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[hckynutjohn]

@CrazyKittyLvr2 

Were it me? Whoever took the role of  Executor(husband/son/daughter) should call the shots. When my older(and youngest) sister died, her family made all those decisions, and I just helped doing the work.

When my mother died, I told all 3 of my older sisters to decide what they wanted to split of her jewelry and things with sentimental value to them. I decided I only wanted her winter coat because that is what she was wearing when she went to the hospital, a week or so before she died.

With her being born in 1898 and raising us 4 kids alone! She did not accumulate "stuff". Her life was having the necessities, which included her work clothes, and some jewelry. Living like that was the opposite of a pack rat, whatever that is! 

hckynut  🇺🇸

[Cakers3]

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@Puppy Lips wrote:

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@SeaMaiden wrote:

I remember when I was like 30, my Mother who I was visiting asked if I would want her Mink stole....  I told her" Mom, no one wears those anymore and they are not politically correct"..she just could not give it away... yet had no need for it. 

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@SeaMaiden I ended up with two mink stoles, one from each of my grandmothers.  Their initials are embroidered on the inside lining of each one.  What will I ever do with them?

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@Puppy Lips @SeaMaiden 

Donate to animal rescue or animal rehab.

Problem solved.

[aroc3435]

@CrazyKittyLvr2   My  sincere sympathy on the loss of your sister last November.

Just a  thought:  If the local high school or a nearby college or community group has a theatre program they may welcome vintage clothing pieces--hats, jewelry, wedding/prom dresses, suits, coats,and furs.

aroc3435

Washington, DCC

[SeaMaiden]

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@Puppy Lips wrote:

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@SeaMaiden wrote:

I remember when I was like 30, my Mother who I was visiting asked if I would want her Mink stole....  I told her" Mom, no one wears those anymore and they are not politically correct"..she just could not give it away... yet had no need for it. 

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@SeaMaiden I ended up with two mink stoles, one from each of my grandmothers.  Their initials are embroidered on the inside lining of each one.  What will I ever do with them?

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@Puppy Lips   Maybe a consignment shop would take them?

[Cakers3]

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@hckynutjohn wrote:

@CrazyKittyLvr2 

Were it me? Whoever took the role of  Executor(husband/son/daughter) should call the shots. When my older(and youngest) sister died, her family made all those decisions, and I just helped doing the work.

When my mother died, I told all 3 of my older sisters to decide what they wanted to split of her jewelry and things with sentimental value to them. I decided I only wanted her winter coat because that is what she was wearing when she went to the hospital, a week or so before she died.

With her being born in 1898 and raising us 4 kids alone! She did not accumulate "stuff". Her life was having the necessities, which included her work clothes, and some jewelry. Living like that was the opposite of a pack rat, whatever that is! 

hckynut  🇺🇸

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@hckynutjohn   What I highlighted really touched me.  Thank you for sharing.

[CrazyKittyLvr2]

@Lucky Charm   I didn't have to let her hear, her own sister said it, and she was.

She loved yard sales.  She would take a bowl, embroidered hankie ot whatever junk she bought, out of a bag, show me and you never saw it again. It stayed in the bag in a cabinet, closet or corner.

Pack rat.

[DSD2]

I just want to gently note that people grieve differently, each in their own way.

I might suggest that everyone be allowed to take what they wish and do with it what they will.

An old dress might constitute something that needs to be gotten rid of to one, yet to another, it might evoke a beautiful and cherished memory. Sometimes it is comforting to have something familiar, a reminder of those we fiercely loved and lost.

The important thing is that everyone be kind and conscious of how others feel. Everyone's hearts are broken but this is the time for all to come together, to mourn and be grateful for each other. Now is the time for love, patience and understanding. 

After my mother's death, I kept a red beanie. It took years for me not to cry when I took it out and the day I finally smiled, I knew that my heart had healed - the best that it could.

[CrazyKittyLvr2]

@ROMARY   She  can take anything she wants.  She has no room either and she knows it.

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[CrazyKittyLvr2]

@millieshops   The youngest will be 44 this year.  She sister is 46.

[Jo1313]

My parents passed within 10 months of each other..In 54 yrs. in the same house..there was a lot of stuff...Most of the clothes were donated..My niece was furnishing a new house..So she took a lot of wood furniture..My brother and I shared the antiques and Dad's Army(WW2) medals..and Mom's Jewelry....The grand daughters picked a few pieces..so did the granddaughters-in -laws..

Dad didn't have much jewelry..and 5 grandsons..so we put  their names in a hat so that each grandson got a "special" lot...Everyone was glad to have something to remember them by.

WE also found a 70 yr. old bottle of scotch..We all had a toast to those 2 wonderful people.