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[reiki604]

On 8/22/2014 Usedtobeoxox said:

On 8/22/2014 brii said: I'm sure that was her plan all along. She never intended to live here with that baby.

I agree I think she used the son as a vehicle to have a baby and nothing more. I think she trapped the son and this was her plan all along

She didn't trap the son into anything. He willingly gave her a baby and is now giving up his rights and responsibilities to the baby. He is nothing more than a s@@rm donor and a deadbeat dad.

[CouponQueen]

I don't know immigration law at all..but I do know several people who had married a USA Citizen and stayed,

I know of one in my distant extended family (my cousin's girlfriend's sister) her boyfriend was/is a undocumented worker from Mexico...they married and he is soon on his way to being a good ole USA citizen..I don't know much about sponsoring and how much it costs..but she works as a Nurse's Aid and he works under the table in a Pizza Retaurant for $12 an hour.

Surely a Immigration Lawyer could assist in this.

Your DIL has a Master's Degree..so she isn't a dumb person.

Also, the plan was from the beginning the baby going back home with the maternal grandparents for a few years and was told that was their 'custom..'

As for staying a week to see the baby...Stay in a low cost hotel in the area so you do not clash or feel unwelcome. The stress level alone in that home with all of this going on I am sure is off the top..

I am sure your BF would assist you in a few bucks to go...you have saved him a lot in babysitting fees..in relationships you help each other out.

[RibbonsRosesRainbows]

She is upset that my son's dad and step mom or his aunt and uncle will not sponsor her but it will be for 10 years and they will be responsible for her insurance and car insurance and food and bills and etc etc etc..........unless a person is rich who could take that on?

[CouponQueen]

I am very confused. She must be here legally to go to school and obatain a job in Teaching..so she has a student visa..or something like that.

Her parents obviously have income so why are they NOT helping then? They knew their SIL was younger and had less education and income.

She needs to go to a IMMIGRATION ATTORNEY PRONTO! I am sure there are ways to apply etc.

This site has a TON of info

http://www.uscis.gov/us-citizenship/citizenship-through-naturalization/naturalization-spouses-us-ci...

[CouponQueen]

What is the current income according to the federal poverty line? The poverty lines vary according to the size of the family unit. In 2011, poverty lines for the contiguous 48 states and the District of Columbia consisted of the following breakdown: 1 household member: $10,890 2 household members: $14,710 3 household members: $18,530 4 household member: $22,350 5 household members: $26,170 6 household member: $29,990 7 household member: $33,810 8 household member: $37,630 (For family units with more than 8 members, add $3,820 for each additional member. Please be noted that the federal poverty lines are higher for Alaska and Hawaii.) [Information according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services website]

Do the federal poverty guidelines change? Yes, the federal poverty guidelines change from year to year.

I am a U.S. citizen and have been out of work for several years, can I sponsor my wife in her green card application?

Yes, but you need a co-sponsor for the financial supports. If I have a co-sponsor for my wife’s application, will the USCIS question my ability to support my wife who can actually support herself? No. It is OK as long as your co-sponsor meets the financial support requirements.

I have no income and cannot find a co-sponsor, what else can I do to sponsor my wife?

You may provide evidence of assets that are readily available and, combining with your total household income, fulfill the income eligibility requirement. Your wife’s income may also be included as your household income if she has been living with you for the last 6 months. [8 C.F.R. 213a.2 (c)(1)] - See more at: http://www.hooyou.com/familybased/faq.html#sthash.gvI0zqfU.dpuf

So according to what I just posted they only need a total COMBINED income of $18,530...You son needs to find a FULL TIME job that makes at least $9 an hour (or about)...or TWO jobs..and she can work part-time too...it is COMBINED income..

[biancardi]

why on earth would a mother give her very much loved and wanted baby to grandparents to raise? The audacity to even request that. How insulting.

[biancardi]

On 8/22/2014 reiki604 said:

On 8/22/2014 Usedtobeoxox said:

On 8/22/2014 brii said: I'm sure that was her plan all along. She never intended to live here with that baby.

I agree I think she used the son as a vehicle to have a baby and nothing more. I think she trapped the son and this was her plan all along

She didn't trap the son into anything. He willingly gave her a baby and is now giving up his rights and responsibilities to the baby. He is nothing more than a s@@rm donor and a deadbeat dad.

I agree. I wish folks wouldn't dump on the mother here. She is doing what is best for her child and herself. It the father is such a deadbeat that he cannot care for his own family and would rather play video games, she is one smart cookie to get away from this toxic environment.

[CouponQueen]

RRR actually I blame your SON..for not stepping up and providing for his family. You have posted how he only works part-time..wants to play video games etc..and hang on the beach.

It is about time for him to grow *** up! Seriously, not on you but on him. He is NOW a husband and father!

They can combined make the income necessary.

To be quite honest I wouldn't sponsor somebody when they had a able bodied husband who is not willing to stand up and be a man.

This is not on anybody but THEM. She knew what she was getting into when she married a immature person like that..birth control works BOTH ways! You have posted he does not like certain forms of BC and refuses to used them...so that said...it is just as much on her what happens with her body..what she allows with her body etc. But that is another topic for another day.

Lastly, the plan was all along for the baby to return with her grandparents anyway..so this is not really news! When posters protested this...we were told it is their custom over there..What kind of life is the child going to have here with a father that will not get off his duff and find a full time job to provide for her to stay in a country she was born in ?? The mother has said all along the baby was returning to her home country with her parents...from the get go.

[biancardi]

sponsors are ONLY responsible for fees if she cannot pay for them.

Since she is paying for them now, I doubt she is the problem here. I doubt the DIL is a deadbeat - she sounds very responsible and has her head on straight.

[RibbonsRosesRainbows]

On 8/21/2014 monketoes said:

Did they ever talk to you about him going over there with her and the baby?

They are so wishy washy........I know they were going to live in Malaysia but I found out that my son can only stay 90 days.........and the is no dual citizenship in Malaysia......and my DIL is still telling all of us that the baby can have dual citizenship until she is 21 and then she can make a decision to be Malaysian or USA citizen but my son's step mom says THEY HAVE NO DUAL citizenship in Malaysia and my DIL and her family had to know this........I feel so sorry for my son........I have moved on with my life and I have a boyfriend/partner or whatever they are called we say boyfriend and girlfriend.....anyway I am moving forward and I am not taking care of my son anymore and he can't live with me anymore. Sorry but I am moving forward. He is not even working right now and he should be trying to find a full time job to bring enough money home.........and support his family but he is lazy and always has been and we tried to tell her that before the marriage and she kept saying if he loves me he will change NO he will change when he is on the street or mature.