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[herekitty_kitty]

sounds like he is not that into you. did you possibly push him into a relationship he didn't really want in the beginning?

does he take you out to the movies?

does he take you out to nice dinners?

do you both spend time going on walks or going to a mall?

does he bring you flowers?

does he come to your home or do you have to go to his?

if you only sit around watching tv this early in the dating process you have problems.

[missy1]

How did the relationship go to boyfriend/girlfriend when your neighbor wasn't having it?

I thought you told him you want him to hug you in the beginning. Is he your boyfriend, but you are not his gf? What made him change?

Does he walk you home at night? Go on dates (outside of your homes)?

[sylviahomeatlast]

Mr S and I like to hug and hold hands at mass---I hug everyone and he does too--

[PIT-HAG Melissa]

Not really a PDA person ... Privately there is a line into clingy that shouldn't be crossed...

[BellaPaprika]

They wouldn't be my partner if they didn't like to show affection the way I want. That's why they're called a ""partner"".

[Sushismom]

In my last LTR, I was more affectionate than he was and usually initiated the hugs. As for kissing, that was pretty much mutual. But we rarely did this in public.

On another note, respect isn't always lost when you sleep with your boyfriend. My last wanted to get married. I didn't. It wasn't that I didn't love him; I just saw no reason to be married.

[irishmama5]

Hmmmm, there is nothing wrong with wanting to hug and kiss, affection is important in a relationship However if you are a person that needs constant attention it could come across as needy. And JMO you are 57 and your BF is 47 if ALL you want is hugging and kissing and the rest you want to save for marriage, I'm sorry but your BF might think WHY get all cuddley its going no where unless he believes the same. Take it easy this is a new relationship and let him initatiate a hug or kiss sometimes. JMO

[PIT-HAG Melissa]

On 7/21/2014 Sushismom said:

In my last LTR, I was more affectionate than he was and usually initiated the hugs. As for kissing, that was pretty much mutual. But we rarely did this in public.

On another note, respect isn't always lost when you sleep with your boyfriend. My last wanted to get married. I didn't. It wasn't that I didn't love him; I just saw no reason to be married.

ITA!

[RibbonsRosesRainbows]

On 7/21/2014 SoftRaindrops said:

On your other thread you posted you are ""saving yourself"" for marriage. Maybe your new boyfriend doesn't want to hug and kiss you because he is afraid he won't be able to abide by your wishes. Just a thought.

And isn't this a new relationship you are in? It may be your boyfriend wants his space and wants to get to know you better before he becomes demonstrative.

True.

[RibbonsRosesRainbows]

On 7/21/2014 irishmama5 said: Hmmmm, there is nothing wrong with wanting to hug and kiss, affection is important in a relationship However if you are a person that needs constant attention it could come across as needy. And JMO you are 57 and your BF is 47 if ALL you want is hugging and kissing and the rest you want to save for marriage, I'm sorry but your BF might think WHY get all cuddley its going no where unless he believes the same. Take it easy this is a new relationship and let him initatiate a hug or kiss sometimes. JMO

Great advice and thank you irishmama5.