What Money Will Make People Do

Black Cat Back · ‎03-21-2010

I ran into an old co-worker today at the mall. He told me about another co-worker (I'll call Mary so this tale isn't so confusing) we both worked with a few years ago and I was shocked. Mary had been dating a doctor who lost his wife. The doctor is about 72 and she is in her 60's. They traveled all over the world and he bought her diamonds, etc. At an event last year, I ran into Mary and she told me she was no longer with him because he hit her. I was so proud of her for leaving him and realizing what a jerk he was after all this time. In the meantime, this lame doctor was dating some 30 year old nurse not long after.

I haven't seen Mary since that chance meeting last year, but today, the man I ran into told me she married the doctor a few weeks ago. I was shocked! So was he. He not only hit her, but he has a reputation of being a real jerk to staff at the hospital and being an arrogant person.

It reminded me of how money talks for some people and they blindly let it lead them. She wants to travel and get beautiful jewelry and now she is legally in his life. It's sad that people will lose sight of their own best interests to have money and live in that lifestyle. I dated a guy who was emotionally and verbally abusive to me. He never hit me, but the abuse was just as real and just as painful. I left him and never looked back. But to go back to someone you had the strength to leave and then marry him... it's a shame.

And no, this guy hasn't changed all of a sudden. It was just a few months ago he was dating that 30 year old and being a jerk in the hospital to women staff members. A zebra doesn't change its stripes that easily.

Oh well, I hope anyone reading this will get out of an abusive situation. You are too good and wonderful to be mistreated by anyone.

OCGurl · ‎03-10-2010

Love over money, so much nicer. My DH & I watched a movie along the same lines last nite called Blue Jasmine, with Cate Blanchett & Alec Baldwin, a Woody Allen, it shows what people will do for money and what they do when they don't have it!

Bird mama · ‎03-12-2010

For all you know, he may have asked her to sign a pre-nup. When I was growing up (in my early 50's now) I knew older women who felt "a half a loaf of bread was better than none". They actually told their daughters this, as it related to marrying someone.

There are times when you must speak, not because you are going to change the opposing side, but because if you do not speak, they have changed you.

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

What Money Will Make People Do

I never blame this on the money as it is an inanimate object. To me this comes back to the character of the person attracted to this object. There are a lot of attractive things in most people's lives and it is usually their choice to do or to not do.

hckynut(john)

lolakimono · ‎03-29-2012

Maybe you'll see her again on an episode of Dateline.

Black Cat Back · ‎03-21-2010

It's funny, people that you think are so independent and secure in themselves, some are really not as strong as they make themselves out to be.

Those moments when I've bought myself an Affinity diamond ring or another nice jewelry piece... I am proud that I worked for it and treated myself. There's a sense of inner power and strength not to have to wait for someone to take care of your needs or desires.

There is an old BJ Thomas song called "No Love at All," and one of the lyrics goes, "Even a bad love is better than no love at all." No one should have to accept bad love. We have to teach our daughters and sons to love themselves enough to know not to ever let anyone diminish you in any relationship.

Bird mama · ‎03-12-2010

On 8/16/2014 hckynut said:
What Money Will Make People Do

I never blame this on the money as it is an inanimate object. To me this comes back to the character of the person attracted to this object. There are a lot of attractive things in most people's lives and it is usually their choice to do or to not do.

John, as usual, you found an eloquent way to sum it up.

There are times when you must speak, not because you are going to change the opposing side, but because if you do not speak, they have changed you.

happygolfcartrider · ‎05-10-2013

Try cutting off one of your children after years and years of handing out $$$. They turn vicious on you and blame you for every bad thing that has ever happened to them.

Money IS the root of all evil

Don't worry, be Happy!

GCR18 · ‎07-03-2013

Love can make you blind to the obvious. You know what is happening isn't normal, but you justify it. My sister was in a verbally abusive marriage for twenty years. She probably wouldn't have left if he didn't file for divorce. It's been a year and she now is able to see what we all saw all along.