Re: Halfpint

NickNack · ‎03-10-2010

@halfpint1 wrote:
He doesn't care--I just called him. I have had only 2 hours of sleep. He never said to me about care.

Are you sure your son doesn't care @halfpint1? I would get very frustrated with my father if he called me at midnight all the time like you do your son. You have to be willing to accept help, and I think all you want is for him to come over there all the time. He can't hear the noises, and neither can anyone else. You need to accept that they aren't there. You need psychiatric help. I don't understand why you won't accept that. All your regular doctor is able to do is give you anti-anxiety meds. He's not trained to do anything else.

The Bluebird Carries The Sky On His Back"
-Henry David Thoreau

KingstonsMom · ‎03-09-2010

@deepwaterdotter wrote:
Is this the result of an innattentive son?

@deepwaterdotter

Not according to her many, many posts, where she calls him to investigate these noises, middle of the night, over and over (he only lives a few blocks away) and he comes, but hears nothing, checks around the house and nothing is amiss.

She's also had the the Police, A/C & Heating company and plumbers come out to check on this noise, no one has heard or found anything.

He and her Dr. have also tried to encourage her to move to assisted/senior living, where she'd always have people around and would feel safer, but she won't.

I don't know what else he could do, short of having her declared unable to make her own decisions in her own best interest.

I feel bad for Bob (her son), he probably feels helpless at this pont.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

KingstonsMom · ‎03-09-2010

@NickNack wrote:
@halfpint1 wrote:
He doesn't care--I just called him. I have had only 2 hours of sleep. He never said to me about care.

Are you sure your son doesn't care @halfpint1? I would get very frustrated with my father if he called me at midnight all the time like you do your son. You have to be willing to accept help, and I think all you want is for him to come over there all the time. He can't hear the noises, and neither can anyone else. You need to accept that they aren't there. You need psychiatric help. I don't understand why you won't accept that. All your regular doctor is able to do is give you anti-anxiety meds. He's not trained to do anything else.

@NickNack

I totally agree and BTW, this week when she went to her "Dr." about her meds that she stopped taking, she actually went to a 'clinic' and spoke to a receptionist at the front desk, who she says talked to the Dr. and he told her to go back on her meds that she had been given.

This is according to her posts.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

I am still oxox · ‎03-09-2010

I feel so sorry for Halfpoint that she seems to have no alternative in her life but to reach out for anonymous help on a shopping channel BB.

I am going to try and tred lightly here since talking about strangers care is never easy, we can all give our opinions weather right or wrong.

This situation seems to be on going and possibly in her own mind and not real at all

I am not sure what is going in with her son and at this really a moot point.

Her medical care seems to be failing, or she has been ignored or not totally honest with the doctors
When my parents started having issues they had full time care, I am lucky they were able to afford in home care.

I think it is come to the point where is is bigger than all of us and need to be dealt people with more knowledge of the situation.

She need more help than the clinic seems to be able to render, it will come to the point where is is no longer her choice and for her own safety she might more care at a facility.

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive what could go right.

Trinity11 · ‎11-16-2014

When a patient has issues like Halfpint, advice given her will fall on deaf ears. She needs an advocate. Her son must intervene and get her the help she is no longer capable of getting on her own.

I know of which I speak. My adoptive mom was mentally ill and since my dad chose to ignore it, I was responsible for getting her the help she needed. My dad at the end of his life needed me to care for him. Sometimes, we have to intervene and if we cannot, then a social worker or mental health specialist needs to be sought.

Prayers and good wishes for Halfpint knowing fully well that without an advocate this heart-breaking situation will continue.

Bri369 · ‎11-03-2018

@sunshine45 wrote:
it is difficult to blame the son when we dont know the entire situation nor do we really know the people involved. it is quite sad ,but as much as she insists she doesnt want help or doesnt want to have a helper/angel in the home, it seems that she really needs it. the other option would be to go into an assisted living facility where she will have constant care and activity around her. i do believe her living alone is a HUGE issue at this point.

I agree.

She said her sons reads here. I imagine he's in a very difficult situation at this point.

patofl · ‎11-18-2018

In my opinion I think the person who should be doing more for this person is her physician. It seems so obvious that she needs a mental health evaluation.And has the doctor even spoken to the family about her. He/she seems to be the one dropping the ball here.

Bri369 · ‎11-03-2018

@patofl wrote:
In my opinion I think the person who should be doing more for this person is her physician. It seems so obvious that she needs a mental health evaluation.And has the doctor even spoken to the family about her. He/she seems to be the one dropping the ball here.

Her doctor may not know the whole story.

I'm sure, being a former nurse, you know patients aren't always truthful with their doctors

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

@halfpint1

Does it seem your son is tired/weary of trying to understand your issues with hearing these sounds?

Do you realize he probably can't help you with them?

There may be no magic switch to turn off.

Can you understand his frustration or do you think he needs to keep trying?

What is his demeaner when he comes to visit you? Is he agitated or rude? Does it seem he is trying to help you or not?

I'm not sure what your relationship has been like all along, of if he has health issues or other things going on in his life that he's unable to give you the attention you need.

You need ot understand your son can't help you the way you need to be helped.

Ask your doctor or the clinic you go to, if they can refer you to someone to help you.

You need to discuss the noises your son can't seem to help you with.

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

I wouldn't be too quick to blame her Dr. She refuses to take the medication he prescribes for her. When you won't cooperate, there isn't much a Dr can do, or your family

I think Halfpint draws comfort ,from the contact she gets ,from the posters here, and feels that is all she needs

It is sad ,because things might be so much better for her ,if she would only try to let other people (her Dr and her son) help her...this board is not her solution, and I am saying this with kindness