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[K9buddy]

So sorry for all you are going through.  Please check out NAMI family support groups on your area.  These groups are for people who are living with family members who are mentally ill.  Also check out meetup.com. They have various support groups for just about any issue in many locations.  Having a plan always relieves the stress and it seems like you have some plans in place.  Best to you and your family.

[LTT1]

@NativeJax

Hugs hugs to you. You are in a very rough situation right now.

The only information I can add is to visit healthcare.gov to see if your son can qualify for Medicaid as his income may be very low. Also, the health plans available through this source were very affordable. It is easy to apply on this site just to see.

I hope you find some help very soon.❤️

[PamfromCT]

I do feel very badly for what you are facing right now.  I am glad you came here for guidance and support, and many have offered some wonderful ideas.

The only thing I can offer is what has brought me through some rough times. Lean on God and pray for strength and guidance.  Try to come up with plans on all fronts, as best you can.  Try to take care of yourself.  Try to take one day at a time.  You are already seeking, and getting, some very good advice.  We who have dealt with the illness and impending loss of a parent know how hard it is.  So many families nowadays have to deal with mental health/addiction problems with adult children and can relate to your anxiety over your son.  Those of us who have had to find our way through the sudden loss of financial security will never forget the stress of that time.  You have done nothing wrong, everything right, and you will get through this.

I am sending you my thoughts and prayers, along with one big hug!  Please let everyone know how you are doing.  

[hckynut]

sorry to hear about your issues and wish you well. optimism has helped me get through some very trying and tough times. 

hnj

[ROMARY]

On a positive note: They may keep you, and maybe your team members are distant because they think that they will be without jobs, and are keeping their distance.  (Also, are you prepared to move to Pheonix?)  I'd look into various suggestions mentioned here, for your son.  The best of luck to you, your son, and your dad, no matter what the outcome.  I'm sure that there are various agencies which deal with this type of employment lay-offs, company re-locations, etc. 

[birkin baby]

I'm just really so sorry you are carrying these worries. 

[CouponQueen]

Breath!! I haven't read the replies..

That said - if your son needs a mental health evaluation..that is not the end of the world..it is a GOOD thing if it gets him to a better place..if somebody is thinking he needs it..then he is obviously not in a good place for people to tell..hopefully with a good eval..some treatment/med or even med changes he will be on a stable road..

I am so very sorry about your dad..I just lost mine three-weeks ago to a sudden aggressive form of cancer..matter of weeks..so my heart is going out to you with hugs..

Now about your job..another thing you have no control over..it really stinks to put all your time/effort/energy into a position with a company and they choose to relocate..  If you are one of the ones let go..breath deep... maybe a small severence package and some unemployment benefits to give you a little breathing room ..that will give you some time to look for something in your field you like.

I know this is a rough time for you..breath deeply..take one day at a time..as you cannot control the outcome of any of this..I know you are overwhelmed but try thinking ..it is what it is..

Good luck in all..and I hope your son if he needs treatment receives it and is  stabilzed fairly quickly..29 years in mental health so I understand...but also understand if an eval is done and needed ..it is good!

[Puppy Lips]

Hugs to you.  I just lost my father on Marh 6th.  I think I cried more than anyone in the family and I still get caught off guard with my emotions.  He led a wonderful life and was well loved.  Be grateful for every moment you get with your Dad and you will have no regrets.

As someone else said, be glad there is help for your son.  One of my boy's suffers anxiety attacks.  He sought help and is now much better.

As far as your job, if they do not value you and your work like you should be valued, then you would be better off working elsewhere.  You may find a job that pays as well and has less pressure than you have now.

You got a lot thrown at you at once.  You need to have faith that everything will work out.  Take it one day at a time and count your blessings -- something I need to work on as well.  Blessings to you!

[Lucky Charm]

I'm not sure how close (in proximity) you are to your dad, but would a move to PHX be that bad? 

I guess by next week, you'll know about your job situation, and because others are being distant...they may know you're going to be kept!

If that's the case, maybe in between the move, you could take some FMLA in between then and now and stay with your dad and also do what you can for your son. 

Once he is diagnosed and there's a plan, that's half the battle.  Would you be willing to bring your son along with you or would he be alright alone in FL?

It's awful news about your dad, but I honestly think I'd worry more about my son.

One step at a time.  It's the only think you can do.  And my heart breaks for all that's on your plate.

[game-on]

Here are some suggestions..... if i were your therapist i would suggest you try a grief support group.... you are facing losses.... so you are mourning them.... sharing your losses with others can be helpful.... if you are someone who likes to read .... there is a simple book I suggest people read to help them.... How to Survive the Loss of a Love by McWilliams and Colgrove.... it is a handbook for people who are going thru difficult times....

One thing people who go thru loss need to do .... take care of themselves... be gentle with themselves.... take a bubble bath.... say kind things to themselves.... give yourself some ME time to pamper yourself.... watch what you eat (try to eat as healthy as possible... very little sugar.... high in protein)... try to get some exercise daily, short walks are great.... listening to classical music and breathing exercises help....

You cannot change that your father is passing and that your son has problems or what people at work choose.... you can only choose how you deal with these situations.... I wish for your world to become more peaceful and that you will go thru it feeling more in control.