Community Chat

[Baileybut]

My cousin daughter was married last weekend, we live in NJ. Cost was 160 a head for reception. This is her only daughter.

[ROMARY]

Henderson:  Very sorry about the loss of your son.

[Katyq]

My favorite wedding that I attended was also the lowest (very low) budget one. They were so creative and the priorities were so in line with what i think they should be. Lavish weddings make me sick. Even mine, that my parents paid for was too much for my taste. My ex was the male version of the bride from hell. Should have realized that was a sign. Hindsight is 20/20.

[Sooner]

When in the world did people come to feel they are entitled to and able to spend so much on a wedding?  When did people start having to go to a resort and stick relatives with big bucks to get married?  

I am simply amazed at this new custom.  I mean really, you're just getting married.  It's nice for others to attend, but you aren't being crowned Queen of England and Head of the Church for crying out loud.  

Don't get me wrong, I've been married 40  years but in the scope of life it's ONE day.  

[nun ya]

 My daughter's best friend was married this past Sunday afternoon, It was at her church, and they had a small reception in the church hall afterwards. The food and cake were catered. I wasn't sure how it would turn out, but...I must say, it was perfect. It was small, quaint and felt personal. 

[ROMARY]

First of all, congratulations!  Personally, the best weddings that I enjoyed the most were smaller, quaint weddings/receptions.  Very meaningful and romantic.  Some weddings were outdoors, which I loved.  Others were weddings outdoors, reception indoors at the same venue.  All in all, seems as though the couples who had the smaller weddings years ago seem the happiest and most solid all of these years later.  Coincidence?  Also, seems to me that the Bride and Groom have a more relaxed time, enjoying their special day.  Not too much stress all the way around.

[KentuckyWoman]

If you told her $5000 was your budget then I would write her a check for that amount and tell her the rest is up to them.  Every bride wants a nice wedding but expenses can get out of control.  Children should not expect their parents to put themselves at risk for a wedding.

I am probably in the minority here but it's only one day.  Focus on the marriage and not the wedding. 

[ROMARY]

Off topic: 'I don't know why' (again), but I just typed into the search 'Jacnit'.  Hadn't heard from her in a long time.  She posted an update in Sept. .... Just in case anyone here has missed her.

[blackhole99]

My husband and I funded our own wedding 43 years ago, it was a very small wedding and we were both satisfied with the way our day turned out. I think you are a very generous mother and hope your daughter knows how lucky she is.

[birkin baby]

Congratulations on your daughter's engagement.  Give the $5000 and try not to worry. You are being extremely generous.  Text your daughter back and tell her she does not have to compromise on her plans and she can plan ANY  wedding she wants and your contribution is $5000!   I'm serious, you are not stopping her....you just are not bankrolling her plans.  I'm involved  in planning a wedding right now...not mine,LOL.  It is crazy how much stuff costs. I have been to many weddings and the simplest ones were my favorites.