please his wife.  He is going to be very sad one day and needs someone to talk to him.  The development of your granddaughter would be so enriched with her grandfolks in her life.  Please consider communicating with your son before it's too late--maybe in a letter.  Please.