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[nun ya]

On 7/21/2014 RibbonsRosesRainbows said:

I guess I mean to say I wonder why a man does not kiss first and hug first? Seems like maybe they either don't like doing that or they are not that into the person. I need affection like hugs and kisses.........that is a must on my list but I see so many people out with their mate and they don't hold hands or talk much or at all while eating?

I talk to my mate but don't need to hold his hand constantly or kiss him constantly.

[Zerbina]

On 7/21/2014 garmer said:

I don't like it constantly. I like my space, I don't like constant physical contact. Too much, to me is smothering. (for me) It has nothing to do with how I feel about the person.

I agree.

[RibbonsRosesRainbows]

Thank you ladies for the post. Makes perfect sense. Not growing up around a mom would probably be why a person does not show physical affection. I think it is important to see what they do and not so much what they say...........you really don't see much love in a male dominated household.

[stilltamn8r]

Mine is a hugger, kisser and toucher...me not so much...

[RibbonsRosesRainbows]

I need to get in the shower.........but I just want to nap. I got up early every day since last Wednesday.........but really it is good to get up early.

[VioletEyes]

On your other thread you posted you are ""saving yourself"" for marriage. Maybe your new boyfriend doesn't want to hug and kiss you because he is afraid he won't be able to abide by your wishes. Just a thought.

And isn't this a new relationship you are in? It may be your boyfriend wants his space and wants to get to know you better before he becomes demonstrative.

[brii]

Does he know you post here and are posting details of your relationship?

You don't seem like you are ever happy/satisfied with any relationship.

[lulu2]

One partner doesn't want to hug or kiss and the other doesn't want to have seks.

Maybe he withholds what you want, because you withhold what he wants.

[hckynut]

Hi again RR&R,

My wife has a huge family and most of them are like to hug. My family on the other hand is very small and hugging was not something we grew up with at any point in our lives.

What do I do? With my wife I hug, with her family? Different story.

[I am still oxox]

On 7/21/2014 SoftRaindrops said:

On your other thread you posted you are ""saving yourself"" for marriage. Maybe your new boyfriend doesn't want to hug and kiss you because he is afraid he won't be able to abide by your wishes. Just a thought.

And isn't this a new relationship you are in? It may be your boyfriend wants his space and wants to get to know you better before he becomes demonstrative.

as the old saying goes ""maybe he's just not that into her""