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On 5/26/2014 Jules5280 said:
On 5/26/2014 HisElk said:
On 5/26/2014 Jules5280 said:

Great advice HisElk!!! Sometimes it is hard to ignore, but probably the best option, thanks for the reminder. {#emotions_dlg.wub} I will pray and wish you strength for the upcoming month. I understand since both my mom and dad's birthdays were in May, plus Mother's Day... June will remind me of their wedding anniversary, and Father's Day and my b-day.... there are always going to be "those" days that are so difficult when we are without the people we love and cherish most.

Well, sometimes I'm not very good at taking my own advice LOL, but I make an attempt (sometimes many) to sit on my hands around here.

My dad's birthday was in April as was mine, so that's a rough month for me. As for the month of June, my parents wedding anniversary is that month too and the 'dreaded' Father's Day. My parents were married 53 years and when my mom passed, my dear dad was really lost without her; they were so much in love.

Anyhow, I talk to much, so I'll just say that I thank you for 'listening'.

(((hugs))) to both you and Mistri.

Hey, aren't we here to talk? People might not think so, but I actually am a good listener. Smile I'm not looking forward to my parent's anniversary date in June, it was fine while my dad was alive because he always honored my mom.... but now they are both gone and this will be a first for me. Same thing with Father's Day.... *sigh* It will be difficult at best. I know it is part of life and a process.... and a I need to embrace the good memories and cherish them, instead of mourning what will never be anymore. It's just not easy to do. Smiley Sad

Father's Day is more difficult for me than Mother's Day. I loved my mother, however, we didn't always get along real well, but I still do make sure there's always something at their graves. My first Father's Day came too fast since my dad passed on May 4th. I will tell you that it will be rough, so prepare yourself and allow yourself to cry. I'm not sure whether you and Mistri have a grave to visit or not, but I find myself visiting there on that day. What I miss most is being able to get him that special card/gift and seeing the look on his face when he opens it. His smile was contagious.

Ok, I've got to get going, but please, Mistri and Jules, allow yourselves to cry that day and don't allow anyone to tell you how to grieve. We all do it in different ways.

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On 5/26/2014 HisElk said:
On 5/26/2014 Jules5280 said:
On 5/26/2014 HisElk said:
On 5/26/2014 Jules5280 said:

Great advice HisElk!!! Sometimes it is hard to ignore, but probably the best option, thanks for the reminder. {#emotions_dlg.wub} I will pray and wish you strength for the upcoming month. I understand since both my mom and dad's birthdays were in May, plus Mother's Day... June will remind me of their wedding anniversary, and Father's Day and my b-day.... there are always going to be "those" days that are so difficult when we are without the people we love and cherish most.

Well, sometimes I'm not very good at taking my own advice LOL, but I make an attempt (sometimes many) to sit on my hands around here.

My dad's birthday was in April as was mine, so that's a rough month for me. As for the month of June, my parents wedding anniversary is that month too and the 'dreaded' Father's Day. My parents were married 53 years and when my mom passed, my dear dad was really lost without her; they were so much in love.

Anyhow, I talk to much, so I'll just say that I thank you for 'listening'.

(((hugs))) to both you and Mistri.

Hey, aren't we here to talk? People might not think so, but I actually am a good listener. Smile I'm not looking forward to my parent's anniversary date in June, it was fine while my dad was alive because he always honored my mom.... but now they are both gone and this will be a first for me. Same thing with Father's Day.... *sigh* It will be difficult at best. I know it is part of life and a process.... and a I need to embrace the good memories and cherish them, instead of mourning what will never be anymore. It's just not easy to do. Smiley Sad

Father's Day is more difficult for me than Mother's Day. I loved my mother, however, we didn't always get along real well, but I still do make sure there's always something at their graves. My first Father's Day came too fast since my dad passed on May 4th. I will tell you that it will be rough, so prepare yourself and allow yourself to cry. I'm not sure whether you and Mistri have a grave to visit or not, but I find myself visiting there on that day. What I miss most is being able to get him that special card/gift and seeing the look on his face when he opens it. His smile was contagious.

Ok, I've got to get going, but please, Mistri and Jules, allow yourselves to cry that day and don't allow anyone to tell you how to grieve. We all do it in different ways.

I appreciate the advice and your care. My dad is in a box... so until I get him out to Point Loma in San Diego for his proper memorial, he is stuck with me. I know, it will be rough.... but somehow I have to get through it, and so does Mistri. I'll hold her hand.

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Hiya Cody hun!!! You said it so well!!!!

