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[haddon9]

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@willowbark wrote:

@haddon9 sad actually that a simple discussion led to an assumption that you wanted a turntable.  No need to say anything to make your brother feel like a big dope so now unfortunately, it's on you to fake it each year that yes you love your turntable and use it frequently. 

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@willowbark I would never try to make him feel like a big dope but I don't have the energy to play games pretending that I use the TT regularly.  

Thanks for you opinion.

[haddon9]

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@Iwantcoffee wrote:

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@haddon9 wrote:

@SamBrown It is frustrating!   I will consider doing just that.

I know it was an expensive item to get even if he got it at a great Black Friday price.  I just don't understand what he was thinking.  I never like to give people pricey gifts unless they request it particularly if it requires work and the right space.

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You have 1000 LPs and nothing to play them on, it is a thoughtful gift.

If you don't want the work involved, that is not on him.

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@Iwantcoffee It's intreresting to see what others think and I appreciate all suggestions.  Thanks for your opinion.

[Yahooey]

I would be honest - appreciate the gesture and give it to your daughter.

Because lying about it has a way of coming back to bite you $^& especially since he doesnt live far away.

He seemed really escited to surpirse you- the next sentence would be 

let's hear it - even if in the bedroom or basement etc The sound must be amazing etc

[haddon9]

@monicakm I will let him know how nice & thoughtful the gift was. Just because I have a lot of LPs doesn't mean that I want a whole stereo system (is that the correct term today?) set up like I did when I was in my twenties.  I will have to think some more about how to approach the issue with him. 

@Desert Lily I know that LPs have become popular for Millennials today.  My Millennial DD loves her small record collection and we were planning on giving her more LPs soon.  

[haddon9]

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@Yahooey wrote:

I would be honest - appreciate the gesture and give it to your daughter.

Because lying about it has a way of coming back to bite you $^& especially since he doesnt live far away.

He seemed really escited to surpirse you- the next sentence would be 

let's hear it - even if in the bedroom or basement etc The sound must be amazing etc

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@Yahooey I agree and I don't want to deal with lies.

[haddon9]

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@monicakm wrote:
@haddon9

I think I would skip the whole "just because" sentence. That can come off a little harsh. How about something like would you mind if I exchanged it for something that I would get some use out of. I know it might be a little uncomfortable but I'm sure he would appreciate the honesty when it's all said and done. He obviously doesn't want you to have something you wouldn't enjoy.

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@monicakm I was never going to say that.  I was just pointing out that since I have A, it doesn't mean I want B to go with it....does that make sesne?

I was going to thank him again for the thoughtful gift and let him know that I really don't have the place or space for it in my family or living rooms.  

[Tinkrbl44]

@haddon9 

Huh ... interesting dilemma.

My two cents is to find a place for it somewhere, and occasionally dust it.  

Sounds like they were very pleased with their gift selection.  Don't rain on their parade.

[CelticCrafter]

Be honest, before the return period expires. 

Tell them you really don't have the space for it, especially since it needs speakers and a receiver.

[Desert Lily]

@haddon9  I'd be gracious, keep the turn table & album, be grateful, and say nothing about wanting to give it back. Is having a turn table worth risking hurting your brother's feelings? He made it such a kind & thoughtful gift.

Sometimes we need to know how to receive as well as how to give.

[LavernLuvsShoes]

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@Yahooey wrote:

I would be honest - Appreciate the gesture and give it to your daughter - He seemed really excited to surpirse you...

I totally agree!

Also, reiterate how lovely and thoughtful the gift was, and that you're sure your daughter will enjoy it more than you would. 

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