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[betteb]

On 6/20/2014 croemer said:

betteb...

Thank you croemer. Back atcha GF

[MaRina]

I would have felt awkward and hurt. Sorry this happened to you Jules

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU

[baddest_dog]

On 6/20/2014 raven-blackbird said:

On 6/20/2014 voyager1980 said:

On 6/20/2014 ivey said:

Jules--a very happy birthday to you. Celebrate tomorrow exactly like you want to.

Regarding your friends--Maya Angelou said, "Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option."

I don't think that saying fits here WADR. I'll say what I said before. An elderly lady in a nursing home who needs a walker gave a lot of herself & meant well. How does that make her not a good & kind friend? Still glad the lady can't read this thread

me too......................................raven

I think that anyone who has a friend, young or old, who makes the time to go out with them for their birthday is one lucky person. There are many who don't even get a phone call. This lady became a friend from the nursing home and it just might be that she hasn't been OUT to eat in a long time and thought a $20 bill could cover lunch. It could cover lunch at many places like Panera for instance. Maybe she just didn't know.

I would never publicly write some long dissertation about it on a public forum unless I was looking for sympathy or attention. Maybe that's the undercurrent of the whole story.

[VanSleepy]

Jules has not once returned to this thread. I hope she's not out paying for half her birthday dinner.

[voyager1980]

On 6/20/2014 raven-blackbird said:

On 6/20/2014 Sabatini2 said:

On 6/20/2014 raven-blackbird said:

okay........a friend didn't want you to spend your birthday by yourself.......so she did the best she could and gave you the most valuable present... her time.......what difference in the long run of things if you had to pay part of the bill for lunch........this woman, who does not sound like she is in the best of health, went to the effort to get herself ready.......which I don't imagine is an easy thing to do with a walker in tow.........wanted to up the lunch by having lunch at Applebees instead of iHOP...........lets face it, that 20 would have covered lunch there........and did her best effort to show YOU that you are important in her life.........important enough not to have you spend your birthday alone................dunno.............I still think there's a lot of wisdom in the sentence.......it's the thought that counts.......................................raven

The trouble is, raven, it wasn't all that thoughtful. It was the friend's idea in the 1st place, & she offered to treat. What if Jules had brought no money along, assuming it was truly going to be a treat? That would've been embarrassing!

I disagree...........the original venue was iHOP, and let's face it, that 20 would have paid the bill there, no problem........the venue changed when the other lady had other plans........the woman probably thought she would have enough with the other person not there and wanted to make the lunch nice for Jules........and she probably felt bad for Jules because of the other woman bowing out........ so she switched to Applebees, not knowing she wouldn't have enough money to be able to do what she wanted to do for Jules........what is being missed is.............the woman is not in good health and probably doesn't have alot, if much, money at all............what she does have, she wanted to spend on Jules.........that's A LOT for someone on a limited income........it's speaks volumes on Jules importance in this woman's life.......and that's being missed.........like voyager, I hope the lady doesn't read here, her heart would probably be broken................................................raven

Thanks for this post too Raven.Yes I think her heart would be broken ):

[voyager1980]

Looks like somebody's reporting posts ( unless everybody edited theirs) sheesh ):

[raven-blackbird]

On 6/20/2014 voyager1980 said:

Looks like somebody's reporting posts ( unless everybody edited theirs) sheesh ):

just the posts that have empathy for the lady who tried to do something nice on a limited income...............................................raven

[focksie]

No, I would not be irked. Since the woman is a resident in the nursing home, I assume she is elderly, at least partially disabled (walker), and thought enough of your friendship to invite you out so you wouldn't be alone on your birthday. I would be happy just for the thought and acknowledgement. Perhaps she was absolutely mortified when she realized she didn't have enough money to cover the bill.

I understand that many people regard their birthday, even when they are older, to be extremely important and want it to be recognized and celebrated in just the right way. I don't happen to be one of them. I'm grateful just to have kind thoughts on my birthday, but if people don't even remember it, that's fine too.

[Surfnturf]

Okay, I just read the OP again. If my friend were in a nursing home, I wouldn't allow her to buy my lunch. I would have thanked her for the kind gesture, and at the proper time, arrange through the waitress to give me the check. People in nursing homes cannot afford to treat others to lunch.

[baddest_dog]

I didn't edit mine. But I did read a thread recently that when someone reports your post it shows edited so apparently someone thought my post s/b deleted. What a shame people do this whenever there is not 100% support and AGREEMENT with the OP's.