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Mistri, there have been quite a few posts removed from this thread, and that is for the best. Let's just say it wasn't pretty. I don't know if you had a chance to view it or not, but I did leave you my email. I'm not reposting it due to some stalker issues. However, at some point when we are both around at the same time, I will gladly give it to you and we can go from there. I know you are having a tough time... I have been having days like that too. Like others have said, you are loved and cared about. People here so much enjoy your thoughts and humor and contributions. You have helped many people, even if you don't realize it. It's okay to hurt, but you don't need to hurt alone. ((((hugs)))) {#emotions_dlg.wub}

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I was just checking in here before I go to bed and I can't believe the immature and mean things that have followed Jules on this thread. Jules you and I have had our differences but this is really crazy and bizarre, I've noticed the entire weekend what you've had to endure.

Jules and Mistri I feel for you both, no words really can help but I'm thinking of you both.

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Thanks Jane, it has been pretty strange and disturbing for sure. Hard to imagine some people being so mean-spirited or unstable. Like I said before, don't care what they say to me, but when they start insulting others or trying to ruin threads with their vendetta, it is not okay.

MISTRI, hun, whatever you are doing today, I hope you know you are loved and cared about. I am thinking about you and started my day with a prayer for strength for us both. I hope you check in soon, because so many are concerned about you. Just try to take deep breaths and handle each day one step at a time. You are NOT alone!!! (((hugs)))

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Fortune, I have to say, I love the pic in your OP!!! I want a squirrel outfit for Mia. I guess I need to take a pic of Mia and post it, but I can see her sweet face in that "squirrel suit" and it makes me giggle. I miss our warrior squirrel, hope she comes back soon.

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On 5/26/2014 Jules5280 said:
On 5/26/2014 HisElk said:
On 5/26/2014 Jules5280 said:
On 5/26/2014 HisElk said:
On 5/26/2014 Jules5280 said:

Great advice HisElk!!! Sometimes it is hard to ignore, but probably the best option, thanks for the reminder. {#emotions_dlg.wub} I will pray and wish you strength for the upcoming month. I understand since both my mom and dad's birthdays were in May, plus Mother's Day... June will remind me of their wedding anniversary, and Father's Day and my b-day.... there are always going to be "those" days that are so difficult when we are without the people we love and cherish most.

Well, sometimes I'm not very good at taking my own advice LOL, but I make an attempt (sometimes many) to sit on my hands around here.

My dad's birthday was in April as was mine, so that's a rough month for me. As for the month of June, my parents wedding anniversary is that month too and the 'dreaded' Father's Day. My parents were married 53 years and when my mom passed, my dear dad was really lost without her; they were so much in love.

Anyhow, I talk to much, so I'll just say that I thank you for 'listening'.

(((hugs))) to both you and Mistri.

Hey, aren't we here to talk? People might not think so, but I actually am a good listener. Smile I'm not looking forward to my parent's anniversary date in June, it was fine while my dad was alive because he always honored my mom.... but now they are both gone and this will be a first for me. Same thing with Father's Day.... *sigh* It will be difficult at best. I know it is part of life and a process.... and a I need to embrace the good memories and cherish them, instead of mourning what will never be anymore. It's just not easy to do. Smiley Sad

Father's Day is more difficult for me than Mother's Day. I loved my mother, however, we didn't always get along real well, but I still do make sure there's always something at their graves. My first Father's Day came too fast since my dad passed on May 4th. I will tell you that it will be rough, so prepare yourself and allow yourself to cry. I'm not sure whether you and Mistri have a grave to visit or not, but I find myself visiting there on that day. What I miss most is being able to get him that special card/gift and seeing the look on his face when he opens it. His smile was contagious.

Ok, I've got to get going, but please, Mistri and Jules, allow yourselves to cry that day and don't allow anyone to tell you how to grieve. We all do it in different ways.

I appreciate the advice and your care. My dad is in a box... so until I get him out to Point Loma in San Diego for his proper memorial, he is stuck with me. I know, it will be rough.... but somehow I have to get through it, and so does Mistri. I'll hold her hand.

Thanks for your reply; I wasn't sure. Hoping you are soon able to have his proper memorial, but until then, you know that he's complete and no longer in pain. He's Home with his Father.

Oh, and I read the thread about asking for advice on how to tell a young child about the death of a pet; just a friendly reminder (and I am being sincere); it's best to ignore the person who seems to be chasing you around here.

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Yep... thanks for that reminder again HisElk... she is trying to ruin a thread for Mistri, not going to indulge in it. Clearly she isn't owning all her garbage and must be such a miserable person to keep up this chase. I feel bad for her family....

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Just wanted to add my wonderful, loving Dad passed away in June also 28 years ago we buried him on Saturday and Sunday was Father's Day we put all his Father's Day cards in his casket with the gifts we had for him. Father Day is never the same since we always made that day and Mothers Day special for our mom and dad.