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[Moonchilde]

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@MaggieMack wrote:

@truffle, I tend to believe that I arrived here as an introvert instead of being conditioned into that state. I am not really reticent to offer an idea, but I do retreat if that idea is summarily shot down. Same for the boards, if I get attacked by a well-constructed flank, I will just not return rather than fight to the bitter end.

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I would say I pick my battles 😁 Everything isn't worth it but some things are.

[truffle]

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@Moonchilde wrote:

@truffle, Extroverts can feel insecure and lack confidence too, but I suppose it would have more of an effect on an Introvert. An Extrovert might "bounce" easier or faster from a setback. In the working world, in the US, Introverts are used to feeling, being told, and treated as if they don't count. You were a rare co-worker who made the effort to respect them and their contributuon. Thank you :-)

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You're welcome. 

[Shorty2U]

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@winamac1 wrote:

TOP DEFINITION
Introvert
Opposite of extrovert. A person who is energized by spending time alone. Often found in their homes, libraries, quiet parks that not many people know about, or other secluded places, introverts like to think and be alone.

Contrary to popular belief, not all introverts are shy. Some may have great social lives and love talking to their friends but just need some time to be alone to "recharge" afterwards. The word "Introvert" has negative connotations that need to be destroyed. Introverts are simply misunderstood because the majority of the population consists of extroverts.
Extrovert: Oh my god, you're so shy! You need to get out more!
Introvert: But it's so draining - I don't have a problem with going out; I just want to stay at home and read sometimes, y'know?

Jesse is an introvert. He doesn't mind staying home on a Friday night.

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By your copy of the definition, I am an extrovert that thought I was an introvert because I am shy around people I don't know. But by this definition I now know I am far from an introvert! But my husband is an introvert and in the past I have been known to say things to him like why don't you want to go do such and such today? And yes it doesnt mean they dont ever do anything! Because he and I do lots of things together and with family etc.

[GCR18]

I am definitely an introvert.  I like hanging out by myself.  I will go anywhere or do anything by myself.  My sister can't be alone or do anything by herself.  I've always been called quiet or shy, doesn't bother me.  I am quiet if I don't have anything to add to the conversation.

[segrl21]

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@Moonchilde wrote:

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@FLgardener wrote:

Being an introvert is a personality type, not a defect that needs to be fixed.

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LOL - who said it was? Not me, although many Extroverts look on it as such.

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When I worked overseas for a bit had to go to a training camp and we had a personality expert gave us a Myers Brigg. He then divided the room between the extroverts/introverts & had us ask questions, for the other side. Some of misconceptions introverts had about extroverts, they aways had to be around people, needy and show offs. It was very eye opening, especially as an introvert because I had misconceptions about extroverts. They basically had fun with us, laughing at some point. One guy even said he could say anything he wanted an introverts wouldn't challenge him. The expert then says to the extroverts, "you vastly outnumber the introverts" and then added "you should be nicer because in reality introverts are often leaders, teachers, inventors, bosses, even Presidents and often CEOs". He jokingly added "masters meet your slaves". It was funny and it calmed the room but his point was, we often elect introverts as our managers & leaders. Yet we still have a lot of misconception & anti-social labels for them. Btw..it has little to do with shy, versus outgoing, its just where you go to destress, process information & how you make decisions.  You can be outgoing and still be an introvert. 

[Moonchilde]

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@segrl21 wrote:

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@Moonchilde wrote:

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@FLgardener wrote:

Being an introvert is a personality type, not a defect that needs to be fixed.

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LOL - who said it was? Not me, although many Extroverts look on it as such.

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When I worked overseas for a bit had to go to a training camp and we had a personality expert gave us a Myers Brigg. He then divided the room between the extroverts/introverts & had us ask questions, for the other side. Some of misconceptions introverts had about extroverts, they aways had to be around people, needy and show offs. It was very eye opening, especially as an introvert because I had misconceptions about extroverts. They basically had fun with us, laughing at some point. One guy even said he could say anything he wanted an introverts wouldn't challenge him. The expert then says to the extroverts, "you vastly outnumber the introverts" and then added "you should be nicer because in reality introverts are often leaders, teachers, inventors, bosses, even Presidents and often CEOs". He jokingly added "masters meet your slaves". It was funny and it calmed the room but his point was, we often elect introverts as our managers & leaders. Yet we still have a lot of misconception & anti-social labels for them. Btw..it has little to do with shy, versus outgoing, its just where you go to destress, process information & how you make decisions.  You can be outgoing and still be an introvert. 

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Interesting that when I think about it, I don't have a lot of preconceived notions about extroverts that are the solid, "they're all like that" kind. The only thing that comes to mind is that most of the time they need/want others around to bounce off of and get feedback from. And that some manifest as loudmouths (compared to Introverts) whose behavior can be perceived as bragging.

I phrase it like this because I spent many years deep in MBTI-land on various forums that crossed back and forth between my Type and other Types including discussions of Extrovert behavior and motivations.

We became accustomed to each Type knocking the others to various degrees in conversation but not nastily; it aided understanding between people who looked at life completely differently and whose thought processes were completely different than our own. We learned that X behavior was not always someone being deliberately rude, sometimes it was just a manifestation of how Type XXXX's mind works, which might be very different - and much more different between specific Types than between Introverts and Extroverts.

It taught us how to get along with a wide variety of people. To recognize that we all see the world differently. That we might not appreciate each other's methods much but we could at least acknowledge that they WERE just different ways of seeing things, not deliberate combativeness.

[GingerPeach]

I'm glad the thread introduced different ways of classification and testing.  I hope anyone who hasn't (and is truly interested) takes some time to either do some online testing, or get a book, or otherwise find out about yourself.  It really is fun.

There's a pretty decent online test at 16personalities with  .com

Anybody else used that site?  Comments, pros, cons?

I found it to be fairly accurate for me.

[Moonchilde]

@GingerPeach I did most of my testing a long time ago and some of the sites I used aren't around any longer, but I know that site has been around a long time, too. To me, the more questions asked, the deeper the test goes in accuracy.

For anyone who isn't aware, the free sites have to say "Myers-Briggs TYPE" test, or "based on" or "similar to" Myers-Briggs or Four Temperaments, Keirsey, etc. because of copyright and the fact that those official sites charge big bucks for their official results vs the free sites. But in the past at least, there have been free sites that had up to 50 questions, so pretty detailed.  I'm notsure if the enneagram sites are open or not.

[bri20]

I've been told I get along with a lot of different types of people. 

I love to be alone though.  When I'm around people a lot, I feel like I have to be "on".  That gets tiresome for me.  LOL

Not that I'm phoney or fake with people, I just hold myself up to a certain standard.  It's me, not other people.

[Puzzle Piece]

To me, people are what they are and it's not my place to fix them.  My husband and I are considered quiet, private, people.  We aren't out there making a lot of noise and drawing attention to ourselves.  We are cautious of people as wise people should be.  We do know how to socialize but it's at our discretion.