Halfpint - Page 10

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

What I read from the accounting, was that OP walked to the clinic and spoke only to a nurse. The nurse relayed her situation to the doctor, then came back to tell the OP the med she found in her cabinet and questioned was indeed for her anxiety, and that she needed to take it as prescribed.

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

@halfpint1,

I have followed your posts for a long time, even before your husband passed. I picked up on your fears with this noise from the very beginning. As I’ve told you a few times, I’ve lived thru this type of situation before with 3 of the most loved women in my life. I honestly feel that I am reliving this drama a 4th time.

I do not think your noise is real, and I fear you are not as fine as you think you are. My 84 year old mom who has been diagnosed with dementia keeps saying she’s fine too, and she absolutely is not. My mom simply functions well in her environment by her daily routine. I think you function well in your daily routine too, but I see how frantic you get when dark comes and you are scared of being home alone. The noise gets louder and louder, and if anything else happens in the meantime, like your phone situations this week, you become frantic, and desperate for Bob to come over.

You are fixated on the noise, but I also think you are very much in denial with what’s really going on. You have 2 cats in your home; very sensitive animals, who seem quite happy and content. If there was a noise in your house so intense that you could barely stand it, your cats would be anxious and doing strange things as well.

I hate this for you, and feel Bob needs to be pushing harder to get a better understanding of what’s going on. You have a lot of support here; people do care, but until you realize the problem is much deeper than the noise, and seek treatment, your situation is not going to get any better.

NAES1 · ‎09-02-2011

Thank you for following along, also. I had been for about six consecutive weeks. I had not been here each day.

I agree with almost everything you have assumed, knowing more updated details, than me -meaning time for each posting to be read..

I am very sorry to learn that your mother has dementia..very sorry. You have been a wonderful friend.

Sending a very deserved hug, feeling that your recovery is very near to being A1 strong. I was following your surgical experience (almost) from the beginning.

Thinking of your two daughters and the one that covers those many miles each week. Blessings for you and your loved ones.

Have a very comfortable and relaxed Christmas and new year.

Haa, of course, I know, you were doing another Thanksgiving dinner~~ My best for your family.

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

@RedTop

My greatest fear is what you're saying is true. And it has to be frightful for halfpint to read what is written.

But I believe an even worse fate is that the son is just not involved at all, or surely not enough. Who gives their mother a hard time, when she is having a hard time?

Your mother is blessed to have you and perhaps others, at least you are aware, close at hand, and on top of things.

I don't know what or how to aid halfpint in the situation she's in. Darkness falls. Daily. Today it was and issue during the daytime.

She needs to be evaluated. Properly. But how to get her to that point is the problem right now.

I can only hope that someone in her life, who is aware of her, most likely not her son, will intervene.

We are supposed to be aware of our surroundings and those around us. Hopefully, someone else will intervene.

You are a kind and wise poster.

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

it is difficult to blame the son when we dont know the entire situation nor do we really know the people involved. it is quite sad ,but as much as she insists she doesnt want help or doesnt want to have a helper/angel in the home, it seems that she really needs it. the other option would be to go into an assisted living facility where she will have constant care and activity around her. i do believe her living alone is a HUGE issue at this point.

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september · ‎03-09-2010

@sunshine45 wrote:
it is difficult to blame the son when we dont know the entire situation nor do we really know the people involved. it is quite sad ,but as much as she insists she doesnt want help or doesnt want to have a helper/angel in the home, it seems that she really needs it. the other option would be to go into an assisted living facility where she will have constant care and activity around her. i do believe her living alone is a HUGE issue at this point.

I absolutely agree that her son should not be getting any criticism here. We have no real idea what issues he’s been facing. I say that, having been on the other end....first with my husband, now with my parents.

You can can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

@NAES1,

Thank you for your kind words. My knee is doing well, the incision has healed well and my scar is smooth, flat and fading. My ortho checkup in October showed both knees were perfect, and I don’t recheck for 3 years! I just don’t have time to think much about my knee these days, as life has moved me forward with new issues.

I have been seriously challenged with washing and dressing pressure ulcers on my husbands feet for almost 4 months. Never had to deal with this before; I know how to heal me, but am afraid I can’t heal him. Navigating the VA system is very different, and I don’t always like their answer “this is how we do it here”.

Moms cognitive issues have progressed over the last year, and her doctor is using the term dementia now. Some days are better than others; she still has clear days where she’s able to remember well and have full conversations. Other days are foggy, and she can’t pull the words from her head to her mouth to say them. We see steady losses of writing and cooking abilities. I buy or send food over 2-3x a week, and my brothers cover the other days. I keep a close eye on her meds, and my brothers stay busy fixing or replacing what she breaks. I am so thankful for them and how they are always there to help. Mom feels safe in her home, and she really thinks she’s doing just fine over there.

If we don’t cross paths again in the next few weeks, know that I wish you and yours a most blessed Christmas and a healthy new year!

doxie1 · ‎03-09-2010

It is my understanding that her son is involved and is dealing with medical issues of his own as well. He has been trying to get her to move to assisted care. Halfpint said he is reading the posts here as well. I worry about her and hope that she can get the help she needs. It has to be awful what she is going through.

doxie

NAES1 · ‎09-02-2011

@RedTop.

I will be in touch with needed information to give you, also... for))> to converse with my brother (VA) authority.

I need to go step by step with treatment and what is needed and their sources. What, where and how.

I understand this situation with the information you need, just definitely not here.

I'll post you in the hour that suits you best, also calling my brother - he is a wealth of knowledge for what physicians-, and a lot of the VA as an agent correspondent informant by surveying: hold many degrees in majors. Drs, medicine, and then myself.

I would only hope that I could be there one time, walk you through. That I can teach to some degree. We will get there.

This thread is not the place for my intervention.

You need the best sources of several things, esp, not the VA.

'...believe these armchair experts can handle * what was your concern, for now....' You need some assistance!