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[Deb1010again]

IMO it's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved. I remember the first feelings of love when I literally felt I was floating and nothing in my life compared to the love I felt for my now DH. We've been together for over 20 years and that love has deepened significantly. That initial spark has dulled a bit, but we are so loyal and devoted to one another. I can not imagine my life without him and feel so lucky to be with him.

G-d Forbid something happened to him, I'd never regret meeting and falling in love with him nor our time together. I feel badly for those who have never truly experienced unconditional love.

[JamicaJammer]

Great thread.

I had ten years of a fairytale romance with my late dh. He's been gone 15 yrs now, but I am still head-over-heels in love with him as much as ever. Will never date someone else because nobody will ever measure up to him or what we had.

Sometimes when the tears won't stop flowing because the pain of not having him here is overwhelming, I ask myself if I could turn back time, would I choose not to have loved and been loved by him, thus avoiding this pain?

Easy answer: no way. The grief and pain I'll have til my dying day will always be worth the bliss of our relationship.

[Catitude]

On 12/1/2014 Marienkaefer2 said: I disagree with that saying. Heartbreak like that can devastate and ruin a life. I think it's better to have lots of happy supportive love. There's lots of love in this life, and romantic love is not the only kind, nor is it necessary to be a happy fulfilled person. When you depend too much on.that for "real happiness" you can end up being codependent, not independent. I think society creates unreal expectations and then people are let down. Better to find happiness within yourself first. Everything else is extra.

Not being snarky but your response tells me you've never experience the kind of love the OP and others are talking about.

[Catitude]

On 12/2/2014 JamicaJammer said:

Great thread.

I had ten years of a fairytale romance with my late dh. He's been gone 15 yrs now, but I am still head-over-heels in love with him as much as ever. Will never date someone else because nobody will ever measure up to him or what we had.

Sometimes when the tears won't stop flowing because the pain of not having him here is overwhelming, I ask myself if I could turn back time, would I choose not to have loved and been loved by him, thus avoiding this pain?

Easy answer: no way. The grief and pain I'll have til my dying day will always be worth the bliss of our relationship.

((Jamica)) Hugs

[BORN AGAIN]

I would definitely rather have loved and lost than not experience it at all. I consider it a gift from heaven to love someone or a pet deeply. It stays in my heart forever

[issiestorm]

On 12/2/2014 HeartsNdiamondz said:

I would definitely rather have loved and lost than not experience it at all. I consider it a gift from heaven to love someone or a pet deeply. It stays in my heart forever

Well, a pet of course. I think however that the OP was referring to that thing called 'romantic' love. And my answer to that is No.

[qvcfreak]

On 12/2/2014 hckynut said:

minky,

Must be a gender thing because I just ain't getting it.

She is asking if it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all

Meaning - To have met someone and falling in love and being loved in return but in the end the relationship not working out and while it hurts would you rather have not met the person and avoided the pain and all that you experienced together

[jubilant]

Maybe John's thinking ....if you never loved and never lost.. than you never were alive in the first place! Is that it, John?????

[jubilant]

Didn't mean to put words in your mouth, John. I just know that is what DH would say!!

[issiestorm]

I couldn't disagree more. What is true for some isn't true for others. It takes all kinds of people to make a world. 'Never were alive in the first place' - I think that's way off. It also can be construed as very unkind and insensitive.