Community Chat

[bikerbabe]

It depends on why the love was lost. If the person betrayed you and broke your heart it might've been better not to have loved at all.

[qualitygal]

That's the high's and the low's of it.

[AngelPuppy1]

Yes, it's better to have loved and lost. If you don't get to experience real love, only half of your heart is alive. When you lose it through death or other circumstances, you feel as though your heart is physically breaking and you don't know if you can continue. It's so devastating, but after time (and it's certainly different for everyone), you find you can go on living - although your life will never be the same --- and you can remember more of the wonderful, sweet, precious times - instead of just all sadness. The memories are keepsakes locked forever in your heart. No one can ever take them away from you.

[circles]

AngelPuppy1.....you said just what I was about to...I had the love of my life for years and years...then he left me...I have never felt such pain...and thought I would never be the same.....but time....and it took a long long time...and much praying...I am fine now...

I am still friends with him...and we can talk without me falling apart...but I would never want to erase those years...we had so much fun...went to many places...shared such good times...

[lovescats]

On 12/2/2014 SmittenKitten said:

On 12/2/2014 lovescats said:

On 12/2/2014 SmittenKitten said:

On 12/1/2014 Marienkaefer2 said: I disagree with that saying. Heartbreak like that can devastate and ruin a life. I think it's better to have lots of happy supportive love. There's lots of love in this life, and romantic love is not the only kind, nor is it necessary to be a happy fulfilled person. When you depend too much on.that for "real happiness" you can end up being codependent, not independent. I think society creates unreal expectations and then people are let down. Better to find happiness within yourself first. Everything else is extra.

Not being snarky but your response tells me you've never experience the kind of love the OP and others are talking about.

I don't know how you can tell what someone has experienced when you're not aware you are being snarky.

Are you aware of the fact that I wasn't addressing you? Obviously not. You just want to snark at what you perceive as snark.

Of course I was aware you weren't addressing me. I just thought it was rude and shouldn't be left unanswered. Why would any need you telling them what they have or haven't experienced in life?

[FaLana]

This is an interesting thread.

If someone never had a child, they wouldn't be able to comprehend what that kind of love is like. Should people fear or never dare to have a child because of the pain that might be associated with losing that child? I don't think so.

If someone never had a beloved pet, that love and bond they feel for their animal could never be explained to someone who hasn't experienced it and should you not risk loving an animal for the fear of knowing that you would only be blessed with 10-15 years of companionship and devotion?

It's the same with romantic love. If you've never experienced it, it's easy to dismiss it and say that you don't agree with the OP's quote.

[apple1964]

Yes, good relationships or not we only go around once in life. I am glad Susan Boyle will finally experience it.

[VioletEyes]

Yes, I would never wish to have not met my first love who died of a brain tumor before we were able to get married. I still remember the good times and although I am now happily married to the same wonderful man, I still think of his shortened life and how cruel it was that he was taken so very young.

We are a product of all the experiences that we have had in life...good and bad. We can let them break us or we can go on and live life as best we can with bittersweet memories of a time gone by.

[raspberrygal]

I have two people in my family who have lost at love and both of them (males) are still carrying a torch for their missed love. One is divorced and has never remarried (50 yrs. old). The other has a live in girlfriend whom he has no present plans for marrying because his engagement to another fell through about five years ago. Such tragedies.