@Laura14 wrote:
And then pass it over when you get connected like you're his secretary?
Quite a few times now at work, I have gotten a phone call from a woman who then passes the phone to her husband to talk to me.
Can he not dial himself? You don't even have to push buttons these days. You can just speak.
It seems to be older couples and maybe this was a thing back in the day but I find it very strange and frankly demeaning to the woman. Not many things annoy the heck out of me these days but this one does. I don't like it when someone is seemingly mistreated in front of me.
Just wondering if anyone else has encountered this and maybe I'm missing something. I really don't get the deference.
I wouldn't judge, as there are many people who regardless of age, may need help with things we take for granted as easy to do.
Could be sight issues, could be lack of dexterity with small phone buttons, could be some confusion with being able to handle the automated systems and choosing which options, could be any number of things that for some people, aren't as easy as it is for others.
Could even be as noted, a wife doing the ground work, not necessarily out of servitude, but out of love and respect and just liking to help out their spouse.
I do tire of people who find fault with women who actually don't mind doing for others, including the men in their lives. It isn't demeaning to do for others, assist others, and even enjoy doing so. Many people do things out of love and respect for each other, either inside or outside what is/was considered 'gender appropriate'.
My mother used to scrape the windshield and warm up the car for my dad who was a third shift police officer when they were first married. She knew he would be out walking a beat in the cold all night, and honored him by giving him a warm start to his work day. And horrors of all horrors, she would shine his shoes every day as he slept between his regular police work, and his second job as a security officer in a department store. It was again, her way to support his hard work and dedication to his family.
My father, after he was retired for health reasons, even though he was very ill, cooked dinner and did the dishes for my mom while she worked and earned a living for the family.
Their relationship was based on love and honor and doing anything they could to support, encourage, and help the other.
With no insight into their individual circumstances, what these couples do for each other and the details of their relationship, I feel you are projecting things that may or may not be there, and there is no value in doing so. It only serves to make one look judgmental and shallow.
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