Re: Happy Father's Day Dad!

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

@Ladygray wrote:
@Miss Pepsi wrote:
Echoing those words, Happy Fathers day to my dad who has been gone since 1987 and to my husband who has been gone since fall of 2020.

Those men made me who I am today and truly were the greatest gift,

I was feeling down today missing my dear Dad also. He's been gone 7 years now. It doesn't get easier for me. I cared for him through his cancer and lost him 5 months later. It was a bad time but it also had sweet moments between us. When the roles are reversed and the child cares for the parent, there is that unspoken vulnerability that bonds father and daughter or son.

Today I would have washed his car (when he could drive)... bake his favorite dessert and watch sports with him or just talk. My Dad was truly a gift for me too. His integrity, kindness and knowledge of so many things inspire me.

There are moments when I feel so frustrated and confused that my Dad's wisdom will be heard in my heart and I suddenly know what to do.

To all who are blessed to have your fathers with you today... cherish every minute. To those of you who have seen your father pass on, know that they are with you always and nothing they ever gave you is gone.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts here today too.

@Ladygray Like the song Big Yellow Taxi says you don't know what you've got till its gone is so true. I would give anything to have another day with my dad. My father will be gone 20 years in November, it doesn't get better, you learn to live with it. I always tell people who still have their parents to love and cherish them, I wish someone would have given me that advice.

Ladygray · ‎06-18-2017

@Jordan2 wrote:
@Ladygray wrote:
@Miss Pepsi wrote:
Echoing those words, Happy Fathers day to my dad who has been gone since 1987 and to my husband who has been gone since fall of 2020.

Those men made me who I am today and truly were the greatest gift,

I was feeling down today missing my dear Dad also. He's been gone 7 years now. It doesn't get easier for me. I cared for him through his cancer and lost him 5 months later. It was a bad time but it also had sweet moments between us. When the roles are reversed and the child cares for the parent, there is that unspoken vulnerability that bonds father and daughter or son.

Today I would have washed his car (when he could drive)... bake his favorite dessert and watch sports with him or just talk. My Dad was truly a gift for me too. His integrity, kindness and knowledge of so many things inspire me.

There are moments when I feel so frustrated and confused that my Dad's wisdom will be heard in my heart and I suddenly know what to do.

To all who are blessed to have your fathers with you today... cherish every minute. To those of you who have seen your father pass on, know that they are with you always and nothing they ever gave you is gone.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts here today too.
@Ladygray Like the song Big Yellow Taxi says you don't know what you've got till its gone is so true. I would give anything to have another day with my dad. My father will be gone 20 years in November, it doesn't get better, you learn to live with it. I always tell people who still have their parents to love and cherish them, I wish someone would have given me that advice.

@Jordan2... You are so right, you learn to live with it. But the loss never leaves you. I know so many friends who still have their parents and they complain or they use them to help them do this or that even at their old age.

Sometimes I'm watching a TV show or movie or hear something on the news and I think that my parents would love this or find this interesting. It makes me so sad I can't talk to them about things anymore. In this crazy world right now, I long for the safety I felt with them, no matter how old I get.

Reading these posts makes me realize I'm not alone when it comes to the grief of the loss of my parents.

SouthernBee · ‎09-16-2010

Precious memories of so many special fathers. I have no memory of my Father because I was 22 months old when he had a heart attack. This was in the 1950's. He worked for the telephone company and climbed the poles to do his work. He died while on a telephone pole when he had the heart attack. I know he was a good man, provider and loved me. I cherish when people tell me about him. My Mother died in 1977 . My best memory was in the 1980's when a telephone repair man came to my house. We had an unusual last name. When I opened the door- he looked at me and smiled . He proclaimed it was an honor to finally meet his best co-workers daughter 🤷‍♀️❤️. He was retiring in the next few weeks. He shared so many wonderful things about my Father.

I feel so much for my precious Husband today. He doesn't know anything about his birth father but misses the wonderful man that adopted him. Husband has several siblings and it makes me so mad that they refer to husband as half brother instead of calling him brother. Husband went to work very young to help provide and give extra clothes and school supplies for all the family. Currently he stays in contact with everyone and helps whenever needed.When husband's father became sick and disable - he was the one that moved in and provided the care needed. Please forgive the to much information. We just need to honor anyone that has been a Father 🤗❤️❤️.

Oznell · ‎11-08-2014

Such a moving post, @SouthernBee . How precious the memories of your late father's coworker must have been to you! It was wonderful to have connected in that way.

Also very poignant about your husband, and his family. He'll always know that he honored and cared for his father in the best way possible.

It was not too much information at all, @SouthernBee . I was very touched by what you related-- thank you for sharing those thoughts on this day of sweet family recollections.

SouthernBee · ‎09-16-2010

@Oznell : Thank you. I always enjoy your post. Today has really been difficult and I am tired. DH has always stated that helping his father was preparing him to help me. We are now retired and dealing with our various health issues. We try to stay positive and be thankful and count our blessings. Your kind thoughts are appreciated. I almost deleted my post. 🤗❤️

Linmo · ‎12-16-2013

@SouthernBee I'm glad that you didn't delete your posts. Your tributes to your father and husband are heart-warming. I'm so excited to see my dad for the first time in a long time for his birthday in August.