Re: Help With Facebook Behavior, please.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

@ChynnaBlue wrote:
@Q4u wrote:
@ChynnaBlue wrote:
@Q4u wrote:
I believe it's as said.... to increase the overall "friends" on your page to make you look extremely successful (especially if your page is geared toward promoting your business and of course to just generally look really, really popular).....

I don't know anyone who would do this with a personal account. What would be the point of that? Do you measure anyone's success by the number of friends or Facebook friends someone has? Do you know anyone who does? I don't know anyone who finds value in that number.

To look really, really popular? The average Facebook user is between 24 and 39 and no one I know cared about that after high school. The people who care about numbers and popularity are on Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube.

If it's a business they might do that, but they can also pay a cheap fee to a third party and get hundreds or thousands of followers instantly. There's a whole market for that kind of thing, so no need to go look up individuals and hope they accept your request.
Then..... why bother??? Why then does Facebook have friends of friends of friends beseige your account?

What then is the point to all the friends?? (as was asked initially?)

To connect with people. That is the entire point of Facebook. Facebook is to connect with people and everyone you are friends with right now started off as someone you did not know. I feel like sometimes people forget that.

I've reconnected on Facebook with my best friends from summer camp, people who never lived near me and I only saw once a year and last saw 20 years ago. One of them friended me and then all the others noticed and reconnected. Several of them have come to Austin for vacation or business and I've gone out to lunch or dinner with them and it was like time hadn't passed at all.

A friend I know in real life connected me to one of her Facebook friends and now that person and I talk all the time because we have so much in common. I think we're now even closer to each other than either of us are to the friend who originally introduced us.

A woman I've never met connected with me after moving to Dallas from Philadelphia. I live in Austin, hours away, but she found me because we posted in the same groups and have a lot of things in common. She messages me frequently to share things with me or even ask advice.

Some people go to social media looking to make new friends - others go there to keep in touch on a daily basis with loved ones and friends who are far away, or to reconnect with people from their past they have lost touch with, and they aren't at all interested in connecting with strangers. No one has a right to tell others how they should use their FB account.Personally, I'm not at all interested in friending total strangers from all around the world. I know personally every single person on my friends list.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

@KentuckyWoman wrote:

I use Facebook to keep up with out of state cousins, friends, church contacts, and former co-workers now that I am retired. I know people who have thousands of friends. Nobody knows that many people. It's all for show I think.

I have fewer than 100 Facebook friends now. About four or five months ago, I un-friended about 50 people because many of the things they posted or shared were politically charged and that is not what I signed up for.

I agree totally. I have only unfriended a few people, one a cousin who just won't let the political stuff go and was always swearing at me because I disagreed with him. I reconnected last summer with a friend of my cousin's at her 50th anniversary party.We played together a lot as kids. We friended on FB and OMG - the garbage he was spewing on FB was disgusting - unfriended him very fast. So my friends list is small but I would not mind if any one of them turned up at my front door.

stargazergal · ‎02-18-2016

Same here ! No real name AND only have 11 friends ( family members) so I can look at family photo's. I do not like myself advertised to everyone else's friends because I just happen to be friends with a certain handful of people. I feel like I am being advertised. Hence the reason for nickname, and I don't use a profile photo of myself.

Too much out there in the computer world as far as I am concerned. I don't like to advertise my life for all to see on the computer, I value my privacy and like to be in control of what I feel belongs to me as far as my life is concerned. I use messaging to have private conversations.... that part is nice. It's just not private enough for me.

gabstoomuch · ‎03-16-2010

I only have 5 friends. Interacting with people I know is not my motive for having a page.

I only have it because there are many professional pages. (lawn care, house maintenance, buying a car, you name it). You can read customer posts, how copany replies, etc, etc. My Town regularly posts information about my community, I like that.

There are also 100's (probably thousands) of 'groups'. Joining a group for something of common interest is fun.

I have health issues that have slowed my life way down, and there are groups for medical issues. Sharing with people who are also suffering whatever ailment one might have really helps. Makes me feel so not alone. A lot of today's health issues are diet and lifestyle caused, and I read a lot in those groups. I get some really great ideas from perfect strangers. People post links to information regarding whatever the group 'cause' or name is, and I find so many articles with information I most likely would never have found.

I post once in a while, if a thread is particularly interesting. I mostly read.

I have learned a lot of valuable information on Facebook. If one has an interest, you can be sure there is a Facebook Group for it.

Also, I look at (and download) pictures of my G-kids. That is why I have 5 friends, their pages are not public so I have to be friends to see pictures.

I get friend requests, but I just let them sit there. I don't deny, because it makes someone feel bad. Ignoring is probably rude too, but a friend pf a friend of a cousin is not on my list of "friend"

I do follow Philip Watson. He is awesome to follow because he is a fabulous photographer, and he travels the country when he is off-season at the Q. Taking care of his own clients, or visiting different nurseries in search of new flowers. He is such a genuine, likeable man.

Chuck Clemency is the other one I follow (from Evine-jewelry). He is a hoot. He posts pictures a lot, great great family he has. He pops on once in a while to answer questions, or say what's coming in the future. He has over 4000 friends!!! He just approves everyone. But 4000 +++ friends shows how much people like hm.

That is my Facebook life. Everyone can find something of interest on there. Just put a word in the search bar and a page will come up. I do not chat or put any personal info on mine. I have setting very high for privacy. I was not born in this new generation of share everything.