Honey???Dear???? - Page 11

IamMrsG · ‎08-29-2010

The only form of address that rankles me is to be called "Sister," which is usually by an older gentleman.

Strive for respect instead of attention. It lasts longer.

Mumof2 · ‎03-10-2010

It does not bother me in the least. We just returned from Aruba and so many people there said Hon or Honey and I believe it was all a positive gesture.

I've been called much, much, worse. LOL!

suzyQ3 · ‎03-09-2010

Okay, so now I've read through the thread. What stands out are the posts assuming that this is a huge deal to the OP or anyone who agrees with her, that it is a petty issue.

Since when are we relegated only to discuss major problems or issues? Most of them aren't even allowed here. :-)

I'm not about to fell someone for calling me any of the forms of supposed endearment (unless it's a man and he touches me at the same time). But all the same, I think they are a diminution of status.

~Who in the world am I? Ah, that's the great puzzle~ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Marp · ‎03-09-2010

@Free2be wrote:
"Hon" and "Dear" are fine terms when speaking to small children or maybe spouses depending on the ages and area they are living in whether it's their comfort level. My DH calls me "Sweetie" which may not be a term used in another part of the country.

"You guys" is a common term used among friedly groups all of my life, for men and women and mixed groups which is nice in its equality, there's no insult intended, it's light hearted. I might direct it at my grown kids, male and female, or in any number of situations.

You guys/youz guys is the equivalent of our y'all or sometimes folks.

What is good for the goose today will also be good for the gander tomorrow.

Marp · ‎03-09-2010

@IamMrsG wrote:
The only form of address that rankles me is to be called "Sister," which is usually by an older gentleman.

Now that would irk me unless I happened to be wearing a traditional Habit or was being addressed by a member of a church where Brother or Sister was the norm.

What is good for the goose today will also be good for the gander tomorrow.

suzyQ3 · ‎03-09-2010

@Marp wrote:
@Free2be wrote:
"Hon" and "Dear" are fine terms when speaking to small children or maybe spouses depending on the ages and area they are living in whether it's their comfort level. My DH calls me "Sweetie" which may not be a term used in another part of the country.

"You guys" is a common term used among friedly groups all of my life, for men and women and mixed groups which is nice in its equality, there's no insult intended, it's light hearted. I might direct it at my grown kids, male and female, or in any number of situations.
You guys/youz guys is the equivalent of our y'all or sometimes folks.

@Marp& @Free2be , when I taught adults, I relied on "you guys." I use often elsewhere as well. For me, it beats "ladies and gentlemen" any day. :-)

I don't find it objectionable as a way to address a mixed group, but I know that others disagree.

To me, it is not the same as the endearments.

~Who in the world am I? Ah, that's the great puzzle~ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

@Sooner wrote:
@Marp wrote:
@Carmie wrote:
@Hooty wrote:
LOL, this is the most ridiculous post, complaining because someone is being respectable to you! I am from the South too, and it is a form of courtesy here, Bless your heart, Honey, LOL!!!
I am not from the south, but I know when someone says " Bless your heart" down south, they are not being kind to you. It's supposed polite way, of keeping ones mouth shut instead of saying something else.

i would not be thrilled if someone said that to me either.
@Carmie When someone down south says "Bless you heart" it can also be compassionate and empathetic similar to "poor dear" used in other regions of the country. Tone and context is everything with bless your heart. Now if someone says "bless your pea picking heart"...
I have lived in the South all my life and do not ever remember someone saying "Bless your heart" in a mean or put down way. Ever.

I have read a post of this forum once where somone...don't remember who, said that southerners say " bless your heart" when someone is lacking in good sense.

The urban dictionary also lists that phrase as being used to say someone is an idiot without being too harsh. there are other definitions that are too vulgar to list here.

Of course, some people use it to express sympathy or concern, but not all.

So, different meanings of the same phrase exist. Sometimes it is polite and sometimes not.

No pretending that the different meanings don't exist. They certainly do.

conlt · ‎03-16-2010

I am an RN and we are taught not to call anyone anything except Mr.... or Ms... Mrs..... I am from New Englad but I live in the south and it is common for people to call you honey, sweetie etc. so I guess I am used to it.

chiclets · ‎07-01-2012

I do not like it.

blackhole99 · ‎08-22-2013

@sydsgma1 wrote:
Is any one else offended by being called honey or dear by sales people, check out clerks, members of the medical profession etc. I may have silver hair, but I am highly educated and perfectly competent. Arghhhhh!!!!

This way of thinking is one of the reasons people cannot be civil to one another anymore, people are offended by the most innocent comments. I don't think anyone cares that you are highly educated , they are just trying to be nice. I would think with all your education you could figure that out.