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[suzyQ3]

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@Karie2022 wrote:

I think it just depends on the person...sometimes it’s just nice to be somewhere familiar...and that’s coming from someone that moved a lot....I know as my parents age it would be hard for them to move, finding new drs, new grocery stores, all the things that go along with that would be very stressful for them...it’s just not in the cards anymore...

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@Karie2022, that's a big factor for us. We have Kaiser through my husband's retirement, and it would be impossible to match the price and the quality of care we receive. Kaiser is not nationwide.

We did moved14 years ago from suburbia where raised our daughter to our current home at the beach. just three miles from our daughter and family. It was a dream come true for me; I have always wanted to be very close to the ocean. Kaiser is available here for us.

I hope that we can stay here until it is absolutely not possible anymore. It's a two-story with other little multiple levels, though. Fingers remain crossed.

[jannabelle1]

I think for some people it's not an age issue as much as it a health issues - at least in our case. DH and I talked about retiring in a warmer climate when we reached that age, but unfortunately he started having a lot of health issues within a short period of time, e.g., minor stroke and other things. What had once seemed like something to consider, all of a sudden became out of the question for him. For us it makes no sense to move to an area where we know no one, would have to start over with finding doctors and specialists, etc. We're better off where we are, with family and the medical care we're comfortable with.  So yes, there are circumstances that can happen in a person's life that make it too late to start over somewhere.

[Sweetbay magnolia]

Yes.  We've passed it already.

I'm glad.  I like stability in my home life.  Adventure can be had in the imagination.

I have no desire to start anew, in a new place.

[Georgiagrama]

@jannabelle1

I agree with you, but that's just me.  We wanted so badly to retire to North Georgia in the mountains.  It was our dream for 40 years.  We vacationed when our children were young and always stopped and looked at areas and houses where we "were going to live." We both retired and were going to wait the suggested year before we made any major life decisions.  During that year, our oldest daughter (after three prior miscarriages) became pregnant.  We still had hopes of moving after the baby was born.  NOPE!  The very minute we laid eyes on that sweet baby we knew we weren't going anywhere.  Since that time and now 8 years later, neither of us are in good health.  We have neighborhood and church friends who help us when we need it and are always checking on us.  Great Doctors and a small town that's easy for us to get around without much traffic.   I personally don't want to become completely disabled with no friends and family around.      

[blackhole99]

The way things are today ,where the job you trained for or the education path you chose is no longer relevant, I think you need to be able to think out of the box. If that means relocating or training for a different line of work, then  so be it, unless you don't have to work for a living. Of course if you are retired and have plenty of money, you can live any where you like. My son who is 34 has worked all over the world and is now back in the states. My husband and I are retired, love where we live and are too set in our ways to follow our only son where ever he chooses to work and live.

[GCR18]

Yes, I think there's an age or time of life when it's too late to start over for many people.  My mother is 83 and she says if only she was ten years younger, she'd move.  Retirement was planned around living in the marital home. She couldn't afford to pickup and move.  Plus, she would have a hard time meeting new people.

[ALRATIBA]

It depends on you ...

First time in my life I lived alone ... I had just turned 51.  DH died and I moved into an apartment in Manhattan.

Completely started over with a new place to live  - alone - and new job.

Turned out just great.

[Georgiagrama]

@blackhole99

I wish I had chosen a job that I could have traveled. About the only job offered in "my day" for travel was an airline stewardess or the military.   Job offerings were much different when I began my working career.  What an exciting life your son must live.  Technology has certainly opened up a whole new world for the young people today.

[hsawaknow]

My dad was not a native Californian and when he retired he wanted to move to another state. I thought he was crazy when he decided to move to Idaho at 68. All that cold and snow, but thats what he wanted and he moved to Sandpoint, Idaho had a custom home built and lived happily ever after until he died of cancer at 77. 

You are never to old to start over anywhere!

[Sooner]

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@Marp wrote:

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@Sooner wrote:

IF you are moving where you have family and or friends, no.  Otherwise, why on earth move where you don't know a soul?  

If you are moving away somewhere where your kids are far away and will have to take care of you from afar, that's not fair to them.

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Because of the souls that are known?

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@Marp  Because you won't know people to have fun with, to check on you, and you may not like your new neighborhood or wish you'd bought another house or found another town and you OLD and you need a support network and it will drive your kids crazy trying to take care of you when something happens.