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[SaRina]

"Thoughts?"

Too petty to even bother figuring out. This is the kind of stuff better suited for high school.

[Apple Crisp]

@Jackhound Mom I googled "got rocks mamma" and found that it is related to an urban slang expression for "Mr. Got Rocks," and the definition was "a person who acts like they have a lot of money to spend and flaunts it." I think you did a nice thing for your retiring friend and I think this Susie person has other issues. Don't let her get you down. There's one in every bunch. She totally misunderstood what you were doing and instead of accepting it graciously, she took offense. It reminds me of the expression, "No good deed goes unpunished." She may be jealous of you for some reason, and I think you should just keep your distance from her.

[Plaid Pants2]

To me, "got rocks" is the same thing as saying "you've got balls".

[JobGirl]

I am still trying to figure out why you would even have a lunch like that with neighbors you don't seem to be all that friendly with

[beckyb1012]

All that matter is your retiring friend had a special day and knows your heart to help her celebrate this time in her life.  As far as the other lady, she may think she is closer to the woman and should have or wished she initiated the luncheon. 

You did a nice thing for a nice woman that is all that is important.

[Jackhound Mom]

Thank you all for your answers! 

Only Susie and her friend didn't talk to me.  Everyone else was delightful.  We live in an "over 55" community and there is a roster with names, addresses and #s. 

One of my favorite friends (who is 80) originally said she would have a potluck at her home but I suggested we go out so it would be easier on her. 

I do not have more than anyone on the street, I'm sure it's the other way around.  Most of the time my neighbors see me without makeup and in a caftan.  I do all my own yard work and have even helped a few with their yards. 

The lightbulb didn't really go off for me until the call.  Perhaps I should confront her but that is not really in me.  It does feel very "high school!"

I still have to live here and see these woman every day of my life and just wanted some other opinions without discussing it with my local friends and involving them or effecting their opinions or friendships.

[Allegheny]

I'm kinda confused.  Who is Carol?  Is she the neighbor who is a friend of Suzie?  

Well this is the way I see it.  You did a nice thing for Barb and shared this opportunity with other neighbor gals who know her.  

Suzie appears to be a b..ch, who perhaps doesn't like you, is jealous of you, and who obviously has no control over her mouth in a social situation.  Her comment is only a reflection on her character and not yours.  I would just carry on.  Treat her the same way you always have.  Fair or not, we can't expect everyone to like us even if unwarranted.  May-be someday she might have a change in attitude.

[Jackhound Mom]

My 80 year old friend thought inviting everyone on our street would help Barb get to know us all as she has been working and we rarely saw her.

My husband and I plan on having a meal with Barb down the road.

Thank you again,

Happy posting,

Cathy

[dex]

I think you are a thoughtful person and Susie is jealous...possibly she heard too many nice things sbout your kindness and she wanted the accolades.

[Q4u]

I'd ignore the whole thing and never bring it up to her. When I see her, I'd acknowledge her by smiling and waving like nothing ever happened.  Nothing takes the wind out of sails than pretending nothing happened ..... besides, you're (and we're) not sure exactly what happened.... I'd let it go....