Re: FORGIVE AND FORGET.....

Bird mama · ‎03-12-2010

I am able to forgive. Forgetting is another matter. I won't let it consume me, but it's more like.. fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.

There are times when you must speak, not because you are going to change the opposing side, but because if you do not speak, they have changed you.

ShowMe · ‎09-06-2010

I can forgive, but usually don't forget. But do feel the forgiving part is the most important.....

LillyBelle74 · ‎08-02-2014

Irshgrl31201 · ‎03-18-2010

It depends on what is done. I can forgive anyone but it depends on the seriousness of the offense if I still want them in my life

There are people I have forgiven but are no longer in my life because despite forgiving them, I know I can no longer trust them.

Then there are people I have forgiven who are still in my life because I didn't consider it friendship ending.

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dooBdoo · ‎06-27-2010

I think the act of forgiveness is separate from "forgetting."

Holding onto resentment hurts the person feeling the resentment.

(Remember the adage, resentment is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.)

As I wrote on another thread yesterday, forgiveness doesn't mean what the other person did was okay. Forgiveness is a gift to ourselves.

But we don't suddenly have amnesia. I think remembering, without anger or upset, protects us from being hurt in the same way in the future.

Few things reveal your intellect and your generosity of spirit—the parallel powers of your heart and mind—better than how you give feedback.~Maria Popova

Lion · ‎03-09-2010

It's not possible to really forget unless we have amnesia.

I think a better definition would be not dwelling on it, leaving it in the past.

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Marianne1 · ‎04-16-2013

On 8/17/2014 Lion said:
It's not possible to really forget unless we have amnesia.

I think a better definition would be not dwelling on it, leaving it in the past.

that's what I want to say. Thanks.

RoughDraft · ‎03-09-2010

On 8/17/2014 Lion said:
It's not possible to really forget unless we have amnesia.

I think a better definition would be not dwelling on it, leaving it in the past.

Perfect! ${#emotions_dlg.thumbup1}$

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Catfancy · ‎08-08-2013

On 8/17/2014 Lion said:
It's not possible to really forget unless we have amnesia.

I think a better definition would be not dwelling on it, leaving it in the past.

True! I just have trouble letting go of some things.

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stilltamn8r · ‎03-14-2010

its not so much if we can "forget" ...very few of us can forget the important events or circumstances of our lives..

We can forgive if we can remember without pain..until we can remember events and they no longer cause us pain, i believe it is really impossible to forgive- it is simply lip service..

Think of the case of an ex husband who has hurt you and your children deeply, there are probably years that go by where you may think you have "Forgiven" him but thinking of him and the events still cause you pain..One day you realize that you o longer"feel" that pain when you think of him, or those circumstances..Only then, in my opinion, can you really truly forgive...