Re: Feeling devastated tonight

nun ya · ‎03-09-2010

On 12/22/2014 anon said:
On 12/22/2014 Brokenhearted said: Nope i never saw this coming. Hate is a strong word. I am a good mother, I love my ds. Can I be overbearing, sure but i did nothing to deserve his hate.

Overbearing...there it is. That is the problem. You need to back off and let him live his own life and make his own mistakes. DO NOT give advice unless he asks. Otherwise keep quiet!

agreed.

sounds very controlling to me, which is strange because op says her own marriage is not good.

SnowPink · ‎09-20-2014

She said the mom got on the phone yelling at her because the OP called her daughter vile names. So the OP is calling her son's girlfriend all kinds of awful names yet she's confused about why he hates her.

VioletEyes · ‎03-12-2010

On 12/22/2014 anon said:
On 12/22/2014 SoftRaindrops said:
On 12/22/2014 Brokenhearted said: Actually im on my cell phone. After receiving the text, my husband doing nothing, saying nothing , i left. Im sitting in a parking lot thinking. there ia an issue with ds gf, as I was speaking to her on the phone being respectful but firm trying g to work out issues, her mom gets on the phone screaming, telling me- I am a piece of poop- a blank for calling her dd(foul word for a female) and a wh*re. This lady doesn't know me, never met me - - I've been married for almost forever- my husband is the second person ive ever been with. Ds wasn't going to say anything to the mother in my defense-- that alone made me cry. Everything continued to go south.
Why did you call your son's girlfriend such unfortunate, derogatory words? Using that kind of language towards another woman speaks volumes.

Her mom called the OP those names.

No, she stated SHE called this young woman derogatory terms ..thus the wrath she received from the girlfriend's mother.

anon · ‎12-13-2014

On 12/22/2014 Brokenhearted said: I agree, alone would be better then being mistreated but i am afraid of being alone. Plus I'm very overweight. Personally i do resent my ds gf for many reasons, the first time I reached out to her to talk, she notified my son who in return gets more ticked at me(she knows this) . I called and told her she was a pot stirrer and asked why she went back to my ds with that I reached out to her. I was respectful but firm in what I had to say. Next thing her mother is on the phone, soon there after, the text from ds.

Let her reach out to you, do not interfere or you will always have problems with your son! Leave the gf alone.

RoughDraft · ‎03-09-2010

On 12/22/2014 SoftRaindrops said:
On 12/22/2014 Marp2 said:
On 12/22/2014 RoughDraft said:
Not going to say it...nope.

Why do I get the feeling we are thinking similar thoughts.

Make that 3 of us.

Yep. Add one husband to the story, slightly alter writing style and buy a new tablet.

~The only difference between this place and the Titanic is that the Titanic had a band.~

SugarNSpice · ‎03-26-2010

On 12/22/2014 SoftRaindrops said:
On 12/22/2014 Marp2 said:
On 12/22/2014 RoughDraft said:
Not going to say it...nope.

Why do I get the feeling we are thinking similar thoughts.

Make that 3 of us.

Well.., I already said it and it got zapped. Which speaks volumes. Same exact thing used to happen with the poster we shall not name. Makes you go hmm.

nun ya · ‎03-09-2010

She said the mom got on the phone for calling her.....then the mom called her names.

Buck-i-Nana · ‎09-28-2010

On 12/22/2014 SoftRaindrops said:
On 12/22/2014 Marp2 said:
On 12/22/2014 RoughDraft said:
Not going to say it...nope.

Why do I get the feeling we are thinking similar thoughts.

Make that 3 of us.

4...

Brokenhearted · ‎12-22-2014

I have read every post. Some of you have nailed it. Need to think.-thanks for ur advice. I will be back.

anon · ‎12-13-2014

On 12/22/2014 SoftRaindrops said:
On 12/22/2014 anon said:
On 12/22/2014 SoftRaindrops said:
On 12/22/2014 Brokenhearted said: Actually im on my cell phone. After receiving the text, my husband doing nothing, saying nothing , i left. Im sitting in a parking lot thinking. there ia an issue with ds gf, as I was speaking to her on the phone being respectful but firm trying g to work out issues, her mom gets on the phone screaming, telling me- I am a piece of poop- a blank for calling her dd(foul word for a female) and a wh*re. This lady doesn't know me, never met me - - I've been married for almost forever- my husband is the second person ive ever been with. Ds wasn't going to say anything to the mother in my defense-- that alone made me cry. Everything continued to go south.
Why did you call your son's girlfriend such unfortunate, derogatory words? Using that kind of language towards another woman speaks volumes.

Her mom called the OP those names.

No, she stated SHE called this young woman derogatory terms ..thus the wrath she received from the girlfriend's mother.

Oh, you are right. Sorry. ${#emotions_dlg.blush}$

Good grief OP what is wrong with you? Don't play all innocent when whatever happened, you had it coming. I have no sympathy for you on that. No matter how much you think it, you never, ever call son's gf ugly names!