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06-01-2018 04:23 PM
@Elom I got him 3 choc chip cookies
06-01-2018 04:32 PM
I'm glad I did the dinner. I don't know how many groceries he has in his home. He can't get to the grocery store without being driven, and he hasn't asked for a ride
06-01-2018 05:00 PM
he wants to pay his way and that is nice. just accept the money. you will have many choices as to what to do with it........use it to get gasoline, donate it to charity, donate it to the local center he attends if they accept donations. you could also put it away and keep it for when you yourself may be in the same situation in the future and need to hire ubers or taxis.
06-01-2018 05:28 PM
@cherry wrote:He is a wonderful man and is 90 years old. His licence was taken away, until he gets tested by the state. He had a minor fender bender. We have never noticed bad driving on his part, but that isn't our problem
Mr Cherry has volunteered to take him where he needs to go. So far ,it is only a one way trip to the senior center. It cant be more than a 5 mile round trip, and he gets a ride home.
He just insists on giving my husband money, every week for gas. We don't want it, and have refused to take it. He then throws it into the car, as he departs. I know he isn't hard up, but neither are we, and we don't want repayment
He and is wife were so wonderful, to us, many years ago, when Mr Cherry had cancer. We have never forgotten their goodness, and kindness
I want to put it into an envelope and stick it into his mailbox, but, I am afraid he might be offended by this. Can you offer a suggestion?
hold on the money
relatives can come out the woodwork and claim all sorts of stuff,
maybe label the envelope?
Paranoid perhaps but money does things
06-01-2018 06:05 PM - edited 06-01-2018 06:09 PM
I would ask him to go to lunch with you...do u know if he has anyone who is looking after him? Wondered who gets his groceries etc since he can't drive. Paying his own way and not being beholden to anyone is important to his generation.
06-01-2018 06:06 PM
He has no children, his wife is dead, and his brother is in a nursing hom
06-01-2018 06:58 PM
Let him give you money if he insists. It’s his nature not to take advantage or be a burden to anyone.
My mom was the same way (would have been 90 June10). If I picked up something from the store even if she didn’t ask for her she insisted paying.
I get get it now. Don’t deprive him of wanting to do something nice for you since you did something nice for him. Believe it or not, there are still people out there who don’t want “hand outs”.
06-01-2018 07:10 PM
@cherry wrote:He is a wonderful man and is 90 years old. His licence was taken away, until he gets tested by the state. He had a minor fender bender. We have never noticed bad driving on his part, but that isn't our problem
Mr Cherry has volunteered to take him where he needs to go. So far ,it is only a one way trip to the senior center. It cant be more than a 5 mile round trip, and he gets a ride home.
He just insists on giving my husband money, every week for gas. We don't want it, and have refused to take it. He then throws it into the car, as he departs. I know he isn't hard up, but neither are we, and we don't want repayment
He and is wife were so wonderful, to us, many years ago, when Mr Cherry had cancer. We have never forgotten their goodness, and kindness
I want to put it into an envelope and stick it into his mailbox, but, I am afraid he might be offended by this. Can you offer a suggestion?
Keep the money. It makes him feel good to give it to your husband, so just let it be. If money was an issue for him, I would probably have a different answer. But you said he isn't hard up, so my advice is to just accept it graciously. And don't make him throw it on the floor. He's probably embarrassed by the situation, and being able to pay your husband allows him some dignity.
(Your husband is very nice to do this, btw. It sounds as though you have a good neighbor and that you are good neighbors too!)
06-01-2018 07:16 PM - edited 06-01-2018 07:18 PM
When my husband had cancer surgery, he was the first one to come over, to offer to help us. He and his wife started to pray for his recovery, at the instant they heard he was ill
I can't even begin to tell you how much it meant to me, then, and it still does ,today. I feel indebted to them, more than they will ever know
I will just tell Mr Cherry to thank him, and make sure he reminds him, what a good man ,and neighbor, he has always been to us
06-01-2018 07:23 PM
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