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[tansy]

On 12/22/2014 Brokenhearted said: I can assure you I am a real poster - embarrassed to admit my ds feels this way under my other name. There is no point talking to his father, he is part of the problem - he is why my ds for may years has been allowed to disrespect me. My husband has never had my back or came to my rescue. My ds resents me for financial difficulties when all the blame belonged oh his father. I was always the bad guy- the one in control - - my son feels his father should of stood up to me. So much to say. There have been a couple issues with his gf too. I am shocked and hurt he feels the way he does.

there is probably not much you can do about the situation right now, unfortunately. As he gains more maturity and life experience, he may see things differently.

[SnowPink]

On 12/22/2014 Brokenhearted said: I can assure you I am a real poster - embarrassed to admit my ds feels this way under my other name. There is no point talking to his father, he is part of the problem - he is why my ds for may years has been allowed to disrespect me. My husband has never had my back or came to my rescue. My ds resents me for financial difficulties when all the blame belonged oh his father. I was always the bad guy- the one in control - - my son feels his father should of stood up to me. So much to say. There have been a couple issues with his gf too. I am shocked and hurt he feels the way he does.

K - I'm gonna ask it. Why did you stay with this man who allows people to disrespect you and doesn't have your back?

[colliegirls]

You need to apologize to your son whether or not you are responsible. If a child of ours feels a certain way, it is real to them, warranted or not. Talking it out is the only way to repair the relationship and offer NO EXCUSES on your part. Do not play the martyr. Good luck to you.

[anon]

Surely you saw this coming or had some idea of his feelings. Harsh feelings like this don't develop overnight. I too wonder what you did to him to make him feel this way towards you.

[Marianne1]

Oh, I don't agree with apologizing for this (as described by the op).

I do agree that talking it out, honestly, is in order.

But not sure how that can happen if he is just going to avoid his mother.

Counseling is in order for anyone of you that will go. You, your husband, and your child would all benefit in hashing this all out with a professional.

[tansy]

LOL...how annoying. There's my empty reply box again.

I can make the font larger and paragraph when I remember to put in the programming code...like I should have to do that

[RoughDraft]

Not going to say it...nope.

[Brokenhearted]

Actually im on my cell phone. After receiving the text, my husband doing nothing, saying nothing , i left. Im sitting in a parking lot thinking. there ia an issue with ds gf, as I was speaking to her on the phone being respectful but firm trying g to work out issues, her mom gets on the phone screaming, telling me- I am a piece of poop- a blank for calling her dd(foul word for a female) and a wh*re. This lady doesn't know me, never met me - - I've been married for almost forever- my husband is the second person ive ever been with. Ds wasn't going to say anything to the mother in my defense-- that alone made me cry. Everything continued to go south.

[Puzzle Piece]

Only two posts and all the drama.........hmmmmmmmm..