Invitation Dilemma - Page 4

Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

Since you are worried about her, why don't you pick up the phone, and actually call her, and speak to her person-to-person?

Let her know that you are worried.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@jaxs mom wrote:
@OfCourse wrote:
"I need to look at my calendar" is an exceedingly rude reply to an invitation, it seems to me. How long does it take her to do that? It seems to me she could do that immediately rather than leaving it hanging. I'd just go ahead and make other plans and then if she replies late just say you thought she couldn't make it and so made other plans. Hopefully she wouldn't show up at your house unexpectedly.
It's not just her it's also her husband. I don't think it's surprising she'd need to consult with him regarding the plans before RSVPing.

And that would take a week???

Wsmom · ‎03-09-2010

Regarding the texting vs. calling and one of many reasons for texting, people are busy. My friends and I always text each other, as do I with my family. When we want to talk on the phone we say let me know when you can chat and then we call to talk. Inviting friends over is always done via text. I happen to be retired now but a lot of my friends still work. That way when they have a chance they can take a second to check their text vs. answering the phone or listening to a VM. This is just the busy world most of us live in. If we had to follow the rules of etiquette we'd never connect!

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@Plaid Pants2 wrote:
Since you are worried about her, why don't you pick up the phone, and actually call her, and speak to her person-to-person?

Let her know that you are worried.

@Plaid Pants2 @Sheilaray

ITA .... enough with the darn texting already ..... you can see it has gotten you nowhere.

There could be another invitation or situation pending ..... a terrible recent diagnosis in the family ..... a recent job loss ...... any number of things.

Please ..... pick up the phone and call her.

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

My first thought is to just forget your get-together and make other plans re: your DH's birthday. .......... In addition to this, if you feel that you absolutely need some type of explanation, give her a phone call and/or leave her a very short voicemail message. Tell her that since you haven't heard from her, you're assuming that they won't attend, which is perfectly alright with you. And then, after that sentence, a short: 'Hoping all is well with you' at the end of your message. Be nice, don't sound panicked, etc. Just a couple of nice sentences. Good luck to you and all concerned, and enjoy your DH's birthday!

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Lindsays Grandma · ‎03-10-2010

demanda, you get an A+ for that perfect answer.

@demanda wrote:
Why not text her again and ask her if she has had an opportunity to check her calendar and if she can't make it, you understand but would like to move forward with other plans.

The moving finger writes; And having writ, Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line Nor all your Tears Wash out a Word of it. Omar Khayam

Calcgirl · ‎03-10-2010

If she was my friend and her behavior seemed out of character I would immediately call her to see if something is wrong. Maybe there is a maritual or health problem. Be a friend and call her.

Lindsays Grandma · ‎03-10-2010

Sheilaray...I think this is a first for everyone being on the same page. Every poster advised either calling your friend or texting her (I'm for calling). Now that you are worried there may be trouble brewing on her end I agree with the others that you should call her and politely ask if they can make it and throw in a "I hope all is well", and if you don't get a straight answer drop it and make other plans. That last part about dropping it is my opinion. Good luck, don't stew about it, I'm sure you will eventually find out what, if anything, is going on in your friend's life.

Have a wonderful time celebrating your husband's birthday. You sound like a very nice person and if you were my friend and invited me I would have gotten back to you within a day.

The moving finger writes; And having writ, Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line Nor all your Tears Wash out a Word of it. Omar Khayam

Sheilaray · ‎03-10-2010

Thanks again for all the responses. She did finally get back to me. She is suppose to be calling with an explanation for the delay in response. So far no call..no hard feelings...I love these people and just hope everything is okay! For those wondering why the texting and not a call: both couples have super busy work, travel and social scedules. Texting just works for us (up 'til now) since we don't know each other's daily routine and we can respond no matter where we are. The last time we got together was for a college homecoming game, they texted to meet up an hour before. LOL. Also, its 2017. ;-)