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[cherry]

He has no family, except for 1 brother, who is in a nursing home

[okaywitheasypay]

Maybe find out what kind of treats they use at the senior center and take them in when you deliver him ? 

He is from a background of paying his way so don't take his dignity. It sounds like neither of the neighbors are short of good neighbors !

[qualitygal]

I bet he'd love to share that chicken dinner with you at your house.  Good idea!

[VaBelle35]

I agree about donating to charity

[SahmIam]

@cherry Just take the money and say "Thank You". 

Why the insistence on NOT taking it? He wants to do it, he believes  he should do it, why not allow him to do it?

Collect it and pass it on to charity. Save it and buy a gorgeous flower arrangement when he passes. Give it to his family. But whatever you do, stop saying no to it; feeling like burden to someone (even if you're not) makes you stop reaching out to them. This is important to HIM, so just go with it. : )

[cherry]

I guess I just feel ashamed to  take money from him. He is so good to everyone @SahmIam

[SahmIam]

@cherry  I COMPLETELY understand how you feel. The funny thing? How YOU feel TAKING his money is how HE feels when you DON'T.

We're never an island when it comes to feelings. : )

[fthunt]

So why the big problem?   The man has pride and dignity and doesn't want charity...and was taught to pay his way and to say thank you to Mr. Cherry.  Take the cash - don't refuse it - and in turn - make him his favorite pie or cake or cookies.  Let the gent say ..thank you...his way.  (Gish)

[cddh]

People of that genration have tremendous pride.  Take the money, it makes neighbor feel as if he not imposing.  Save the money.  Take them out to dinner, get them a gift card for groceries or donate to charity or his church in his name.

[gidgetgh]

@cherry- I’d accept the money and just say thanks. That’s it. 

At age 90, and having lost his license, he is feeling that the life he knew and the life he was in control of is slipping away. Giving you this simple gift makes HIM feel good about himself and having him feel good about giving the money is the gift for you. If I made any sense with that.