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[ECBG]

@NativeJaxBless your heart, I know a lot about the obsticles you are facing.  As a former teacher, I have been listed as a "family member" so parents could get me into treatment units because students connected with me.  If I can give you any comfort, let me tell you that there is "a tomorrow" and it's on the other side of today.  Make an appointment with an attorney.  Get the doctor's results in writing and complete a time line on paper of your son's history including any problems with friends and school; take them to an attorney and start steps to become his power of attorney so you can actually ensure he gets the help he needs. He'll get treatment, and be around professionals who know how to work with him and help him salvage his life.  

At twenty-one, you can't force him and you can get him the treatment he needs and protect him at the same time, which is so much better than being with an attorney because he has done something. 

The last time student I supported, ended up reclaiming his life, and I had pictures in my office of a marine that I am still proud of.

We are promised "the strength to handle what we need to" if you will ask.

 I will certainly keep you in my prayers as I know the other ladies will.

[Mrsq2022]

I'm actually now wondering, can't OP take a medical leave to care for a loved one?  If the job doesn't end immediately this might be a time to apply for a leave to help with your personal issues (father and son as well as yourself). These things take time and on top of a high-level stressful jobs it is very hard to squeeze all of this in.

[tedEbear]

@NativeJax-----Just sending hugs.

[NativeJax]

These are all wonderful suggestions. I know I need to keep myself healthy because there are so many people who need me. I have been working with my doctor and I have had some issues with my BP meds and I am now on my third medicine in a month.

I really wish I knew what kind of supports group could even help me. I just don't know where to begin with that. Now, this doctor today was wonderful and he spent a lot of time with us. He promised to call me as he is going to call around to some doctors and try and help me. I am excited about that plus he told my so. He would only repair his hand if he promised to seek a consult with a psychiatrist and I thought that was brilliant! He has severe arthritis in that hand from all the damage he has done to it...all from fighting and punching things. It's so disturbing but I want to get him help.

I did do some cutting back...cut cable and paid off some things but I have a car payment which I wish I didn't have at the moment.

I live in Florida and no veterans benefits available for me or my son.

I know that the insurance license will not bring the income I am use to right away so I am willing to work part time somewhere. I like the idea of flexible hours as an agent because my current job is long hours.

I think if I knew what kind of support group to contact would be helpful I just don't know where to begin that search.

I know all hope is not lost and thank you everyone so much, I really needed some support tonight.

[pugvette74]

@NativeJax May this help you...

                      God grant me

                       the Serenity

   to accept the things I cannot change,

                      the Courage

          to change the things I can,

                 and the Wisdom

            to know the difference.

In my thoughts and prayers

[3cupcakes]

@NativeJax  Keeping you in my prayers & sending a big hug.  🌺

[SaRina]

@NativeJax, I'm so sorry for everything you have to deal with right now.  There's not a whole lot more I can offer except my prayers and best wishes.

The job situation may be a blessing in disguise as a relocation alone will only add to your stress and you don't need that right now.  You are very wise to put a back-up plan into place.

For support groups, you can google "Feeling overwhelmed support groups" or "Support groups for _______" (whatever situation you feel you need most).  You can also ask your personal physician for social work services contact number and speak to a social worker, who can recommend outlets for you.

Please take good care of yourself first.  I know things will work out for the best.

[house_cat]

I totally understand what you're saying.  First of all, find a therapist for yourself.  It helps to put things in perspective.  

This may seem simple, but I read this book while my dad was in the hospital recently. It's the best book about worrying that I've ever read, and I promise you - I am a professional worrier.  I'm not saying it "cured" me completely, but it was an excellent read.

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

[SeaMaiden]

Sometimes when it rains it pours... sorry you are dealing with so much. Take care of your health and know that you will get through this and there is a better day ahead.

[MaggieMack]

@NativeJax, sending prayers and wishes that things improve for you quickly. If I were you, I would be most worried about my son and would prioritize getting help for him first. He needs help.

Your worries about your job may not be relevant in the near future, and at this point it is out of your control. Develop a plan, like you are doing, and be prepared.

I'm sorry about your dad, end of life is always difficult to deal with, but you have no control over that, either. Just be sure he knows how much he is loved.