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[Clover29]

I feel for you. We had a relative stay over Thanksgiving, for the two longest weeks of my life. It's taken till now for my blood pressure to go back to normal. The dog was even unhappier than me, because the guest took the dog's seat on the couch.

[JustJules]

Turn your water off at the main valve and tell her the plumbing is broken.

[jlkz]

Why not just turn in early yourself? And, after she leaves have a discussion to set up a game plan for ALL guests in the future. Maybe, even rehearse the dialogue so " stay as long as you want" is never spoken! Good Luck.

[adelle38]

If this is your husband's relative and he invited her, he needs to entertain her and not go to bed. If it were me, I'd have excused myself and told him in no uncertain terms to get his fanny out of bed and not leave you holding the bag.

[Demitra1]

Nice to read your responses just to take me away for a few moments. Lol. Yes, I'm too nice, but my DH would be livid if I was not. It is complicated, but even though this person is tedious to deal with, he would never do this situation differently. He has gotten aggravated at me throughout the years because I was not nice enough to her. Well, I'm NEVER mean, but there is a line where I just cannot go. For example, taking her shopping, which she wants to do tomorrow. I said no, I'm broke after Christmas. She wanted to go to a movie tonight, we NEVER go to the movies. She just doesn't stop. I can certainly take a hint.......she can't EVER. She ask what we do for fun. I wanted to say....nothing involving YOU. Oh, maybe I AM mean. Lol. But I keep it inside. Maybe I'll bore her enough that she will go on down the road.

[Demitra1]

Nice to read your responses just to take me away for a few moments. Lol. Yes, I'm too nice, but my DH would be livid if I was not. It is complicated, but even though this person is tedious to deal with, he would never do this situation differently. He has gotten aggravated at me throughout the years because I was not nice enough to her. Well, I'm NEVER mean, but there is a line where I just cannot go. For example, taking her shopping, which she wants to do tomorrow. I said no, I'm broke after Christmas. She wanted to go to a movie tonight, we NEVER go to the movies. She just doesn't stop. I can certainly take a hint.......she can't EVER. She ask what we do for fun. I wanted to say....nothing involving YOU. Oh, maybe I AM mean. Lol. But I keep it inside. Maybe I'll bore her enough that she will go on down the road.

[ROMARY]

You can always 'drop her off' at the movies. And or shopping, too. Pick her up when she's ready to return.

[JustJules]

In all seriousness, two nights isn't an excessive amount of time to stay for the holidays. There is an expectation to spend time with your guests, even though that doesn't mean entertaining them every moment. However, she obviously came to visit with you and your DH, if she wanted to be alone she could have checked in to a hotel. Doesn't she have her own home that will need tending to soon? Since it is your DH's relative, perhaps he should have a talk with her about how long she plans on staying. I think it is rude of your DH to go to bed so early on Christmas with his family visiting. Sounds like you all don't have much in common so why did you agree to have her stay in the first place? I'm sure she would feel badly if she knew how much you didn't want her there.

[occasionalrain]

Your problem is with your husband. As to livid, he'd have some nerve being livid when he is the one who created the problem and then went to bed leaving you to entertain his relative.

If my husband ever invited anyone to stay without discussing it with me, I'd make plans to be away during the visit and I wouldn't care if it was Christmas, Thanksgiving, or the Second Coming.

[Demitra1]

I agree with all of you. As I said, it is complicated....details I don't choose to disclose here. I didn't really ask for serious advice, just blowing off steam. I appreciated the light hearted responses. I'll do what I have to do, as always. Merry Christmas to all.