Re: I'm confused

Lindsays Grandma · ‎03-10-2010

@151949 wrote:
I know a couple who also did this Mary Smith married John Doe - they both changed their names to Smith - Doe so when they have children everyone's name will be the same.
To be perfectly honest I don't understand why the OP thinks that personal information about her doctor is really any of her business.

I don't think she intended to make it her business, she was just curious.

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tucsongal · ‎03-10-2010

These conversations are always interesting. Any man that expected me to change my name to his would not have been the man for me. I don’t think we discussed hyphenating.

stevieb · ‎03-10-2010

One wonders... is there a protocol when hyphenating about whose last name goes before the hyphen and whose goes after...

Honestly...

Personally, I'd choose to avoid the dilemma and have everyone keep their own name unless they prefer the other name...

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Equuleus · ‎06-15-2018

Honestly the topics that get six pages of discussions amaze me.

Drythe · ‎07-09-2011

I know many couples who have hyphenated their names, and I do mean many. Not un-common at all.

But, as the OP said in her 2nd post, s/he has a personal issue with it.

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ItsME · ‎03-10-2010

My cousin and her husband did this way back in the late 70s. Hyphenated it. Hers-His.

I went to grad school with a guy who took his wife's last name when he got married. His was a name that got him teased a lot when he was a kid, and he didn't want his own kids to go through that.

lovesrecess · ‎03-14-2010

I have a close friend who is a physician. She married about 10 years ago but still goes by her maiden name (Allen) professionally; she said she earned her reputation as a surgeon as Dr Allen and didn't want to lose that association with her name. I admire that. Her hubby is a-okay with it. She goes by her married name except at work.

reiki604 · ‎03-09-2010

I kept my name 35+ years ago when I married DH. It's my name. It wasn't even an issue for us.

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puttypiesmom · ‎10-11-2017

@newname0 wrote:
I went to see a new doctor I was assigned to with a hypenated name and I asked him why he hypenated his name and he told me it was his wife's name. Now I can't figure out what he meant by that. My son's wife hypenated her name but my son is still using his own given name. Have you ever heard of the man taking the woman's name?

@newname0If the doctor's diploma(s) are in a different name (yes, I do read them when they are hanging on the wall at his practice) then I would think that was strange.

We all know that it is much more common to see married women take their husband's name and use a hyphen when she doesn't want to give up her own family's name.

But there's really no logical reason to take the wife's family name. Yes, it is becoming more common but I think it's done to just buck convention and no, it's not that common.

One doctor of mine has had a fascinating career that includes military and I thoroughly enjoyed reading each and every plaque and all his accomplishments that were in HIS name and I'm sure he wouldn't have had it any other way.